Re: [AI] Finding a Dating Partner

2017-01-18 Thread Sahil Garg 
Ahaan!!


Actually its not like making profile and finding match.

I was amazed that I never thought of this.. and why?

It was good to read discussion on this matter.. light and crispy!!



On Wed, Jan 18, 2017 at 8:06 PM, Pranav Lal <pranav@gmail.com> wrote:

> So far, the crowd has been ok. You need to fill your profile to get a good
> match.
>
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> Thanks Pranav. Just 1 question - I am wondering what kind of crowd you have
> found on OkCupid in particularly.  My only concern is that many of these
> apps
> contain only busybodies and weirdos. While this is a problem for everyone,
> it is
> more so for us because of our unique vulnerability.
>
> Best,
> Rahul
>
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> > On Jan 16, 2017, at 7:09 AM, Pranav Lal <pranav@gmail.com> wrote:
> >
> > In terms of  websites:
> > Okcupid is usable.
> > Also try: https://footloosenomore.com/ They are sort of familiar with
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Re: [AI] Finding a Dating Partner

2017-01-18 Thread Pranav Lal 
So far, the crowd has been ok. You need to fill your profile to get a good
match.

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Sent: Tuesday, January 17, 2017 8:00 PM
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Subject: Re: [AI] Finding a Dating Partner

Thanks Pranav. Just 1 question - I am wondering what kind of crowd you have
found on OkCupid in particularly.  My only concern is that many of these apps
contain only busybodies and weirdos. While this is a problem for everyone, it is
more so for us because of our unique vulnerability.

Best,
Rahul 

Sent from my iPhone

> On Jan 16, 2017, at 7:09 AM, Pranav Lal <pranav@gmail.com> wrote:
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> disability and do not have a problem.
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Re: [AI] Finding a Dating Partner

2017-01-18 Thread Sahil Garg 
Hey!!


What a nice subject line which forced me to write here!! Otherwise We only
 discuss serious issues of life,accessibility, jobs etc..

I am working as Officer in State Bank of India but never thought of dating
someone. In college even I kept myself busy in surfing internet to learn
more, to fulfill my dream of successful entrepreneur. Later on I started
facing difficulties and land up with a govt job.  Truly saying I tried date
girl in college but didn't find success to convert it in to some long/good
relation.

Sometime I think Its really hard to manage myself so how can I manage a
person more in my life and vice versa. So I don't waste time thinking the
same. Moreover talking over the phone is very vague because end result is
nothing

Whatever, Very Interesting and Confusing topic raised by Rahul !! :P


Sahil Garg

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On Wed, Jan 18, 2017 at 10:13 AM, Kanchan Pamnani <kanchanpamn...@gmail.com>
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> Rahul,
> You have been working in Delhi for a long time-
> 1. Ask your colleagues out. All dates don't have to be romantic and candle
> lit but can be fun dates-just dinner and good conversation. Ask your former
> colleagues as it will serve a dual purpose.
> 2. This will teach you how to choose the venue, escort your companion,  ,
> order the right meal and payment of the bill.
> 3. All dates don't land in bed nor do they all end with a kiss or even
> holding hands. So don't get too aggressive or disappointed.
> Best wishes
> Kanchan
>
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> Sent: 17 January 2017 20:00
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> Subject: Re: [AI] Finding a Dating Partner
>
> Thanks Pranav. Just 1 question - I am wondering what kind of crowd you have
> found on OkCupid in particularly.  My only concern is that many of these
> apps  contain only busybodies and weirdos. While this is a problem for
> everyone, it is more so for us because of our unique vulnerability.
>
> Best,
> Rahul
>
> Sent from my iPhone
>
> > On Jan 16, 2017, at 7:09 AM, Pranav Lal <pranav@gmail.com> wrote:
> >
> > In terms of  websites:
> > Okcupid is usable.
> > Also try: https://footloosenomore.com/ They are sort of familiar with
> > disability and do not have a problem.
> >
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Re: [AI] Finding a Dating Partner

2017-01-17 Thread Kanchan Pamnani 
Rahul, 
You have been working in Delhi for a long time-
1. Ask your colleagues out. All dates don't have to be romantic and candle
lit but can be fun dates-just dinner and good conversation. Ask your former
colleagues as it will serve a dual purpose.  
2. This will teach you how to choose the venue, escort your companion,  ,
order the right meal and payment of the bill. 
3. All dates don't land in bed nor do they all end with a kiss or even
holding hands. So don't get too aggressive or disappointed.
Best wishes 
Kanchan   

-Original Message-
From: AccessIndia [mailto:accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in] On Behalf
Of Rahul Bajaj
Sent: 17 January 2017 20:00
To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning
the disabled.
Subject: Re: [AI] Finding a Dating Partner

Thanks Pranav. Just 1 question - I am wondering what kind of crowd you have
found on OkCupid in particularly.  My only concern is that many of these
apps  contain only busybodies and weirdos. While this is a problem for
everyone, it is more so for us because of our unique vulnerability.

