Re: [FairfieldLife] Re: My Dad the Alcoholic

2007-01-16 Thread Vaj
On Jan 15, 2007, at 9:04 PM, lurkernomore20002000 wrote: Story 1: My dad was an alcoholic. Story 2: My dad was an alcoholic who sexually abused me from the time I was around 4 or 5 until my early teens... I find these stories fascinating. To be

[FairfieldLife] Re: My Dad the Alcoholic

2007-01-16 Thread curtisdeltablues
Bob Your response, is, of course, ignorant and ignorant of the facts of life and of the facts of the Prahlada story. Me: I am familiar with The Facts of Life and can prove it: A group of girls attending a boarding school experience the joys and the trials of adolescence under the guiding

[FairfieldLife] Re: My Dad the Alcoholic

2007-01-16 Thread sparaig
--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, curtisdeltablues [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote: Bob Your response, is, of course, ignorant and ignorant of the facts of life and of the facts of the Prahlada story. Me: I am familiar with The Facts of Life and can prove it: A group of girls

Re: [FairfieldLife] Re: My Dad the Alcoholic

2007-01-16 Thread Vaj
On Jan 16, 2007, at 1:55 PM, sparaig wrote: H... How's that explanation of Jewish belief in reincarnation coming? Sha'ar ha Gilgulim is rather interesting and would be a great topic!

[FairfieldLife] Re: My Dad the Alcoholic

2007-01-16 Thread Larry
H... How's that explanation of Jewish belief in reincarnation coming? Jonah and the Whale is a spot-on description of reincarnation - not that there's anything wrong with that

Re: [FairfieldLife] Re: My Dad the Alcoholic

2007-01-16 Thread Vaj
On Jan 16, 2007, at 2:42 PM, Larry wrote: H... How's that explanation of Jewish belief in reincarnation coming? Jonah and the Whale is a spot-on description of reincarnation - not that there's anything wrong with that Well and of course the Sermon on the Mt. in the NT.

[FairfieldLife] Re: My Dad the Alcoholic

2007-01-15 Thread curtisdeltablues
Bob: It's important to understand that anybody who had an abusive father or mother got that unfortunate circumstance because that was the karma one sent out in previous lives returning to oneself. Me: Which one of your virtue sidhis were you expressing here? Let's see, not compassion or

RE: [FairfieldLife] Re: My Dad the Alcoholic

2007-01-15 Thread Rick Archer
I really appreciate these posts. My dad was an alcoholic too. He never abused any of us sexually, but he did so verbally and emotionally for many years. Drove my mother to the mental hospital. I think the stress of WWII drove him to drink. He was traumatized by it all his life. Dwelling on his

[FairfieldLife] Re: My Dad the Alcoholic

2007-01-15 Thread TurquoiseB
--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, Rick Archer [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote: I really appreciate these posts. My dad was an alcoholic too. He never abused any of us sexually, but he did so verbally and emotionally for many years. Drove my mother to the mental hospital. I think the stress of

Re: [FairfieldLife] Re: My Dad the Alcoholic

2007-01-15 Thread Sal Sunshine
On Jan 15, 2007, at 10:44 AM, curtisdeltablues wrote: Me: Which one of your virtue sidhis were you expressing here? Let's see, not compassion or friendliness...Oh I know smug happiness that you understand how the world works so well that you need to tell people that they deserved their

RE: [FairfieldLife] Re: My Dad the Alcoholic

2007-01-15 Thread Rick Archer
Or maybe almost an automatic response to something Bob really doesn't understand and doesn't want to acknowledge...who knows why. Or maybe he understands it all too well and just wants to bury the anger instead of dealing with it in a responsible way. I don't see how people who mindlessly

[FairfieldLife] Re: My Dad the Alcoholic

2007-01-15 Thread curtisdeltablues
Thanks Sal, I figured that you would understand. On re-reading what I wrote, I was wondering why I sound like a bit of a pompous dick. (Immediately rejecting the option that this is what I actually am!) I realized that this issue has a lot of charge for me. Of all the mistaken opinions I gained

