You are right. Those of us who have not had to fight society and family
are extremely fortunate. Couldn't help but notice
that the people causing you two so much grief ended up with worse problems.
Wonder where that came from?! Janice
----- Original Message -----
From: "Kevin Wolfthal" <wolft...@optonline.net>
To: <rj_ran...@yahoo.com>; <tmic-list@eskimo.com>
Sent: Saturday, June 13, 2009 6:05 AM
Subject: Re: [TMIC] Relationships
When TM hit me, I kept working until I no longer could. In fact I pushed
myself even harder than before..probably a mistake. My boss said once,
"what's with all the sick", never asking what was my DX. He subsequently
found out what "sick" was when he lost his only two sons, one to cancer
and the other to a heart attack. Instead of making him more
understanding,
he treated me even worse. He was eventually pushed out, but his
replacement
wasn't much better. After I left, they found out just how much work i was
doing, even with TM, and it took them a year to replace me. They also
cheated me out of my private disability benefit. Now there are many
layoffs there
because of the economy. What goes around comes around. But I miss
working and loved my job.
I'm glad for you that you are happy and still able to work.
Kevin
rj_ran...@yahoo.com wrote:
Been there. I was diagnosed with ms. Year later tm. I was engaged when tm
hit. The future mom n law became the embodiment of hell. I still hate
her. So didn't marry. Work was a problem. After I lost my bladder I had
to self cath only problem I teach and the bosses made us call to leave
the room. I had to explain my situation and he cut me off in anger and
said he didn't wanna hear it. It was hard enough to build up guts to tell
him and for him to walk out in that manner was really upsetting. But a
year later his wife had a heart attack and his second in charge, who also
treated me badly, had a stroke and is in worse shape than me. I
transfered and am much happier. ------Original Message------
From: Kevin Wolfthal
To: tmic-list@eskimo.com
Subject: Re: [TMIC] Relationships
Sent: Jun 12, 2009 8:06 PM
Never having been married, but always wanting a family, TM took away even
my desire for that.
My relationships, most "friends" disappeared. Relatives act like TM is
contagious. Only my Mom
has stayed constant. I help her the best I can, (she'll be 86 next
week), and this has been a scary
year. My Mom collapsed several months ago. I somehow got to her and
gave her CPR, and she
started to breathe again. She then spent 6 weeks in a nursing home. The
rest of my family just
wants to see both of us in a nursing home.
Those of you who have had family and friends stick by you, consider
yourself fortunate.
Kevin
Todd Tarno wrote:
TM has made Billy & mines relationship stronger.
I did ask him when TM hit ( when we knew it was going to be a long road
to recovery ) and we had only been together for 5 years & he hadn't
signed up for this, " Do you want to stay together or not ? " He was so
bad at me for even asking the question in the first place, but I knew
then that he was in for the long road to recovery too.
I had started a cross stitch of our anniversary date, it was half done
when TM hit, but that was the first thing I finished in between naps.
lol
Now it's been 7 years with TM & we will have been together these Nov.
will be 12 years.
May all of our relationships are stronger today,
Todd in CC, TX
--- On *Thu, 6/11/09, Janice /<jan...@centurytel.net>/* wrote:
From: Janice <jan...@centurytel.net>
Subject: [TMIC]
To: "transverse myelitis" <tmic-list@eskimo.com>
Date: Thursday, June 11, 2009, 10:38 PM
It's Janice again. I have something else that I have wondered
about and have decided to just ask and see what is out there.
Do you feel that having TM has improved or destroyed the
love/happiness in your marriage/relationship with your partner?
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