Hi all,
My reasoning for wanting to take my partner's name once we get married is
similar to the point expressed below....for me it too is about letting go
of the past, particularly the past associated with this name and person,
and moving on. I have admittedly taken some heat for this from feminist
circles, but in the final analysis, I believe this is an issue of choice
and should be respectived as such. I honestly hadn't given much thought to
the "ring issue" before these posts...it's interesting and is something
I'll think more on.
Jessica
At 07:55 PM 3/13/99 -0600, you wrote:
>I took my husband's name when I married because of several reasons. One, I
>had no particular fondness for my maiden name because when I was much
>younger my parents had a messy divorce, and my mom remarried and discarded
>my father's name quickly. I had considered hyphenating it, as many people
>have done, but I think for me personally it was letting go of the past and
>moving on. My father has three sons to "carry on the family name" so I
>didn't feel guilty at all. I think it is good that some women now have a
>choice whether or not to keep their own name or not.
>
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>> From: [EMAIL PROTECTED]
>> To: STUDIES IN WOMEN AND ENVIRONMENT <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>
>> Subject: Re: women oppressing women
>> Date: Saturday, March 13, 1999 11:37 PM
>>
>> In a message dated 3/13/1999 11:33:11 PM Eastern Standard Time,
>> [EMAIL PROTECTED] writes:
>>
>> << It is still extremely rare for a man to raise kids or take the
>woman's
>> name, yet this has become an avoided topic. Is it an insignificant
>topic?
>> What do you all think? (Go ahead and yell at me if you want...my skin is
>not
>> TOO thin...) >>
>>
>> I don't think it is insignificant because it is important to you -
>because it
>> symbolizes for you something larger.
>>
>> I have never felt concerned about the idea of "giving up my name" - not
>every
>> woman of every culture gives up her name - and have even (don't hit me)
>> thought about staying home when I have small children. However for me,
>staying
>> home doesn't at all mean that work will cease, or that I will not be
>involved.
>> I can just strap a kid to my back. But that is because of the nature of
>my
>> work, which allows for that flexibility.
>>
>> What is it about wearing a wedding ring that you don't like? What does it
>> symbolize for you?
>>
>>
>> Nicole
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