I am sympathetic but be glad you have those friends. Most of mine dissapeared after I got sick. I was like a novelty item at first then they slowly faded away. The few I have left are so busy with work and their own families. I told my friends over and over that I could still hang out and could meet them there, but I guess since I am on wheels, I am less. Who knows and I know I don't need that. I even lost more after my spinal fusion in May. I've been laid up since May and have been home since aug.1 and I have had one friend stop by and 1 that has called me more than twice. Those are not REAL friends.
Stacy ----- Original Message ----- From: Todd Tarno<mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]> To: Grace M.<mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]> ; tmic-list@eskimo.com<mailto:tmic-list@eskimo.com> Sent: Monday, September 24, 2007 4:52 PM Subject: Re: [TMIC] Real Friends Hi ya Grace, I know what you mean. Maybe you could say Yes and let them see for themselves how hard it really is for you to get around. LOL That is what I did to show my friends what it was like. I found out who where my REAL friends and who was NOT. I do understand that not everyone can do this. Hope EVERYONE has more energy today, Todd in CC, TX - Who is feeling much better today. "Grace M." <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: Hiya Kevin, Boy, I sure can relate to the family thing, and friends slowly disappearing. My oldest child, (33 yrs old) a son, has never seen me during my flat on my back, paralyzed and blind episodes, but has only seen me afterwards. He seems to think that as long as I can stand up, and speak, and get around a bit, that all is well. My ex husband has tried to talk to him to get him more or less prepared for the worst, but it falls on deaf ears. Jay (My ex) think that the kids are just in denial about the whole thing---not my oldest daughter, but my oldest and youngest. (17) The friends thing is a bit different for me. I have too many well meaning friends that want to drag me here and there, want to see me get out more, and do more---but Kevin, I can't. You know how the fatigue can be, and for me using Rituxan infusions now, it's even more so---so, whenever I decline an invitation (And that's fairly often.) they start buzzing about me being *depressed*. Kevin, I'm not depressed----just incredibly tired the majority of the time. Seems like I'm dam*ed if i do, and dam*ed if I don't. Grace
