--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, TurquoiseB <no_re...@...> wrote: > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "raunchydog" <raunchydog@> wrote: > > > > Edg, Thanks for sharing what fatherhood means to you. > > Beautiful. You are a fortunate man to have allowed > > yourself the experience of a profoundly loving > > relationship with your children at their birth. > > Very touching. > > I'll admit to having read the following 14 lines, > mainly because I was curious as to what would > impress a Raunchydog. And I'll give both Raunchy > and Edg my honest opinion. > > It's *exactly the same kind of language* you hear > from Dads hauled into court for child or spousal > abuse. Ask Dr. Pete or Marek. > > *Every one of them* can trot out stuff like this. > As well they should. They've practiced it often, > every time they've had to try to talk their wives > out of divorcing them. > > IMO it's a form of "channeling." Ashamed of not > being able to control their lower emotions, they > think that they can somehow justify them by, for > a short period of time, channeling a "higher" > emotion to paint themselves as sympathetic and > merely misunderstood. > > I don't buy it. I suspect that Edg writes this > way about his kids because they won't have anything > to do with him, and writing about them like this > is the closest he can get to them. We've all seen > how he lashes out at anyone who doesn't buy his > act here on FFL; can we imagine that he'd be any > different in a family situation? > > I might be wrong about this, but that's how the > following paragraph strikes me. I'm helping to > raise a new baby myself, the daughter of my best > friend. And it's really neat. But so far I haven't > felt the need to write about it here to show how > sensitive and loving *I* am. Like the child abuser > waxing poetic about how much he loves the kid > covered with bruises, such language tends to > ring a little false and self-serving.
Barry, I think it's great you are helping to raise a baby. It's a beautiful experience. How do you feel about it? Share. > But hey!, Raunchy...if you like it, cool. Me, I > just have higher standards when it comes to > writing, and to people. The word that stands out > for me in the paragraph below is "narcissist." The > entire paragraph is about how his kids made *Edg* > feel, not about the kids themselves. > > It's the "I love my kids because they make *me* > feel special" counterpart of "I'm enlightened > because believing I am makes *me* feel special." > That's probably why Jim liked it, too. That and > the fact that it was dumping on Barry. :-) > > > > "Every child of mine was entirely unique, and this was > > clear to me instantly when each one took the very first > > breath. I cut their cords. I whispered into tiny ears > > my cosmic love pouring from a heart newly aflame, a > > heart bursting to unexpected heights. My whole being > > flowed into their every possible future and blessed it. > > I could not kiss them enough, could not hug them as > > tenderly as their preciousness deserved, could not tear > > my mind from the perfection of their potentials. I who > > am a narcissist, a Leo, had my rock-heart melted by the > > first glance when their eyes opened to see my face for > > the first time. The world could never be the same, I > > was theirs forever, and I loved the challenge it > > presented to me -- down to its quarks." >
