Judy, I misinterpreted the association with "What Lola Wants Lola Gets". Steve was not mocking Bob. I apologize to all. Maybe my post can serve (we will never know) a preemptive function here. I just felt the shock of experiencing someone who had *entirely eliminated the sense of pride* in his apology. I evidently drew too precipitately the conclusion that Steve was implying something (by the reference to Lola) that I felt ignored shamefully the real significance of Bob's post. This morning I can't even find exactly what it was which made me misinterpret Steve. Nevertheless, as I am sure you know, there will be persons known to yourself who will not like Bob having done what he did. And, as I say, perhaps my post will deter these good people from acting like hungry jackals.
--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "authfriend" <jstein@...> wrote: > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, maskedzebra <no_reply@> wrote: > > > > Dear Bob Price, > > > > There will be (as evidenced already) persons at FFL who will > > not like this apology. Not because of the way you have > > expressed yourself, but because of to whom it is addressed. > > Evidenced already? Not that I've seen. > > I agree, it was a lovely apology. > > And thanks also for the kind words... > > > > Now I happen to appreciate the clarity and impartiality in most of what > > Judy writes; and certainly there is no one here on FFL who, in some formal > > sense at least, is a better writer than she is. > > > > But what I wish to draw attention to is what this post reveals about the > > person that you are. I doubt there are very many readers and posters at FFL > > who can imagine themselves under any circumstance writing with this kind of > > humility, sincerity, and intelligencethat is, inside the context of > > expiating for some self-judged wrong against another person. Did I know > > nothing about you; did I know nothing about the person to whom you are > > speaking, I would nevertheless admireeven lovethe person who was capable > > of exhibiting such bright and intelligent feeling. What strikes me most in > > this post is the disarming boldness and coherence with which you make your > > appeal. There is not a touch of sentimentality or self-confusion here. I > > think it quite an extraordinary proof of the depth of personality and > > powers of self-command that you possess. > > > > I should have anticipated the response, which instead of catching at what I > > am trying to describe, focuses on the object of your apology. Even the fact > > of how you come across herein the way in which I have interpreted yousays > > something positive about Judy. Because had it not been appropriateor > > somehow excessivefor you to write in this way to herthen your post would > > have suffered from its very ambition: namely to do justice to another human > > being. > > > > That Judy could bring this out from within you, is a measure of who she is > > as a person. But what imperially forces me to speak here is my sense of who > > the person must be who was capable of putting themselves in the position > > you have and then finding the grace to write what cannot be misunderstood, > > what seems to almost perfectly fulfil its very real intention. >
