<<First, other than for the purpose of keeping this thread intact, can we please agree that people don't "turn" gay? I remember Anne Heche speaking at the Millenium March on Washington in 2000, saying "when I turned gay." Oh yeah, that's just what the "anti-gays" want to hear, because if you can turn "left," you can turn "right." >>
not to pick nits, BUT.... i truly believe that each person's sexuality can be seen as a dot on a continuum. "totally heterosexual" at the one end, "totally homosexual" at the other, with all sorts of flavors and varieties of sexuality in between. my particular dot on that continuum (and perhaps anne heche's as well, though i *really* have trouble excusing her "wow... i sure lost my mind" negation of her very high-profile sexual experimentation screw up) is firmly in the center. i can't and won't pick a lover based on their plumbing - i choose based on their heart and their mind. so, maybe i did "turn gay" when i chose to be with gisele? and perhaps i'll "turn straight" again another day? and yes, lori... i realize that i'm in the minority and that there are certainly people who would grab hold of a phrase like "turn gay" and use it as a weapon. and i find that as reprehensible as you do. but thinking about me, and about wally's alberto... it just seems like we need more *words* out there to describe all the different ways out there that it's possible to *be* so that we aren't left bumbling about in the darkness. cindy
