She'll be 13 next week. I've talked with her in the past. Her mother talked with her just today after school. It's like a day and night thing. She comes home all happy, sits on my lap and says she has a bump on her head and wants me to feel her scalp to see it. Then she gets up, hits the bathroom for an hour, eats and lays on the couch with a book. When I ask her about homework, she says she has none. When I ask her to study, she gives one excuse after another, each one more antagonistic than the last. I finally tell her to go to sleep and she says she'll just wait up for mommy so she can get something off the computer (Judith is out till 11 or so). I tell her that she can get it in the morning and again it's an antagonistic response with a "I'm not moving" stance. You see how this all builds. It's not a matter of sensitive. It's a matter of frustration and impotence. I think she enjoys this. It gives her power over her parents. When I do get really upset she gives this look like she's surprised at the results. Like "I didn't expect the revolver to go off after pulling the trigger 6 times"
On the point of sensitive, it takes me hours to get to a point where I have to yell but its almost like she tries to push me there. And ignoring her just results in her doing her own thing till 2am and us getting calls from her school. And it makes Judith feel it's all on her. On Wed, Apr 29, 2009 at 9:18 PM, Michael Grant <mgr...@modus.bz> wrote: > > To preface this, I have two daughters both under two, so they still think > I'm the cats pajamas for now. > > I think you said she was 12 or 13? Have you just talked to her about it? > She's certainly old enough to have a serious conversation about it. Perhaps > ask her why she's not respecting you. She might just tell you why. She may > use it as an opportunity to try and hurt your feelings, but if she does > just > tell her that she did. Does she dsee you as impervious or does she realize > you are sensitive? > > On Wed, Apr 29, 2009 at 8:16 PM, Michael Dinowitz < > mdino...@houseoffusion.com> wrote: > > > > > It falls under the heading of "what can I do". I don't spank my kids and > > even if I did, you can't spank a girl after a certain age. I can't take > > away > > privileges because she just laughs it off. Stop her from seeing friends? > > She > > sees them in school and that's enough for her. She doesn't have a cell > > phone, does not have internet access (even when we allowed her on the > > computer) and we don't really watch TV (except what I download). > > > > I need parenting class to learn how to deal with her. No joke here. I > just > > don't know what to do. > > > > On Wed, Apr 29, 2009 at 7:25 AM, Erika L. Walker <elwal...@ruwebby.com > > >wrote: > > > > > > > > You let her get away with this behavior? > > > > > > On Wed, Apr 29, 2009 at 3:18 AM, Michael Dinowitz < > > > mdino...@houseoffusion.com> wrote: > > > > > > > But when I get my daughter saying things like > > > > "shut your stinking mouth" (among other things), I get really > > sensitive. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~| Adobe® ColdFusion® 8 software 8 is the most important and dramatic release to date Get the Free Trial http://ad.doubleclick.net/clk;207172674;29440083;f Archive: http://www.houseoffusion.com/groups/cf-community/message.cfm/messageid:296461 Subscription: http://www.houseoffusion.com/groups/cf-community/subscribe.cfm Unsubscribe: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/unsubscribe.cfm?user=89.70.5