[FairfieldLife] Re: My Dad the Alcoholic

2007-01-15 Thread authfriend
--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, Rick Archer [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote: Or maybe almost an automatic response to something Bob really doesn't understand and doesn't want to acknowledge...who knows why. Or maybe he understands it all too well and just wants to bury the anger instead of

[FairfieldLife] Re: My Dad the Alcoholic

2007-01-15 Thread TurquoiseB
--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, curtisdeltablues [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote: I realized that this issue has a lot of charge for me. Of all the mistaken opinions I gained in my association with MMY, I consider my belief in so called Karma to be the worst of the lot. As I said, it is one

[FairfieldLife] Re: My Dad the Alcoholic

2007-01-15 Thread curtisdeltablues
Turq, This is a deep topic and let me start my saying that I don't have a clue concerning such deep questions as freedom vs determinism. I definitely don't take your sharing your view of this as an attempt to convince me. I appreciate your making that explicit. I think we can both be advocates

[FairfieldLife] Re: My Dad the Alcoholic

2007-01-15 Thread TurquoiseB
--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, curtisdeltablues [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote: Turq, This is a deep topic and let me start my saying that I don't have a clue concerning such deep questions as freedom vs determinism. I definitely don't take your sharing your view of this as an attempt to

Re: [FairfieldLife] Re: My Dad the Alcoholic

2007-01-15 Thread Sal Sunshine
On Jan 15, 2007, at 12:18 PM, curtisdeltablues wrote: Thanks Sal, I figured that you would understand. On re-reading what I wrote, I was wondering why I sound like a bit of a pompous dick. (Immediately rejecting the option that this is what I actually am!) Well, whether you are or not, the

RE: [FairfieldLife] Re: My Dad the Alcoholic

2007-01-15 Thread Rick Archer
Exactly. The whole notion becomes amongst other things simply a way to create and maintain various revenge fantasies--either one's own or somebody else's. If everyone is getting what they supposedly deserve, there's never any impetus to deal with personal issues responsibly, move on, or do

Re: [FairfieldLife] Re: My Dad the Alcoholic

2007-01-15 Thread Vaj
On Jan 15, 2007, at 2:41 PM, Sal Sunshine wrote: If I was able to look beyond my own issues with this topic I might have more generously thought that this mental re-frame technique worked so well in Bob's life that he wanted to share the insight to help. If this is the case then my initial

[FairfieldLife] Re: My Dad the Alcoholic

2007-01-15 Thread curtisdeltablues
Well pull up a chair Sal, Turq and I (having solved the big questions of the universe) are about to pound a few and sing until the bouncer delivers our karma and kicks us out! --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, Sal Sunshine [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote: On Jan 15, 2007, at 12:18 PM,

[FairfieldLife] Re: My Dad the Alcoholic

2007-01-15 Thread TurquoiseB
--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, Rick Archer [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote: Exactly. The whole notion becomes amongst other things simply a way to create and maintain various revenge fantasies--either one's own or somebody else's. If everyone is getting what they supposedly deserve,

[FairfieldLife] Re: My Dad the Alcoholic

2007-01-15 Thread TurquoiseB
--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, curtisdeltablues [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote: Well pull up a chair Sal, Turq and I (having solved the big questions of the universe) are about to pound a few and sing until the bouncer delivers our karma and kicks us out! Or, if we exercise our free will

[FairfieldLife] Re: My Dad the Alcoholic

2007-01-15 Thread authfriend
--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, TurquoiseB [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote: snip Someone who believed in a (IMO) false reading of karma as determinism would never even *try* to come up with technologies to ease the suffering of those born with birth defects; they'd think somehow that the kids

[FairfieldLife] Re: My Dad the Alcoholic

2007-01-15 Thread authfriend
--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, Rick Archer [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote: Exactly. The whole notion becomes amongst other things simply a way to create and maintain various revenge fantasies--either one's own or somebody else's. If everyone is getting what they supposedly deserve,

