So good to see you post, Amanda, and to hear that you are doing better. I've been thinking about you a lot and worried too. Thanks so much for checking in and letting us know.
hugs... mj On Jan 26, 2011, at 8:51 AM, amanda christopher wrote: thank you all for your love and support. Im doing better now and Im moving forward, slowly but surely. Have A Beautiful Day, Each And Every Day! --- On Wed, 1/26/11, flopo <[email protected]> wrote: From: flopo <[email protected]> Subject: Re: [Chihuahuas] OT Need Advice To: [email protected] Date: Wednesday, January 26, 2011, 1:52 AM Seven years into my marriage, the man of my dreams, (I moved 3000 miles to be with), cheated on me. When I found out, he didn't care, she would even call him while he was sitting on the sofa next to me. At first I acted like a fool, half ass attempted to kill myself, did the begging, etc. Then after a couple of months of Hell, told him to go ahead, leave do whatever. Then he didn't want to go. Oh brother. He had received and income tax refund and had plenty of money to move out if he wanted to, but for what ever reason, he didn't. Not long after that he decided I guess, the grass in NEVER greener on the other side. After a few months he realized eventually everything is the same after the excitement wears off. Well anyway, we did reconcile, and even though he was a complete jerk at the time, he did a 180. That was five years ago, and I swear, I think he's trying to spend the rest of his life trying to make it up to me. It changed me fundamentally forever, I don't believe in that "true love" business anymore, (except with my chis), but I can tell you, we have a much better relationship now than we ever had before. I can almost bet you, you haven't seen the last of them. I think a lot of them try to come back once they've figured things out and realize things aren't any better or different with someone new. You just have to decide what your going to do when that time comes. I think the decision will ultimately be yours. Men always screw things up, so don't look for reasons to blame yourself. They also lie, he may have told you things, that aren't necessarily true, (i.e. Consolation prize), just so you wouldn't try to stop him. Decide what you want for yourself and you can have a good life with or without him. You'll be in my prayers, Pam flopo -------Original Message------- From: amanda christopher Date: 24/01/2011 10:49:35 AM To: [email protected] Subject: [Chihuahuas] OT Need Advice My husband of over six years left for good last night. Rented a car and packed it tight, took his puppy and moved to Michigan to be with another woman. I'm so numb right now Im unsure what to do. I havent been on in several days and the reason is, when he told me it was over I tried to overdose and had to be admitted to the hospital. I got out saturday night.I hadnt even gotten to the car when he told me he was leaving the next day. He tells me he loves me and cares for me but he has to see what is between him and her. They dated for two years and broke up eight years ago. He claims he thought she was dead and after learning differently he has to see if they are in the past or still in love. He said that after seven years together he had grown to love me but that I had been a consolation prize because he couldnt have her. He tells me to wait for him, that he may come back to me one day. Im a fool of course because I will probably wait forever. Im so scared, Im not sure how to go on. He controlled and handled everything. I have no income, Im trying to get my disabilty. My mother and stepfather live across the hall. Its a duplex and the deed is in my name. They say they will handle the bills, theyve been paying them for awhile now anyway. Im so lost at least I have my chis. He also left his foxhound. Nine years old the poor thing seems lost as well. I just need you to know whats going on in my life. You guys online are my only friends. . Stationery by Cloudeight, Art by ©Peter R. Gerbert. Click here for more.
