> -----Original Message----- > From: Scott Stewart [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] > Sent: Saturday, August 11, 2007 10:10 AM > To: CF-Community > Subject: althzheimers...what to do? > > My father was diagnosed with Althzheimer's about a month ago, with the > move, > I'm only beginning to deal with this.
So is he. It's going to be harder as time goes on so now's the time to talk to him and make sure you know what he wants. > What the fuck do I do. He is (was?) a brilliant man, one of the > original > computer programmers within the Federal Government. It sounds trite, but the same thing you always did. If you have any baggage you don't want to carry around later get it out now. As a smart man I'm sure that he would want to know, now, that things are well in hand. That money and medical issues are discussed and understood and that all the basics are covered. > Is it warped of me to wish that he passes away before it get's too far > along. I don't want the grandkids to see him in the disease's worst > states. I don't think so. My grandfather isn't doing well and I've had these thoughts. In his case his mind is perfect (a little forgetful) but he's effectively deaf (due to shingles which broke his ear drums), macular degeneration has all but taken his sight and arthritis means he can't feel anything with his hands. The point isn't that you want somebody to die, it's more like you don't want to see somebody you love replaced with somebody they'd be ashamed of. There's also going to be a selfishness (it would be easier for you if...) but that's nothing to be ashamed of. Jim Davis ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~| Get involved in the latest ColdFusion discussions, product development sharing, and articles on the Adobe Labs wiki. http://labs/adobe.com/wiki/index.php/ColdFusion_8 Archive: http://www.houseoffusion.com/groups/CF-Community/message.cfm/messageid:240035 Subscription: http://www.houseoffusion.com/groups/CF-Community/subscribe.cfm Unsubscribe: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/unsubscribe.cfm?user=89.70.5
