Re: I have news

[NArgan]

Okay, let me be the first to chime in on such...  harsh words.

While this is your personal opinion, I, as I am sure many others do not agree with it.  Also, many people here know each other personally.  The TMNT-L, is a family.  While no one really knows me, I care just as much for Dawn, or Mikey, Blue or god knows whoever else, cos I know, that even if they didn't know me that well, they'd at least go "gee, i hope he's okay with whatever's going on" because, we are family.

It's the very thing the Turtles, Splinter, Casey, April represent. Despite not being blood, they are close, despite their characteristics, which may distance themselves to the group.

Since forever, which is when I joined, and that was when the list seemed like ages old, the TMNT-L has always been this way, and also a support system.  While sure, sometimes personal stuff doesn't need aired on here, the tragadies in this case, are fine in my case and I give my support, while it is a very quiet one, I hope and pray that the people going thru rough spots are doing okay. 

Almost everyone on this list knows each other, or, at least the ones who are very public and comment at least once to every topic, to which, out of the many are a scarce few, (thus I understand how you can feel alienated, for a while I too extremely felt this way... but yet not enough to say what you said... which IMHO was a bit harsh)

To personally address your questions:

>>What are people supposed to say?

>>Are they supposed to share the pain or say the oh!-so-worn-out "I'm sorry"-phrase?

Yes. let them.  Because you know what? I rather not know what to say, and say sorry than say nothing at all sometimes, specially if I directly know the person.  While I don't know Brin, and didn't personally say it until now, I am sorry for her loss, as well as Dawn, and I do keep whoever on the list in my prayers, even if they are silent to the rest of the list.

>>I've had a nice share of misery, just like most people, but I wouldn't even >>CONSIDER to expose it to others.

Well then, one day, you're going to explode like a volcano and you may have no one to blame, except yourself.  And this is talking from personal expierence.

>>For the first: it's none of their business.

Oh really? Well, maybe Mikey, Blue, and whoever else, personally KNOW Brin.  The TMNT-L as I said is a family, and it's the easier way to talk to your family members. With joy and happy news of god knows what with the TMNt or personal issues, pain comes with the joy, for to truly taste the sweet, but must first taste the bitterness.

>>And for the second: what is the gain? Why telling a lot of people?

Brin gains, because she gains support from her friends/family which is the TMNT-L.  Also, maybe Brin needs support from the TMNT-L, in ways that peeps in RL can't give.

>>For the third: who would actually care?

Everyone should really care, technically.


>>And for the fourth: should I let others into my misery? As if they don't have enough >>of their own? Am I doing them a favor my lashing more negative information into >>their lives?

Dude, do whatever you wanna do.  I really don't personally give a d*mn if you post your crap with life or not.  But if you would, I'm not gonna flame you for it.  I'd do what I do every other time. Keep silent and too myself and at the end of the night, say a prayer for yah.

>>To me, it seems like 'some' people are in extreme need of attention, and gladly >>embrace and use terrible events to get it.

>>(Now, let's see how many who will say that _I_ strive for attention by writing >>controversial things)

And btw, you know, sometimes people who are telling you something, are really trying to tell you something.  But then again, that is just my opinion and I could be wrong.

--Nick