Not really. I think the association with homework is due to the timeline from when she gets home till when she should go to sleep. The more time, the more resistance.
We've talked to her teachers and they give the same story we know. She's smart and has been using it to coast through her work without using a lot of effort, something that is starting to become a problem as the grades get harder. She's "a dear to work with" but lazy in certain fundamental ways. I think that she gets upset the more we stop her from being lazy. After sending her to sleep last night I came in a few times (to put Sarah Binah to sleep, get her a bottle, etc.) and each time I removed a book from her hands. 4 books and a radio she 'borrowed' from Judith. By the 4th book Judith was home and that's when she got really beligerant. She was laying on the book with her finger inside and when I took it, it hurt her finger (she says so I believe it). Her excuses such as sleeping with it, etc. just didn't fit the facts and when called on that she exploded. I think that's one of the keys with my kids. They don't lie well and when called on their lies, they react badly. I've got to teach them to have better escape routes. :) On Thu, Apr 30, 2009 at 8:19 AM, G Money <gm0n3...@gmail.com> wrote: > > Hey Michael, do the problems always start when school or homework gets > mentioned??? > > Maybe she's having some problems at school that are manifesting themselves > at home? Maybe a talk with her teachers could shed some light if your > daughter doesn't want to talk about it. > > I dunno....just throwin' out ideas. I'll be a dad pretty soon and your > stories are scaring me :/ > > On Wed, Apr 29, 2009 at 9:12 PM, Michael Dinowitz < > mdino...@houseoffusion.com> wrote: > > > > > We're very much on the same page. We're looking for something to help and > > she's out now at a lecture called "hey, mom, can't you see I'm changing? > -- > > understanding and embracing your teenage girl". If I had someone to watch > > the kids I'd be there with her. > > If Judith was here she would pull the same things. I can't say she would > > pull more or less, but at least the same. That is, unless Judith and I > are > > affectionate, in which case that is fodder for negative responses from > her > > (though not from any of the other kids) > > > > On Wed, Apr 29, 2009 at 9:55 PM, Michael Grant <mgr...@modus.bz> wrote: > > > > > > > > That's a really rough spot mate. Not to dig too deep, but are you and > > your > > > wife on the same page with parenting? Would she pull that stuff if mom > > was > > > home? > > > > > > > > > > > ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~| Adobe® ColdFusion® 8 software 8 is the most important and dramatic release to date Get the Free Trial http://ad.doubleclick.net/clk;207172674;29440083;f Archive: http://www.houseoffusion.com/groups/cf-community/message.cfm/messageid:296486 Subscription: http://www.houseoffusion.com/groups/cf-community/subscribe.cfm Unsubscribe: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/unsubscribe.cfm?user=89.70.5
