OK, so lets summarize. 1. Its a college orchestra 2. His remarks aren't loud enough for the conductor to hear them in rehearsal 3. He is annoying & upsetting you 4. You lack the power to fire him, and nobody else is going to. In other words, you are stuck with him 5. He's acting like a child & getting away with it.
They key item here is #3. If that stopped the rest wouldn't matter. Therefore, you have to make it clear to him that his remarks are his problem, not yours. He is getting fun out of upsetting you, and he is unaware of any negative consequences for himself. This has to change. Make it clear to him that his remarks don't bother you, but they are unprofessional and anybody who hears them (yourself or anybody else who overhears them) is unlikely to voluntarily be in the same ensemble as him. That means he is managing to alienate many future professional colleagues who might otherwise call on him for a freelance gig. This is bad for his future career. There are already far too many musicians for the jobs available, and the last thing a musician needs is any reason for others not to want hire him. Make it clear that this is his problem, not yours. If necessary, ask a member of staff to reinforce the message. If he persists, ignore him, intensively and with great concentration. Regards Jonathan West _______________________________________________ post: horn@music.memphis.edu unsubscribe or set options at http://music2.memphis.edu/mailman/options/horn/archive%40jab.org
