Amanda, Remove him from your facebook - delete him. He is not going to marry this girl and if he does they deserve each other. Get legal advice asap - since you are disabled he will have to pay for the attorney and alimony. Does he have you on his health care insurance if so you need to make sure that you get a court order that he keeps you on. You need to talk to someone that will tell you your rights and what you need to do to protect yourself. If you have a joint savings account take your half out right now - I made that mistake of not doing that -- but he had to pay me back with interest. Make a list of all the things you need to do. Do you have a close girlfriend or someone that has gone through a divorce that can walk you through it. Is your Dad being a support to you? I so know how you feel, like you have been replaced and what is wrong with me.... well just to let you know nothing is wrong with you, this is his issue. I forgave my husband the first time, but when it was my best friend their was no way I could. It stripped me of everything I thought was real in life. Also, I highly recommend therapy or a divorce support group. When you are around people that are going through the exact thing you are its a huge help. Hang in there honey, I know this is hard to believe but you will be happy again and you will find out that it was meant to be.... I promise :) But it takes time to heal and it takes work. Sometimes you have to force yourself to get up and get dressed and get out of the house or invite a friend over. I also read lots of books, so if you have a library close by use it. I hope some of this has helped. My heart is sad for you, but glad that you found out now. Just do not stop loving yourself, make a list of all the things about you that are wonderful and read it each day!!!!! Hugs and more Hugs Nancy
When you are gifted... give; when you learn... teach Nancy, Abbey-Rose and Maggie-Mae --- On Wed, 1/26/11, amanda christopher <[email protected]> wrote: From: amanda christopher <[email protected]> Subject: Re: [Chihuahuas] OT Need Advice To: [email protected] Date: Wednesday, January 26, 2011, 1:58 PM I trust the group Amanda Christopher 822 west south street mayfield ky 42066 270-908-5572 Anyone who wants to call or write feel free. Today has been rough for me. I saw on his facebook that he has changed his status from married to me to engaged to her. ENGAGED after only three days away! Talk about moving on quickly. Its like I never existed. Have A Beautiful Day, Each And Every Day! --- On Wed, 1/26/11, Nancy Lucky <[email protected]> wrote: From: Nancy Lucky <[email protected]> Subject: Re: [Chihuahuas] OT Need Advice To: [email protected] Date: Wednesday, January 26, 2011, 3:36 PM Amanda - please send your address if you do not mind, Nan When you are gifted... give; when you learn... teach Nancy, Abbey-Rose and Maggie-Mae --- On Wed, 1/26/11, maryjane turner <[email protected]> wrote: From: maryjane turner <[email protected]> Subject: Re: [Chihuahuas] OT Need Advice To: [email protected] Date: Wednesday, January 26, 2011, 12:05 PM So good to see you post, Amanda, and to hear that you are doing better. I've been thinking about you a lot and worried too. Thanks so much for checking in and letting us know. hugs... mj On Jan 26, 2011, at 8:51 AM, amanda christopher wrote: thank you all for your love and support. Im doing better now and Im moving forward, slowly but surely. Have A Beautiful Day, Each And Every Day! --- On Wed, 1/26/11, flopo <[email protected]> wrote: From: flopo <[email protected]> Subject: Re: [Chihuahuas] OT Need Advice To: [email protected] Date: Wednesday, January 26, 2011, 1:52 AM Seven years into my marriage, the man of my dreams, (I moved 3000 miles to be with), cheated on me. When I found out, he didn't care, she would even call him while he was sitting on the sofa next to me. At first I acted like a fool, half ass attempted to kill myself, did the begging, etc. Then after a couple of months of Hell, told him to go ahead, leave do whatever. Then he didn't want to go. Oh brother. He had received and income tax refund and had plenty of money to move out if he wanted to, but for what ever reason, he didn't. Not long after that he decided I guess, the grass in NEVER greener on the other side. After a few months he realized eventually everything is the same after the excitement wears off. Well anyway, we did reconcile, and even though he was a complete jerk at the time, he did a 180. That was five years ago, and I swear, I think he's trying to spend the rest of his life trying to make it up to me. It changed me fundamentally forever, I don't believe in that "true love" business anymore, (except with my chis), but I can tell you, we have a much better relationship now than we ever had before. I can almost bet you, you haven't seen the last of them. I think a lot of them try to come back once they've figured things out and realize things aren't any better or different with someone new. You just have to decide what your going to do when that time comes. I think the decision will ultimately be yours. Men always screw things up, so don't look for reasons to blame yourself. They also lie, he may have told you things, that aren't necessarily true, (i.e. Consolation prize), just so you wouldn't try to stop him. Decide what you want for yourself and you can have a good life with or without him. You'll be in my prayers, Pam flopo -------Original Message------- From: amanda christopher Date: 24/01/2011 10:49:35 AM To: [email protected] Subject: [Chihuahuas] OT Need Advice My husband of over six years left for good last night. Rented a car and packed it tight, took his puppy and moved to Michigan to be with another woman. I'm so numb right now Im unsure what to do. I havent been on in several days and the reason is, when he told me it was over I tried to overdose and had to be admitted to the hospital. I got out saturday night.I hadnt even gotten to the car when he told me he was leaving the next day. He tells me he loves me and cares for me but he has to see what is between him and her. They dated for two years and broke up eight years ago. He claims he thought she was dead and after learning differently he has to see if they are in the past or still in love. He said that after seven years together he had grown to love me but that I had been a consolation prize because he couldnt have her. He tells me to wait for him, that he may come back to me one day. Im a fool of course because I will probably wait forever. Im so scared, Im not sure how to go on. He controlled and handled everything. I have no income, Im trying to get my disabilty. My mother and stepfather live across the hall. Its a duplex and the deed is in my name. They say they will handle the bills, theyve been paying them for awhile now anyway. Im so lost at least I have my chis. He also left his foxhound. Nine years old the poor thing seems lost as well. I just need you to know whats going on in my life. You guys online are my only friends. . Stationery by Cloudeight, Art by ©Peter R. Gerbert. Click here for more.