Best,
Rahul 

Sent from my iPhone

> On Jan 16, 2017, at 7:09 AM, Pranav Lal <pranav@gmail.com> wrote:
> 
> In terms of  websites:
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> disability and do not have a problem.
> 
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Re: [AI] Finding a Dating Partner

2017-01-17 Thread Shireen Irani 
hi,

if you have a sighted friend who won't mind registering, and going
along with you to those gatherings, that might reduce your awkwardness
with a room full of strangers. it usually does help to an extent. i
think the awkwardness itself comes from being alone among all those
sighted pairs of eyes.
so take a friend, but not 1 who might be out to steal your thunder, or
your dates!
smiles.

good luck.

On 1/17/17, Rahul Bajaj  wrote:
> Hi Shirin,
>
> Thank you so much for your thoughtful and detailed response; these are
> precisely the kind of insights that I was  looking for.
> I will definitely check out the resources that you have shared. The second
> one definitely seems worth trying. The only problem is that I am not very
> comfortable in a room full of strangers -- aa problem which is further
> exacerbated by my disability.
> Your tips are very helpful.  I particularly agree with your points about not
> dating a stranger straightaway and widening one's social circle to find a
> partner. I am definitely working on all these areas and will keep your
> suggestions in mind.
>
> Best,
> Rahul
>
> Sent from my iPhone
>
>> On Jan 15, 2017, at 8:04 PM, Shireen Irani  wrote:
>>
>> hi Rahul,
>>
>> here are some resources and a few tips that might help/ interest you.
>>
>> i paste below, links for 2 websites/ companies who help singles find
>> dates, though not virtually, but in real life/ actual meetings. i'm
>> not a member with them, but i know of non-disabled friends who've
>> tried them out. the 1st company is quite thorough and systematic. once
>> u register with them, you will be screened, and your profile checked
>> out, to make sure you're a decent guy, seriously
>>
>> interested in finding a date/ potential match. just a small interview
>> with routine questions to establish authenticity of info given. then
>> they organise these events/ get-togethers  once a month i think, where
>> they will invite you, and other members, where you can meet and
>> interact with them, and try and find a suitable date.
>> here's the link for the 1st 1.
>>
>> https://www.floh.in/
>>
>> the second website also works on similar lines, but a bit less
>> serious. they don't check you out themselves. there's no interview or
>> info varification. u just go to the events they will invite you to. so
>> its more of a mixed crowd, with potentially non-serious folks just out
>> to enjoy a good evening. but no harm trying it too. this 1 is not just
>> about finding dates, but even just like-minded friends and hang-out
>> buddies.
>> this is
>>
>> http://www.covalence.in/
>>
>> i haven't looked at the website in great detail, so not sure how
>> accessible it is, while registering. also, i think they both operate
>> primarily in Mumbai. but do find out for other cities if it serves
>> your needs.
>> now for a few suggestions. i'm no expert, but here's a couple of tips
>> that i'd like to put forward, off the top of my head.
>>
>> 1. somewhat obvious, but necessary to be spelt out, is the fact that
>> an active social life does not necessarily imply going to parties or
>> big fun events, it could even be something productive, such as joining
>> a music/ dance class, a language-learning course, facebook and
>> whatsapp groups that might interest you, such as groups for atheists,
>> book/ poetry lovers, animal rights groups, etc.
>>
>> 2. i personally am not very comfortable with the idea of dating
>> complete strangers, so developing friendships and getting to know
>> people before the next step, is i think more fruitful, also because
>> statistically, i would think that people find it more comfortable to
>> go out with a disabled person who is known, rather than a complete
>> stranger approaching via an app, or some  such thing.
>>
>> 3. do put it to your sighted friends, that you're interested in
>> finding a date. word of mouth is still, 1 of the fastest ways of
>> spreading word. i'm not saying it will necessarily work, but people
>> are more likely to consciously introduce you to single, interested
>> women, when they know you too are looking. i've seen it happen a lot
>> even with sighted people.
>>
>> 4. whatever you do, do not. ever. rush things. even if you feel the
>> smallest glimmer of interest or hope from some1, please make sure that
>> you are not too forthright or pushy, after you've once articulated
>> your desire to date. by you, i mean the generic you, not you
>> personally. it does happen, often subconsciously, because 1 is
>> desperate to make the most of an opportunity. but take this from a
>> girl, it'd be thee most fatal mistake you'll ever make.
>>
>> smiles.
>> these are just my personal, initial  views. i'm sure there'll be many
>> more concrete ones from others on the list as well.
>>
>> best wishes!
>>
>> Shireen.
>>
>>
>>
>>> On 1/15/17, Rahul Bajaj  wrote:
>>> Hi Everyone,
>>>
>>> I hope this message finds you well.
>>> I know

