Good luck to you all. I experienced bad after birth
pains that too were no only just like labour but worse I think because you just
want to adore your baby and watch the family etc but the pain is distracting. I
found pon
nstan and hot pack were the most effective (I have
had four babies and this seemed the best). My fourth was a water birth which was
heaven in that the feeling you get in your bum passed really quickly and the
crowning which with the others I found the worst sensation was like a bubble. I
remember clearly that feeing of wow is that it and then lifting my baby up! The
water birth did not help my after birth pains but may have if I got back in
later and it was warm. Try that or a warm bath. My kids loved the bath in the
lounge, but as for being at the birth my second would have fussed over me and I
worried that I would get flustered or short with him so as luck had it he was at
school with the third and in bed listening with the fourth. My eldest did not
want to know about it which really bothered me. my midwife told me in her
experience (which is quite extensive) it is not uncommon for siblings to not
want to be involved and even wanting the baby to be washed first. What I found
was that when my third baby was born my daughter (the eldest) took a while
before she would even look at him. After a while my mum slowly undressed the
baby in front of her and without saying anything and she started looking then
touching and by the evening wanted him in her bed. She still loves him to death
and tends to favour him (he is nearly six she is 13). With our fourth the
children were all in bed and heard his birth. They got up of their own accord
when they heard their sister cry (and her mother father grandparents etc!!) and
fell in love with her straight away. I
guess families are all different go with what suits yours but dont stress
if it isn't the reactions you visualise now. Enjoy, I'm
jealous!!!
Belinda
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