Re: [TMIC] alive

[Bernard Pelow]

Good for you Jeron!  And know that there will be days when you will 
still miss what you used to have; I still have them.  But you did the 
right thing, you reached out for advice and knowledge.  So feel free to 
write the TM list or me personally anytime you feel down or whatever.  
And I would let the list know how well you did on your dive, and how it 
has helped you.  Your triumphs give us hope that we can reach our goals, 
and visa versa.  Hold your head high, and the next time you get to dive, 
think of me while you're down there.  I miss it soooo much.... :-D

On 5/21/2010 3:33 PM, j ra wrote:
Thanks Bernie, I appreciated that. When I started this post, I 
honestly wasn't looking for pity. I just wondered if anyone else 
misses life before TM, because I sure do. I miss the little things. I 
made my dive today and it was exhilirating. I did it! I accomplished 
my goal and no one can take that away from me.
Jeron
------------------------------------------------------------------------
Date: Fri, 21 May 2010 14:38:11 -0500
From: bpe...@austin.rr.com
To: magiema...@hotmail.com
CC: tmic-list@eskimo.com
Subject: Re: Fwd: RE: [TMIC] alive

Dear Maggie,
  Sorry, but this seems down right nasty to someone pouring his heart 
out to us.  We are here to support one another, not blast someone for 
their feelings.  Each of us is different, and takes according time to 
heal... and I still have "dark days" after 20 years.  So to tell J Ra 
that he is looking for pity is callous and very uncaring and 
unloving.  You pushed the wrong button on this subject with my family 
and me personally; ALL of us have suffered our own hell, not only 
those pf us afflicted with TM but our families also, but we're still 
here because of acceptance, love and tolerance!  The latter you need 
to try I think...
  J Ra, you have all the support and love from me and my family, we 
wish the best for you and pray for you and your family.
Peace,
Bernie
PS - I lost your email address J Ra, please send it to me... and have 
a better day... :-)




From: Maggie
Date: 5/21/2010 7:50:01 AM
To: tmic-list@eskimo.com <mailto:tmic-list@eskimo.com>
Cc: tmic-list@eskimo.com <mailto:tmic-list@eskimo.com>
Subject: RE: [TMIC] alive


I don't normally post but this one actually made me angry

We don't choose to get TM.  It chooses us.  Just like other 
"afflictions" do.  There is nothing you can do.

Sorry but you will not get pity from me.  This is a time in your life 
that you need your family and friends.  Don't ever hide anything from 
them.  Some may not "get" you or what you are going through but some 
will.  They honestly have no idea.  Help them learn!

You need to quit the pity party unless you do want to be alone and 
miserable and feeling sorry for yourself for the rest of your life.

I made a choice years back.  And I am a happier person with a whole 
different outlook on a life I had to adjust.

Someone said this is a support group.  I will support anyone until 
they give up.

Just remember, you are not the only what out there that is going 
through what you are.  I certainly hope you don't think you are.

Sorry but no pity / sympathy or whatever you want.  I have TM too.

<https://signup.live.com/signup.aspx?id=60969>
<<attachment: BPelow.vcf>>