I do not agree at all. I do not demand that others treat me exactly the way
I need to be treated in order for me to feel good about myself. This places
quite a burden on friends, neighbors and the entire world, and it does not
require me to make any effort at all to understand where other people are
coming from.
To insist that all others dance in attendance to my emotional wants and needs
places a HUGE demand on the rest of the world. To automatically assume that
the other person sees me as dumb is a construct of my own thinking designed
to keep my demands in place and up front. Nobody lives between my ears but
me. I'm in there all by myself so I cannot blame other people for what emerges
from my own thinking..
I may not always agree with what the other person has to say and I may not even
like what the other person has to say, but I'd damned well better love their
RIGHT to say it because I cannot muzzle the next guy without muzzling myself at
the same time.
We cause as much pain in the world when we take offense as when we give it.
Faith G
----- Original Message -----
From: Dee
To: silver-list@eskimo.com
Sent: Thursday, November 08, 2007 8:22 AM
Subject: Re: CS>Simon aka Charles is gone...
I agree totally with you Mary Ann, civility costs nothing and it is
surely a positive thing to make people feel good rather than the opposite, no
matter how clever one may think one is, or how dumb one may think the other
person is! Dee
-------Original Message-------
From: marmar...@bellsouth.net
Date: 07/11/2007 17:43:08
To: silver-list@eskimo.com
Subject: CS>Simon aka Charles is gone...
**** Boy -- I've got to respectfully disagree with this Mike. And
pardon me for speaking out --I've been sitting on my hands thinking that I
should be the one to be silent now. But that's what's wrong with our world --
the ones who object remain silent. The measure of any group of people in
society -- cyber-society included -- is the level of behavior of the least of
that society. If it is required of polite people to become thick-skinned and
tolerate bad behavior, then everyone loses because as we become that way we
also become insensitive to our own behavior towards others. Isn't that a
slippery slope?
