I'm not a parent - so feel free to disregard anything I say, but I would say that a kid who won't stop reading books isn't the worst thing in the world. Maybe she doesn't want to do her homework because it's the same lame and boring stuff she already learned in class that day. She may just be seeking something new to learn in the books.
I always avoided homework like the plauge. Hated it. I'd actually calculate how much homework I could just simply never do and still pass a class just based on test grades and in-class assignments. But I read a nearly book a night for several years. If these behavior problems are all around schoolwork, it might not be a behavior problem, it might just be a lame schoolwork problem. I haven't read the entire thread, so I may be off base but a reward of a new book (even form the library) might be a better carrot than the stick you are using now. -Cameron On Thu, Apr 30, 2009 at 8:48 AM, Michael Dinowitz <mdino...@houseoffusion.com> wrote: > Not really. I think the association with homework is due to the timeline > from when she gets home till when she should go to sleep. The more time, the > more resistance. > > We've talked to her teachers and they give the same story we know. She's > smart and has been using it to coast through her work without using a lot of > effort, something that is starting to become a problem as the grades get > harder. She's "a dear to work with" but lazy in certain fundamental ways. > > I think that she gets upset the more we stop her from being lazy. After > sending her to sleep last night I came in a few times (to put Sarah Binah to > sleep, get her a bottle, etc.) and each time I removed a book from her > hands. 4 books and a radio she 'borrowed' from Judith. By the 4th book > Judith was home and that's when she got really beligerant. She was laying on > the book with her finger inside and when I took it, it hurt her finger (she > says so I believe it). Her excuses such as sleeping with it, etc. just > didn't fit the facts and when called on that she exploded. I think that's > one of the keys with my kids. They don't lie well and when called on their > lies, they react badly. I've got to teach them to have better escape routes. > :) ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~| Adobe® ColdFusion® 8 software 8 is the most important and dramatic release to date Get the Free Trial http://ad.doubleclick.net/clk;207172674;29440083;f Archive: http://www.houseoffusion.com/groups/cf-community/message.cfm/messageid:296497 Subscription: http://www.houseoffusion.com/groups/cf-community/subscribe.cfm Unsubscribe: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/unsubscribe.cfm?user=89.70.5
