--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "raunchydog" <raunchy...@...> wrote: > > Edg, Thanks for sharing what fatherhood means to you. > Beautiful. You are a fortunate man to have allowed > yourself the experience of a profoundly loving > relationship with your children at their birth. > Very touching.
I'll admit to having read the following 14 lines, mainly because I was curious as to what would impress a Raunchydog. And I'll give both Raunchy and Edg my honest opinion. It's *exactly the same kind of language* you hear from Dads hauled into court for child or spousal abuse. Ask Dr. Pete or Marek. *Every one of them* can trot out stuff like this. As well they should. They've practiced it often, every time they've had to try to talk their wives out of divorcing them. IMO it's a form of "channeling." Ashamed of not being able to control their lower emotions, they think that they can somehow justify them by, for a short period of time, channeling a "higher" emotion to paint themselves as sympathetic and merely misunderstood. I don't buy it. I suspect that Edg writes this way about his kids because they won't have anything to do with him, and writing about them like this is the closest he can get to them. We've all seen how he lashes out at anyone who doesn't buy his act here on FFL; can we imagine that he'd be any different in a family situation? I might be wrong about this, but that's how the following paragraph strikes me. I'm helping to raise a new baby myself, the daughter of my best friend. And it's really neat. But so far I haven't felt the need to write about it here to show how sensitive and loving *I* am. Like the child abuser waxing poetic about how much he loves the kid covered with bruises, such language tends to ring a little false and self-serving. But hey!, Raunchy...if you like it, cool. Me, I just have higher standards when it comes to writing, and to people. The word that stands out for me in the paragraph below is "narcissist." The entire paragraph is about how his kids made *Edg* feel, not about the kids themselves. It's the "I love my kids because they make *me* feel special" counterpart of "I'm enlightened because believing I am makes *me* feel special." That's probably why Jim liked it, too. That and the fact that it was dumping on Barry. :-) > "Every child of mine was entirely unique, and this was > clear to me instantly when each one took the very first > breath. I cut their cords. I whispered into tiny ears > my cosmic love pouring from a heart newly aflame, a > heart bursting to unexpected heights. My whole being > flowed into their every possible future and blessed it. > I could not kiss them enough, could not hug them as > tenderly as their preciousness deserved, could not tear > my mind from the perfection of their potentials. I who > am a narcissist, a Leo, had my rock-heart melted by the > first glance when their eyes opened to see my face for > the first time. The world could never be the same, I > was theirs forever, and I loved the challenge it > presented to me -- down to its quarks."