Re: [FairfieldLife] Re: My Dad the Alcoholic

2007-01-15 Thread Sal Sunshine
On Jan 15, 2007, at 2:08 PM, Vaj wrote: Oh come on Sal, wouldn't you have loved your parents, as your first gurus, to arrange your marriage partner for you!  Mother knows best! :-) (heaven forbid if you were gay) I don't really have many problems with that particular tradition. It's

Re: [FairfieldLife] Re: My Dad the Alcoholic

2007-01-15 Thread Jonathan Chadwick
Instant karmas gonna get you Gonna knock you right on the head You better get yourself together Pretty soon youre gonna be dead What in the world you thinking of Laughing in the face of love What on earth you tryin to do Its up to you, yeah you Instant karmas gonna get you Gonna look you right in

Re: [FairfieldLife] Re: My Dad the Alcoholic

2007-01-15 Thread Sal Sunshine
On Jan 15, 2007, at 2:27 PM, curtisdeltablues wrote: Well pull up a chair Sal, Turq and I (having solved the big questions of the universe) are about to pound a few and sing until the bouncer delivers our karma and kicks us out! And then he'll get *his* karma back for being mean to you...and

[FairfieldLife] Re: My Dad the Alcoholic

2007-01-15 Thread TurquoiseB
--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, Sal Sunshine [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote: On Jan 15, 2007, at 2:08 PM, Vaj wrote: Oh come on Sal, wouldn't you have loved your parents, as your first gurus, to arrange your marriage partner for you! Mother knows best! :-) (heaven forbid if you

Re: [FairfieldLife] Re: My Dad the Alcoholic

2007-01-15 Thread Sal Sunshine
--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, Rick Archer [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote: Exactly. The whole notion becomes amongst other things simply a way to create and maintain various revenge fantasies--either one's own or somebody else's. If everyone is getting what they supposedly deserve, there's

Re: [FairfieldLife] Re: My Dad the Alcoholic

2007-01-15 Thread llundrub
they really need and plenty more of what they just want :) - Original Message - From: TurquoiseB [EMAIL PROTECTED] To: FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com Sent: Monday, January 15, 2007 12:37 PM Subject: [FairfieldLife] Re: My Dad the Alcoholic --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com

[FairfieldLife] Re: My Dad the Alcoholic

2007-01-15 Thread suziezuzie
--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, ffia1120 [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote: --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, suziezuzie msilver1951@ wrote: My dad was an alcoholic. Naturally, I didn't realize this as a young kid growing up but I knew he was different from other fathers. It was

[FairfieldLife] Re: My Dad the Alcoholic

2007-01-15 Thread bob_brigante
--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, curtisdeltablues [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote: Bob: It's important to understand that anybody who had an abusive father or mother got that unfortunate circumstance because that was the karma one sent out in previous lives returning to oneself. Me:

[FairfieldLife] Re: My Dad the Alcoholic

2007-01-15 Thread sparaig
--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, Sal Sunshine [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote: On Jan 15, 2007, at 2:08 PM, Vaj wrote: Oh come on Sal, wouldn't you have loved your parents, as your first gurus, to arrange your marriage partner for you!  Mother knows best! :-) (heaven forbid if you

[FairfieldLife] Re: My Dad the Alcoholic

2007-01-15 Thread lurkernomore20002000
Story 1: My dad was an alcoholic. Story 2: My dad was an alcoholic who sexually abused me from the time I was around 4 or 5 until my early teens... I find these stories fascinating. To be thrown knuckle balls like these, and be able to work through

Re: [FairfieldLife] Re: My Dad the Alcoholic

2007-01-15 Thread Peter
Well said, Curtis. --- curtisdeltablues [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote: Bob: It's important to understand that anybody who had an abusive father or mother got that unfortunate circumstance because that was the karma one sent out in previous lives returning to oneself. Me: Which one of

[FairfieldLife] Re: My Dad the Alcoholic

2007-01-14 Thread bob_brigante
--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, suziezuzie [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote: My dad was an alcoholic. Naturally, I didn't realize this as a young kid growing up but I knew he was different from other fathers. It was about the age of 12 that I began to associate the bottle of liquor he