Re: [AI] Finding a Dating Partner

2017-01-17 Thread Rahul Bajaj 
Thanks Pranav. Just 1 question - I am wondering what kind of crowd you have 
found on OkCupid in particularly.  My only concern is that many of these apps  
contain only busybodies and weirdos. While this is a problem for everyone, it 
is more so for us because of our unique vulnerability.

Best,
Rahul 

Sent from my iPhone

> On Jan 16, 2017, at 7:09 AM, Pranav Lal  wrote:
> 
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> Also try: https://footloosenomore.com/ 
> They are sort of familiar with disability and do not have a problem.
> 
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Re: [AI] Finding a Dating Partner

2017-01-17 Thread Rahul Bajaj 
Hi Shirin,

Thank you so much for your thoughtful and detailed response; these are 
precisely the kind of insights that I was  looking for.
I will definitely check out the resources that you have shared. The second one 
definitely seems worth trying. The only problem is that I am not very 
comfortable in a room full of strangers -- aa problem which is further 
exacerbated by my disability.
Your tips are very helpful.  I particularly agree with your points about not 
dating a stranger straightaway and widening one's social circle to find a 
partner. I am definitely working on all these areas and will keep your 
suggestions in mind.

Best,
Rahul 

Sent from my iPhone

> On Jan 15, 2017, at 8:04 PM, Shireen Irani  wrote:
> 
> hi Rahul,
> 
> here are some resources and a few tips that might help/ interest you.
> 
> i paste below, links for 2 websites/ companies who help singles find
> dates, though not virtually, but in real life/ actual meetings. i'm
> not a member with them, but i know of non-disabled friends who've
> tried them out. the 1st company is quite thorough and systematic. once
> u register with them, you will be screened, and your profile checked
> out, to make sure you're a decent guy, seriously
> 
> interested in finding a date/ potential match. just a small interview
> with routine questions to establish authenticity of info given. then
> they organise these events/ get-togethers  once a month i think, where
> they will invite you, and other members, where you can meet and
> interact with them, and try and find a suitable date.
> here's the link for the 1st 1.
> 
> https://www.floh.in/
> 
> the second website also works on similar lines, but a bit less
> serious. they don't check you out themselves. there's no interview or
> info varification. u just go to the events they will invite you to. so
> its more of a mixed crowd, with potentially non-serious folks just out
> to enjoy a good evening. but no harm trying it too. this 1 is not just
> about finding dates, but even just like-minded friends and hang-out
> buddies.
> this is
> 
> http://www.covalence.in/
> 
> i haven't looked at the website in great detail, so not sure how
> accessible it is, while registering. also, i think they both operate
> primarily in Mumbai. but do find out for other cities if it serves
> your needs.
> now for a few suggestions. i'm no expert, but here's a couple of tips
> that i'd like to put forward, off the top of my head.
> 
> 1. somewhat obvious, but necessary to be spelt out, is the fact that
> an active social life does not necessarily imply going to parties or
> big fun events, it could even be something productive, such as joining
> a music/ dance class, a language-learning course, facebook and
> whatsapp groups that might interest you, such as groups for atheists,
> book/ poetry lovers, animal rights groups, etc.
> 
> 2. i personally am not very comfortable with the idea of dating
> complete strangers, so developing friendships and getting to know
> people before the next step, is i think more fruitful, also because
> statistically, i would think that people find it more comfortable to
> go out with a disabled person who is known, rather than a complete
> stranger approaching via an app, or some  such thing.
> 
> 3. do put it to your sighted friends, that you're interested in
> finding a date. word of mouth is still, 1 of the fastest ways of
> spreading word. i'm not saying it will necessarily work, but people
> are more likely to consciously introduce you to single, interested
> women, when they know you too are looking. i've seen it happen a lot
> even with sighted people.
> 
> 4. whatever you do, do not. ever. rush things. even if you feel the
> smallest glimmer of interest or hope from some1, please make sure that
> you are not too forthright or pushy, after you've once articulated
> your desire to date. by you, i mean the generic you, not you
> personally. it does happen, often subconsciously, because 1 is
> desperate to make the most of an opportunity. but take this from a
> girl, it'd be thee most fatal mistake you'll ever make.
> 
> smiles.
> these are just my personal, initial  views. i'm sure there'll be many
> more concrete ones from others on the list as well.
> 
> best wishes!
> 
> Shireen.
> 
> 
> 
>> On 1/15/17, Rahul Bajaj  wrote:
>> Hi Everyone,
>> 
>> I hope this message finds you well.
>> I know I am going to receive some flak for asking this question, but I
>> figured I would ask it anyway.
>> I would be extremely grateful if you guys could share the strategies
>> that you have adopted (both successful and unsuccessful) for finding a
>> dating partner.
>> 
>> I know that Tinder is not accessible and the other dating apps that
>> may be accessible aren't sufficiently 'mainstream' to attract anyone
>> except busybodies.
>> I am averse to the idea of dating someone else with a disability, so
>> any apps that may exist for this purpose aren't

