Todd, Sounds like you are in a strong relationship. It will help to only make you better to withstand TM's damages. Janice ----- Original Message ----- From: Patricia Cooley To: 'Jan Hargrove' ; 'transverse myelitis' Sent: Saturday, June 13, 2009 2:04 PM Subject: RE: [TMIC] Relationships
JAN I USE MINE TO CARRY ALSO. BUT, I ALSO HAVE A TRAY THAT I CAN PUT ON MY REGULAR WALKER TO CARRY STUFF. IN THE BEGINNING, I HAD TO SIT ON THE SEAT IF I WANTED TO DO ANY COOKING. NOW SINCE I AM ABLE TO WALK WITHOUT A WALKER OR CANE (I SHOULD SAY WADDLE LIKE A DUCK) I DON’T USE THE SEAT ANY MORE. I AM ALSO ABLE TO STAND AT THE STOVE AND SINK. I FEEL THE MORE I WALK AND STAND THE MORE EXERCISE I GET AND HOPEFULLY THE STRONGER I WILL BECOME. EVEN WITH ALL THE HELP WALKERS GIVE , I THANK THE LORD EVERYDAY FOR MY HUSBAND. I DON’T WANT TO THINK I WOULD DO WITHOUT HIM AND MY DAUGHTERS. TAKE CARE AND TIAD PATTI - WISCONSIN From: Jan Hargrove [mailto:jmh1...@sbcglobal.net] Sent: Saturday, June 13, 2009 12:24 PM To: 'transverse myelitis'; Patricia Cooley Subject: RE: [TMIC] Relationships Frank does so much..........he makes certain I don't overdo, he's kinda like my conscience, cause I think I can do more than I'm really capable of.........Patti, you mention your walker with a seat........I use mine for carrying stuff, i.e. laundry, dishes etc, Frank says it's been worth much more than we paid for it!!! janh !!!!!!!!!TIAD !!!!!!!!!!! --- On Sat, 6/13/09, Patricia Cooley <patticoo...@wi.rr.com> wrote: TM HIT ME ON OUR 45TH WEDDING ANNIVERSARY. THAT IS A DATE NEIGHER OF US WILL FORGET. MY HUSBAND WHO NEVER DID ANY COOKING, LAUNDRY, ETC., HAD TO TAKE OVER ALL THE HOUSE WORK AND THE OUTSIDE WORK. WHEN I FIRST CAME HOME FROM THE HOPITAL AFTER 6 WEEKS, I WAS FORTUNATE THAT MY SISTER, NIECES, AND DAUGHTERS LOADED US UP ON MEALS WE COULD PUT IN THE FREEZER WHICH TOOK CARE OF US FOR ABOUT A MONTH. BILL, MY HUSBAND, HAD TO LEARN TO DO THE LAUNDRY, SOME COOKING AND EVERYTHING ELSE. AFTER A MONTH, A WAS ABLE TO HELP WITH THE COOKING IF I SAT IN MY WALKER WITH THE SEAT. I AM ALSO LUCKY THAT NOW I AM ABLE TO WALK AROUND THE HOUSE WITH NO WALKER OR CANE, SO I AM NOW DOING ALL THE COOKING, AND EVEN THE DISHES AFTERWARD. BILL STILL STARTS THE LAUNDRY, AND I CAN STEP IN AND FINISH AND DO ALL THE FOLDING. I AM NOT ABLE TO DO MUCH IN THE WAY OF CLEANING SO HE DOES THAT TOO. I ALWAYS THOUGHT I WOULD BE THE ONE TO TAKE CARE OF HIM, BUT THE LORD WORKS IN MYSTERIOUS WAYS. AFTER BEING MARRIED SO LONG, OUR RELATIONSHIP HASN’T CHANGED. I KNOW HE IS THERE FOR ME AND I AM THERE FOR HIM, SO WE ARE TWO VERY LUCKY PEOPLE. MY HEART GOES OUT TO ALL WHOSE RELATIONSHIP HAS CHANGED AND NOT FOR THE BETTER. PATTTI – WISCONSIN ----- TIAD From: Todd Tarno [mailto:toddtm2...@sbcglobal.net] Sent: Friday, June 12, 2009 3:01 PM To: transverse myelitis; Janice Subject: Re: [TMIC] Relationships TM has made Billy & mines relationship stronger. I did ask him when TM hit ( when we knew it was going to be a long road to recovery ) and we had only been together for 5 years & he hadn't signed up for this, " Do you want to stay together or not ? " He was so bad at me for even asking the question in the first place, but I knew then that he was in for the long road to recovery too. I had started a cross stitch of our anniversary date, it was half done when TM hit, but that was the first thing I finished in between naps. lol Now it's been 7 years with TM & we will have been together these Nov. will be 12 years. May all of our relationships are stronger today, Todd in CC, TX --- On Thu, 6/11/09, Janice <jan...@centurytel.net> wrote: From: Janice <jan...@centurytel.net> Subject: [TMIC] To: "transverse myelitis" <tmic-list@eskimo.com> Date: Thursday, June 11, 2009, 10:38 PM It's Janice again. I have something else that I have wondered about and have decided to just ask and see what is out there. Do you feel that having TM has improved or destroyed the love/happiness in your marriage/relationship with your partner?
