--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "curtisdeltablues" <curtisdeltablues@...> wrote: > > > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "authfriend" <jstein@> wrote: > > > > OK, I do have to intervene at this point to deal with > > some comments made about me. > > > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "curtisdeltablues" > > <curtisdeltablues@> wrote: > > > > > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, maskedzebra <no_reply@> wrote: > > > > > > <terasnip> > > > Still, what you insist is the case with Judy, that does seem > > > interesting to me. Even as your friend Barry insults her in the > > > bitterest and most scathing (and, I believe prejudiced and > > > unwarranted) ways. Me, if I have a friendship with someone and > > > I notice they are being unfair and hateful—and usually > > > ridiculous—in their behaviour towards someone else (who I hold > > > in very different terms), then I feel forced to say something > > > to my friend [Barry]. > > > > > > ME:Hang around a bit and you will see why I feel that it is > > > not so lopsided. This is an actual feud and neither side is > > > blameless. > > > > Curtis has said many times that he doesn't read my > > exchanges with Barry. That's OK, but on that basis > > he is not in a position to remark on the balance of > > blame. > > ME: Judy I never claimed never to have read them. > You guys are kind of prolific and a bit repetitive. > I have read plenty to evaluate them.
Actually your comments on them, including in this post, demonstrate that you haven't read nearly enough. > I avoid them because they are kind of mean on both > sides. And here's an example: They're always mean on Barry's side. But not on mine. Moreover, many of his mean posts about me and others *are addressed to you*. If I say something negative to you about Barry, you usually defend him. If he says something negative to you about me, you almost always just ignore it. > > I don't claim to be "blameless," but I utterly reject > > the notion that blame in the Barry-Judy situation is > > anything but *hugely* lopsided. > > ME: And predictibly he feels the opposite I'll bet. That > is the nature of feuds. He will *say* it's the opposite. I'm quite sure he knows better. And so would you if you'd read enough of our posts. > > Just for one thing, if one were to read my posts that > > comment on Barry's, one would find that a significant > > number of them--I'd guess at least 50 percent--are not > > simply insults; quite a few are not insulting at all. > > Rather, they involve reasoned, noninflammatory analysis > > of points that Barry has made. > > ME: And often in demeaning language that is pretty much > guarenteed to continue the ill will. And there's another example demonstrating that you haven't read enough to say. Heck, you didn't even read what *I* just said. "Reasoned, noninflammatory analysis" is the opposite of "demeaning." And then there's this: > > That is never the case with Barry's posts that have > > to do with me. Barry's posts having to do with me are *always* demeaning. > > There are other lopsided elements as well. I don't > > *make up* stuff about Barry, for instance. And this. <snip> > > But it would be very interesting to see what bed Curtis > > would make with Barry were he to land on Barry's shit > > list and be subject to the same treatment Barry gives to > > the others on that list. Curtis might not be quite so > > sanguine about the availability of "other choices." > > ME: There are examples. Jim and I This isn't an example that relates to what I just wrote. <snip> > And I am not even advocating that you do change your pattern > with Barry.. You both seem to enjoy it I don't. There's nothing enjoyable about interacting with Barry when one is on his "enemies" list. > so I get it, that this is none of my business. I was just > giving my opinion to Robin that the Tango rule is in full > force here. And I'm pointing out why your opinion is way off-base. <snip> > I don't understand why you feel you need anyone to intervene I don't "need" anyone to intervene. I simply point out that you don't intervene, on my behalf or anybody else's. That's your choice. It isn't a choice I respect.