Re: [AI] Finding a Dating Partner

2017-01-15 Thread Pranav Lal 
In terms of  websites:
Okcupid is usable.
Also try: https://footloosenomore.com/ 
They are sort of familiar with disability and do not have a problem.

Pranav



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Re: [AI] Finding a Dating Partner

2017-01-15 Thread Shireen Irani 
hi Rahul,

here are some resources and a few tips that might help/ interest you.

i paste below, links for 2 websites/ companies who help singles find
dates, though not virtually, but in real life/ actual meetings. i'm
not a member with them, but i know of non-disabled friends who've
tried them out. the 1st company is quite thorough and systematic. once
u register with them, you will be screened, and your profile checked
out, to make sure you're a decent guy, seriously

 interested in finding a date/ potential match. just a small interview
with routine questions to establish authenticity of info given. then
they organise these events/ get-togethers  once a month i think, where
they will invite you, and other members, where you can meet and
interact with them, and try and find a suitable date.
here's the link for the 1st 1.

https://www.floh.in/

the second website also works on similar lines, but a bit less
serious. they don't check you out themselves. there's no interview or
info varification. u just go to the events they will invite you to. so
its more of a mixed crowd, with potentially non-serious folks just out
to enjoy a good evening. but no harm trying it too. this 1 is not just
about finding dates, but even just like-minded friends and hang-out
buddies.
this is

http://www.covalence.in/

i haven't looked at the website in great detail, so not sure how
accessible it is, while registering. also, i think they both operate
primarily in Mumbai. but do find out for other cities if it serves
your needs.
now for a few suggestions. i'm no expert, but here's a couple of tips
that i'd like to put forward, off the top of my head.

1. somewhat obvious, but necessary to be spelt out, is the fact that
an active social life does not necessarily imply going to parties or
big fun events, it could even be something productive, such as joining
a music/ dance class, a language-learning course, facebook and
whatsapp groups that might interest you, such as groups for atheists,
book/ poetry lovers, animal rights groups, etc.

2. i personally am not very comfortable with the idea of dating
complete strangers, so developing friendships and getting to know
people before the next step, is i think more fruitful, also because
statistically, i would think that people find it more comfortable to
go out with a disabled person who is known, rather than a complete
stranger approaching via an app, or some  such thing.

3. do put it to your sighted friends, that you're interested in
finding a date. word of mouth is still, 1 of the fastest ways of
spreading word. i'm not saying it will necessarily work, but people
are more likely to consciously introduce you to single, interested
women, when they know you too are looking. i've seen it happen a lot
even with sighted people.

