Silvia - do you only make love in bed? at night time? - after initial differences between the "romantic love" needs and babies we simply became more creative. Now I only have a husband to sleep with - and his respirator -I can tell you thats not particularly conducive to intimacy! Joking aside, I have had mothers , even those who dont co-sleep, talk about their affectionate feelings being transferred to the baby initially anyway and later these feeling return to the partner. Could this be a natural biological survival mechanism? Pinky
----- Original Message ----- From: "Sylvia Boutsalis" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> To: <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> Sent: Friday, March 19, 2004 10:10 AM Subject: RE: [ozmidwifery] sleep stuff > I don't mean to be judgmental in relation to co-sleeping but I am > curious about what happens to the couples relationship? I am not a > selfish person but I do regard my bed time to be something shared with > my husband alone. For me having a child in bed turns my attention away > from my partner and intimacy and focuses on my child. That is not what > is supposed to happen. Children take up so much time that it's important > to be able to find time to nurture our own relationship with our > partner, and most of that time is usually at night when the children go > to bed and when we go to bed. Children are an extension of us, not a > replacement of our affections. > > I would be interested to know how the men in your lives are coping with > this arrangement. Are they really into it or have they just accepted > it? > > Sylvia > Mum to Ellie 10, Chris 6 and Evan 4 (who all breastfed, but never > co-slept) > > > -----Original Message----- > From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] > [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] On Behalf Of Wayne and Cas > Sent: Friday, 19 March 2004 8:48 AM > To: [EMAIL PROTECTED] > Subject: [ozmidwifery] sleep stuff > > > Well, we tried the side car thing last night and he went down without > any hassles at 8.30, then woke up at 10pm so I fed him and gently rolled > him over to the cot and he didn't stir until 5am this morning. So far so > good. It was the best night's sleep I've had in weeks. Thanks for all of > your suggestions. > > I wanted to add though that sleeping with children and babies is not > right for everyone. I don't actually know too many adults or children > that seem affected by the fact their parents made them sleep in a cot > when they were babies. There is a lot more to parenting than whether you > co-sleep or not. Ie. If you don't love your kids unconditionally, no > amount of co-sleeping is going to give the added security a child needs. > I think we are all individuals and so are our children and we just need > to work out what best suits them. When Liam was the same age as Daniel > he was very hands off, didn't want hugs, didn't want the breast a lot > and it hurt me at the time but it was what he needed. Daniel is a > totally different baby. > > I will let you know if our good fortune last night continues. > > Cheers Cas. > > Cas, Wayne, Liam and Daniel McCullough > [EMAIL PROTECTED] > www.casmccullough.com > > > > -- > This mailing list is sponsored by ACE Graphics. > Visit <http://www.acegraphics.com.au> to subscribe or unsubscribe. > > > -- > This mailing list is sponsored by ACE Graphics. > Visit <http://www.acegraphics.com.au> to subscribe or unsubscribe. -- This mailing list is sponsored by ACE Graphics. Visit <http://www.acegraphics.com.au> to subscribe or unsubscribe.
