I think the nature of writing an email is really different even if you are addressing a single person as we all often do. Share and I are in one of those kinds of exchanges right now. Anyone can join in, but because we are directing it to each other it helps focus my writing rather than writing a general piece about a topic. I think it allows you to go deeper with the person while still allowing someone join in if they find some aspect interesting. I'm not sure Share putting someone's name in the title is any more than a heads up. Personally I appreciate it when she does it with me because I don't read everyone's posts and probably would miss it. I think we direct our posts to specific people when we think it might be their cup of tea.
When the process works, we achieve more of a collaboration in thinking. But that seems kind of rare here. More often we have people trying to take a shot at the writer because of some old grudge. My post could have inspired more along the lines of Ann's response, but to get that I had to wade through the three usual suspects trying to use this as an opportunity for a put-down of me personally and some name calling. It makes the place highly unpleasant. I think we have pissed away a chance at a place where real thinking collaboration can occur. Trolls try to dominate with their agenda. I ask about whether Barry has been to Majorca: Nabbie uses it as an excuse to put down my music. Jim calls me naive because he doesn't know where Majorca is in relationship to where Barry lived. Judy accuses me of gloating over good fortune and being immodest, and criticizes me for not inviting everyone else to comment?! And here you are Emily, all in for details about something interesting about a new place. Quick test: find the non-mediator. --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, Emily Reyn <emilymae.reyn@...> wrote: > > I interpreted it as Curtis letting us/FFL know his potential travel plans, > perhaps indirectly, in that he informed the group through a question to > Barry, but no matter - he didn't add a specific prompt in the subject line to > push that agenda.  I enjoy hearing how other people's lives are unfolding > and having never been to Majorca, I want to hear details, details man, > details.  Pictures, food descriptions, travel log or blog, or whatever, if > he decided to go.  > > How many times does Share pose specific questions and responses to specific > people on this public forum?  Cracks me up every time - as if she doesn't > want to hear feedback from whoever - as if she's worried that if she doesn't > tailor the subject line, she won't be heard by who she wants to be heard by. >  And perhaps she won't - oh well.  Those that follow this forum and the > conversations don't seem to need personal prompts, at least in the past that > was the case.  Perhaps she should be emailing people privately? > > > > >________________________________ > > From: authfriend <authfriend@...> > >To: FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com > >Sent: Thursday, March 21, 2013 8:34 AM > >Subject: [FairfieldLife] Re: Majorca Spain > > > > > > > >--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "curtisdeltablues" <curtisdeltablues@> > >wrote: > >> > >> --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "authfriend" <authfriend@> wrote: > >> One would have thought you had Barry's email address. No? > >> > > >> Yes I have many people's emails. When I use this board I > >> am inviting people to join into the discussion as they > >> already have. > > > >Even though you addressed your question specifically to > >Barry ("Hey Barry, Would you mind rapping about Majorca > >for a minute?") because you figured he'd been to Majorca, > >but you didn't invite everyone else to comment. OK. > > > >I guess it's just that if I were inviting everyone to > >comment, I would have written something like, "Hey, > >anybody been to Majorca? Barry, you were there on that > >TTC, and you've lived in Sitges; how about you?" > > > >> Thanks for the concern and for adding so much to the > >> discussion. > > > >No prob. It gave you a chance to gloat publicly about > >your good fortune while seeming only to be asking for > >information from Barry. Just your natural modesty; no > >biggie. > > > >> > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "curtisdeltablues" > >> > <curtisdeltablues@> wrote: > >> > > > >> > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, doctordumbass@ <no_reply@> wrote: > >> > > > > >> > > > So did I, but not in Majorca. It was kind of a naive thing to ask > >> > > > Barry publicly, Curtis, just because he lived briefly in the > >> > > > country. Like someone asking you all about Omaha, Nebraska, because > >> > > > you live in DC, because both cities are in the same country.> > >> > > > >> > > Such a labored, contrived attempt at a putdown. Barry lived in > >> > > Sitgis near Barcelona. That is where you leave from to get to the > >> > > closest, most popular tourist Island in the Mediterranean off that > >> > > coast. As more of a native working there he might not have been > >> > > interested. But my question was closer to asking a resident of > >> > > Massachusetts if they had ever visited Nantucket Island,knowing that > >> > > he had been there before a long time ago. > >> > > >> > One would have thought you had Barry's email address. No? > >> > > >> > > > > > > > > > > >