4. whatever you do, do not. ever. rush things. even if you feel the
smallest glimmer of interest or hope from some1, please make sure that
you are not too forthright or pushy, after you've once articulated
your desire to date. by you, i mean the generic you, not you
personally. it does happen, often subconsciously, because 1 is
desperate to make the most of an opportunity. but take this from a
girl, it'd be thee most fatal mistake you'll ever make.

smiles.
these are just my personal, initial  views. i'm sure there'll be many
more concrete ones from others on the list as well.

best wishes!

Shireen.



On 1/15/17, Rahul Bajaj  wrote:
> Hi Everyone,
>
> I hope this message finds you well.
> I know I am going to receive some flak for asking this question, but I
> figured I would ask it anyway.
> I would be extremely grateful if you guys could share the strategies
> that you have adopted (both successful and unsuccessful) for finding a
> dating partner.
>
> I know that Tinder is not accessible and the other dating apps that
> may be accessible aren't sufficiently 'mainstream' to attract anyone
> except busybodies.
> I am averse to the idea of dating someone else with a disability, so
> any apps that may exist for this purpose aren't very useful for me.
>  So I would be curious to know if anyone has any ideas as regards the
> steps that I can take to find someone.
> Also, in light of the fact that blind people typically do not have as
> active a social life as their sighted counterparts, I would be curious
> to know how those of you who are committed were able to find your
> partner.
>
> I know that this is a subject that not many people would be
> comfortable talking about on a public forum, so please feel free to
> email me privately to share your experiences.
> Needless to say, if you think that dating is a western idea that has
> no place in India or I should ask questions about more substantive
> issues, please feel free not to participate in this discussion.
> With those caveats out of the way, I hope to receive some insightful
> responses.
>
> Best,
> Rahul
>
>
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Re: [AI] Finding a Dating Partner

2017-01-15 Thread Preeti Monga 
Dear Rahul!

Silver Linings has just the solution for someone like you! You must date!
More than 3 and a half decades back, I wwas constently dating! Incedently I
never found a blind or disabled guy to date/or he did not find me! After 11
dates, I managed to marry twice! The first  lasted 11 rough years, and the
present is 20 years old and counting! Now here is what you can do:

First of all come for all the Fusion meets you hear about! The next one is
being planned for the last Sunday in Feb! There are many non disabled people
there, there are people with other disabilities and you then also have the
chance of meeting other like minded people, who thereafter may just lead you
onto to the young lady of your  choice! 

There are many other ideas that I can share on this, one more is:

Look at every female as a prospective date! Well, mind you only in your
mind! See if  your values and thoughts and ideas match/jell! If so, figure
out a way to become friends and then take it forward! If you need my help,
feel free to reach out! There are some lovely people around, and there
certainly is one for you! You also must read my autobiography 'The Other
Senses', it is by Roli Books and is now on Bookshare.

Let me know if there is some other way we can help you get out more! Apps
may not just yet be the best way to get around, but no harm trying your
luck, you may just find her somewhere around!

Warmly

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Of Rahul Bajaj
Sent: Sunday, January 15, 2017 18:46
To: accessindia@accessindia.org.in
Subject: [AI] Finding a Dating Partner

Hi Everyone,

I hope this message finds you well.
I know I am going to receive some flak for asking this question, but I
figured I would ask it anyway.
I would be extremely grateful if you guys could share the strategies
that you have adopted (both successful and unsuccessful) for finding a
dating partner.

I know that Tinder is not accessible and the other dating apps that
may be accessible aren't sufficiently 'mainstream' to attract anyone
except busybodies.
I am averse to the idea of dating someone else with a disability, so
any apps that may exist for this purpose aren't very useful for me.
 So I would be curious to know if anyone has any ideas as regards the
steps that I can take to find someone.
Also, in light of the fact that blind people typically do not have as
active a social life as their sighted counterparts, I would be curious
to know how those of you who are committed were able to find your
partner.

I know that this is a subject that not many people would be
comfortable talking about on a public forum, so please feel free to
email me privately to share your experiences.
Needless to say, if you think that dating is a western idea that has
no place in India or I should ask questions about more substantive
issues, please feel free not to participate in this discussion.
With those caveats out of the way, I hope to receive some insightful
responses.

