I don't mean to be judgmental in relation to co-sleeping but I am curious about what happens to the couples relationship? I am not a selfish person but I do regard my bed time to be something shared with my husband alone. For me having a child in bed turns my attention away from my partner and intimacy and focuses on my child. That is not what is supposed to happen. Children take up so much time that it's important to be able to find time to nurture our own relationship with our partner, and most of that time is usually at night when the children go to bed and when we go to bed. Children are an extension of us, not a replacement of our affections.
I would be interested to know how the men in your lives are coping with this arrangement. Are they really into it or have they just accepted it? Sylvia Mum to Ellie 10, Chris 6 and Evan 4 (who all breastfed, but never co-slept) -----Original Message----- From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] On Behalf Of Wayne and Cas Sent: Friday, 19 March 2004 8:48 AM To: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Subject: [ozmidwifery] sleep stuff Well, we tried the side car thing last night and he went down without any hassles at 8.30, then woke up at 10pm so I fed him and gently rolled him over to the cot and he didn't stir until 5am this morning. So far so good. It was the best night's sleep I've had in weeks. Thanks for all of your suggestions. I wanted to add though that sleeping with children and babies is not right for everyone. I don't actually know too many adults or children that seem affected by the fact their parents made them sleep in a cot when they were babies. There is a lot more to parenting than whether you co-sleep or not. Ie. If you don't love your kids unconditionally, no amount of co-sleeping is going to give the added security a child needs. I think we are all individuals and so are our children and we just need to work out what best suits them. When Liam was the same age as Daniel he was very hands off, didn't want hugs, didn't want the breast a lot and it hurt me at the time but it was what he needed. Daniel is a totally different baby. I will let you know if our good fortune last night continues. Cheers Cas. Cas, Wayne, Liam and Daniel McCullough [EMAIL PROTECTED] www.casmccullough.com -- This mailing list is sponsored by ACE Graphics. Visit <http://www.acegraphics.com.au> to subscribe or unsubscribe. -- This mailing list is sponsored by ACE Graphics. Visit <http://www.acegraphics.com.au> to subscribe or unsubscribe.
