So what would you suggest that I call reports and charts that show my adopted child? My child was abandoned shortly after birth by persons unknown. He is my child through love and law. What would it say to him, what would it do to him emotionally if I omit him from my family in charts and reports? The law treats him as my descendant.
I am not trying to be argumentative here. This is a subject that comes up on this and other lists not infrequently. It is a serious subject. Loving adoptive parents refuse to hurt their children by not showing them as such. Some genealogists assert that said adoptive parents are being deceptive by so showing them on charts. So, since it is unlikely that adoptive parents will change their practices, what should we call our charts? What about a chart that has 99.9% people related by blood, and one person who is adopted? Are you seriously suggesting that instead of calling a chart "Descendants of John Q. Ancestor" I call it "Social Relationships of John Q. Ancestor"? Will I be deceptive if I call it "Family Relationships of John Q. Ancestor?" Of course, those I send such a report to won't know what in blazes I am talking about. Sara On 10/5/07, [EMAIL PROTECTED] <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > Sara, > > Note I said nothing about entering non blood-related people into your > software, be it spouses, adoptees, or whatever. It is how you treat > them after they are entered that makes the difference between a > genealogist and a family historian. > > My point is that non blood-related individuals should not be shown as > ancestors and/or descendants in ancestor/descendat charts or reports as > doing so makes such reports something other than what they are named. > If you call it social relationships or whatever is fine. > > As to how you describe your research depends on how you treat it. > > > -----Original Message----- > From: Sara Binkley Tarpley <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > To: LegacyUserGroup@legacyfamilytree.com > Sent: Fri, 5 Oct 2007 5:38 pm > Subject: Re: [LegacyUG] Is Anybody There?... same sex relationships > > > > Does that mean that if a married couple has no children, the spouse > should be omitted from charts and reports [unless the spouse is a > cousin]? > > I guess I am proudly not a genealogist then because there is no way > that I would omit my adopted child from my software [noting > appropriately that he is adopted]. Unfortunately, to the best of my > knowledge, there is no software just for family history. I thought > that Legacy and other popular software was adaptable for both > genealogy and family history. > > So, if I am not a genealogist, then how do I describe the bulk of my > research, which does deal with bloodlines [as far as we know them and > subject to the errors that we are all unaware of]? > > Sara > > On 10/5/07, [EMAIL PROTECTED] <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > > > > > If you believe that non blood-related individuals should be shown in > > ancestor and/or descendant charts and/or reports then you are not a > > genealogist-period. > > > > > > > > > > -----Original Message----- > > From: marilyn E B <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > > To: LegacyUserGroup@legacyfamilytree.com > > Sent: Fri, 5 Oct 2007 3:50 pm > > Subject: Re: [LegacyUG] Is Anybody There?... same sex relationships > > > > > > > > Why can you not do both? > > > > Marilyn > > > > On 10/5/07, [EMAIL PROTECTED] <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > > Mike, > > > > > > Then I am a fourth group. > > > > > > I do NOT believe same-sex relationships are an abomination but DO > > > believe that they should not be shown in a genealogical > presentation ( > > > as opposed to a family History presentation). > > > > > > There is nothing wrong with doing family history, as long as you > > > realize that that is what you are doing and not deceiving yourself > > into > > > believing you are doing genealogy. > > > > > > The reverse is also true. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Legacy User Group guidelines: > > http://www.LegacyFamilyTree.com/Etiquette.asp > > Archived messages: > > http://www.mail-archive.com/legacyusergroup@legacyfamilytree.com/ > > Online technical support: http://www.LegacyFamilyTree.com/Help.asp > > To unsubscribe: http://www.LegacyFamilyTree.com/LegacyLists.asp > > > > > > > > > > > ________________________________________________________________________ > > Check Out the new free AIM(R) Mail -- Unlimited storage and > > industry-leading spam and email virus protection. > > > > > > > > Legacy User Group guidelines: > > http://www.LegacyFamilyTree.com/Etiquette.asp > > Archived messages: > > http://www.mail-archive.com/legacyusergroup@legacyfamilytree.com/ > > Online technical support: http://www.LegacyFamilyTree.com/Help.asp > > To unsubscribe: http://www.LegacyFamilyTree.com/LegacyLists.asp > > > > > > > > > > Legacy User Group guidelines: > http://www.LegacyFamilyTree.com/Etiquette.asp > Archived messages: > http://www.mail-archive.com/legacyusergroup@legacyfamilytree.com/ > Online technical support: http://www.LegacyFamilyTree.com/Help.asp > To unsubscribe: http://www.LegacyFamilyTree.com/LegacyLists.asp > > > > > ________________________________________________________________________ > Check Out the new free AIM(R) Mail -- Unlimited storage and > industry-leading spam and email virus protection. > > > > Legacy User Group guidelines: > http://www.LegacyFamilyTree.com/Etiquette.asp > Archived messages: > http://www.mail-archive.com/legacyusergroup@legacyfamilytree.com/ > Online technical support: http://www.LegacyFamilyTree.com/Help.asp > To unsubscribe: http://www.LegacyFamilyTree.com/LegacyLists.asp > > > Legacy User Group guidelines: http://www.LegacyFamilyTree.com/Etiquette.asp Archived messages: http://www.mail-archive.com/legacyusergroup@legacyfamilytree.com/ Online technical support: http://www.LegacyFamilyTree.com/Help.asp To unsubscribe: http://www.LegacyFamilyTree.com/LegacyLists.asp