Best,
Rahul


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Re: [AI] Finding a Dating Partner

2017-01-15 Thread Vedprakash 
I am sharing my experience just to tell as to how friendships evolve some
time. I did not mention the name of the other person involved in this
anecdote. I left a blank in place of her name in order to keep privacy.
Around thirty years back, I found my dating partner through a wrong number
phone call.
I had got a new telephone connection installed. In those days, it was very
difficult to get a landline connection. A long waiting list had to be
countered. But after my meetings with some of influential people, I
eventually got it.
I had very few friends to call on.
So, I tried some wrong numbers and it was quiet by chance that I was
connected to a girl, who wanted to talk with an unknown person.
Thus, our telephonic friendship evolved through daily calls.
Finally, we decided to have a face-to-face meeting. Till that time I never
referred to my visual impairment to her.
When we were deciding the meeting place, I insisted on my residence but she
was apprehensive of it.
So we decided to meet in 'Madhuban' a Chinese restaurant near I P college.
The question arose over identity. How shall we identify each other. I told
her the colour of the shirt I'd wear and also mentioned that I'd be bringing
a stick.
She did not question as to why I needed a stick. She also told some identity
signs and we fixed the time.
Ten minutes before the scheduled time, I reached there. As I could do
nothing to find out the girl, I took a seat and as the waitor greeted me, I
asked him to wait for some time be fore I place an order.
After half an hour the girl came and took the seat in front of me. But she
did not utter a word. I knew that someone was sitting there but I too did
not say anything.
Finally, the girl broke the silence. "May I know your name?" she asked.
I recognized her voice and delightfully told "So you are twenty minutes
late. You are Miss - I suppose." I told her name for a reference.
She was amazed but we had some snacks together.
As  we said good bye, she honestly told me that this friendship cannot
continue. We can be good friends but not perfect lovers. So let us stop it
here.
But somehow, after thirty long years, we are still good friends. Whenever,
we feel like, we meet at some mutually decided place and share our thoughts
and experiences.
She has got married and me to. But she is still a emotional friend to me.


Vedprakash Sharma
http://www.musicalexpressions.myehome.in/

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Of Rahul Bajaj
Sent: Sunday, January 15, 2017 6:46 PM
To: accessindia@accessindia.org.in
Subject: [AI] Finding a Dating Partner

Hi Everyone,

I hope this message finds you well.
I know I am going to receive some flak for asking this question, but I
figured I would ask it anyway.
I would be extremely grateful if you guys could share the strategies that
you have adopted (both successful and unsuccessful) for finding a dating
partner.

I know that Tinder is not accessible and the other dating apps that may be
accessible aren't sufficiently 'mainstream' to attract anyone except
busybodies.
I am averse to the idea of dating someone else with a disability, so any
apps that may exist for this purpose aren't very useful for me.
 So I would be curious to know if anyone has any ideas as regards the steps
that I can take to find someone.
Also, in light of the fact that blind people typically do not have as active
a social life as their sighted counterparts, I would be curious to know how
those of you who are committed were able to find your partner.

I know that this is a subject that not many people would be comfortable
talking about on a public forum, so please feel free to email me privately
to share your experiences.
Needless to say, if you think that dating is a western idea that has no
place in India or I should ask questions about more substantive issues,
please feel free not to participate in this discussion.
With those caveats out of the way, I hope to receive some insightful
responses.

Best,
Rahul


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[AI] Finding a Dating Partner

2017-01-15 Thread Rahul Bajaj 
Hi Everyone,

I hope this message finds you well.
I know I am going to receive some flak for asking this question, but I
figured I would ask it anyway.
I would be extremely grateful if you guys could share the strategies
that you have adopted (both successful and unsuccessful) for finding a
dating partner.

I know that Tinder is not accessible and the other dating apps that
may be accessible aren't sufficiently 'mainstream' to attract anyone
except busybodies.
I am averse to the idea of dating someone else with a disability, so
any apps that may exist for this purpose aren't very useful for me.
 So I would be curious to know if anyone has any ideas as regards the
steps that I can take to find someone.
Also, in light of the fact that blind people typically do not have as
active a social life as their sighted counterparts, I would be curious
to know how those of you who are committed were able to find your
partner.

I know that this is a subject that not many people would be
comfortable talking about on a public forum, so please feel free to
email me privately to share your experiences.
Needless to say, if you think that dating is a western idea that has
no place in India or I should ask questions about more substantive
issues, please feel free not to participate in this discussion.
With those caveats out of the way, I hope to receive some insightful responses.

Best,
Rahul


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