Sybil said: <<My grandmother was a racist, but she was also an unfailingly polite Southern lady - maybe it's about keeping the dirty laundry hidden, I don't know.>>
As a fellow Suthener, I think you've hit the nail on the head. I also intuit, somehow, there's more forgiveness, among those same "polite" Southerners, for being queer than there is for being any of the *other* outsider groups, like "colored" or maybe even "Yankee" - perhaps because most of the "Old South" women of my mother's age group all knew of someone in their own family tree who was queer, so there's a sort of "forced" forgiveness. On the other (and scarier!) hand, that "politeness" that was very much a part of the Old South seems to be going the way of hoop skirts and cotillions. Just my 2 cents. Cindy ********* And Mack - My thoughts continue to be with you as you face this uncertainty. Let me know if I can do anything.... C
