This is something that needs to be discussed at the beginning of the relationship so there aren't any surprises. If one's partner is bi then there should be arrangements made that allows him or her to be with a person that they are interested in outside of the marriage without reprisal.
On Sat, Apr 3, 2010 at 7:26 AM, Keith Johnson <[email protected]>wrote: > > > There's insecurity, true. But, as I asked in my long post to Adrianne, if a > straight person were to get into a relationship with a bi person, is it > realistic or fair to expect that bi person to be happy forever? Let's leave > judgement and prejudices about gay or bi promiscuity out of it, as I don't > subscribe to those thoughts. > What I'm saying is, if my mate finds women as attractive as men, can she > really be happy with just me for the rest of her life? I believe in marrying > for life; again, not a judgement or moral standing. It's just my preference. > I absolutely think marriage isn't for everyone. But if I'm in it for the > next 40 or 50 years, can I be assured my wife, who is bi, will be cool > living the straight life only for that long? Isn't that asking her to deny a > whole half of her needs? > > > ----- Original Message ----- > From: "Mr. Worf" <[email protected]> > To: [email protected] > Sent: Friday, April 2, 2010 8:39:59 PM GMT -05:00 US/Canada Eastern > Subject: Re: [scifinoir2] "True Blood" Star Pacquin Comes Out on Video > > > > What you are talking about is insecurity. The fear is that the person who > is bi will leave the other person for someone of the same sex. (ie. they are > really gay) That is a myth. The flip side of that is there another myth that > the person that is gay is secretly straight. Both cloud the real issue of > insecurity. > > The cure for insecurity is trust. I don't expect folks in this group to > totally understand what I'm talking about because this group isn't an > alternative sexuality one, but I know what I'm talking about. > > On Fri, Apr 2, 2010 at 2:30 PM, Keith Johnson > <[email protected]>wrote: > >> >> >> Sorry, not mine. I've never understood why anyone would want to be with >> someone who's not totally "committed". It's hard enough to have to keep >> tabs on an attractive, famous person being faithful to you on one side of >> the fence. I wouldn't want to be worried about someone being attracted to >> both sides. >> >> But I hear what you're saying. >> >> By the way, I've known some guys who've been involved in those situations, >> and no matter how cool and with-it they claimed to be ahead of time, they >> always had issues when the women sometimes enjoyed each other without the >> dude. It was a combination of things. One, once the dude's passion dies >> down and he's thinking again, he always freaks out a bit when realizing this >> person is actually enjoying being with someone of the same sex. And two, >> they actually weren't as cool about sharing their mate with someone as they >> thought, even though they thought it would be less difficult with another >> woman. >> >> >> ----- Original Message ----- >> From: "Mr. Worf" <[email protected]> >> To: [email protected] >> Sent: Friday, April 2, 2010 3:00:17 PM GMT -05:00 US/Canada Eastern >> Subject: Re: [scifinoir2] "True Blood" Star Pacquin Comes Out on Video >> >> >> >> She's bi. Not gay. She still does men. Why would they be disappointed? >> This would fuel some men's fantasies of a 3way. :) >> >> On Fri, Apr 2, 2010 at 10:27 AM, Keith Johnson <[email protected] >> > wrote: >> >>> >>> >>> Didn't know or even suspect this about Pacquin. I'm sure there will be >>> a lot of disappointed men out there now! >>> >>> As for Ricky Martin: file it in the "Worst Kept Secret" folder. I think >>> Clay Aiken's dossier was already in there... >>> >>> >>> >>> *************************************************** >>> >>> >>> 'True Blood' Star Anna Paquin Uses Surprising Medium to Reveal Sexual >>> Orientation By Mike Ryan | Thursday, April 1, 2010, 5:04 PM >>> >>> >>> Anna Paquin >>> Jordan Strauss/WireImage >>> >>> Hot on the heels of Ricky Martin's >>> announcement<http://new.music.yahoo.com/blogs/stopthepresses/132331/ricky-martin-i-am-a-fortunate-homosexual-man/>on >>> his personal blog that he's gay, "True >>> Blood <http://tv.yahoo.com/true-blood/show/39147>" star Anna >>> Paquin<http://tv.yahoo.com/anna-paquin/contributor/29335> used >>> an unusual >>> medium<http://omg.yahoo.com/news/anna-paquin-i-m-bisexual/38428>of her own >>> to announce that she is bisexual. >>> >>> >>> >>> Alongside celebrities such as Elton >>> John<http://tv.yahoo.com/elton-john/contributor/59894>, >>> Clay Aiken <http://tv.yahoo.com/clay-aiken/contributor/1207678>, and Wanda >>> Sykes <http://tv.yahoo.com/wanda-sykes/contributor/52103>, Paquin declared >>> her sexual >>> orientation<http://www.radaronline.com/exclusives/2010/03/exclusive-true-blood-star-reveals-true-self-anna-paquin-says-shes-bisexual>in >>> a public service announcement for Cyndi >>> Lauper <http://tv.yahoo.com/cyndi-lauper/contributor/37182>'s Give a >>> Damn Campaign <http://www.wegiveadamn.org/upgrade/>, which promotes >>> equality for the lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender community. Two >>> videos were shot in Los Angeles on January 30 and were released April 1 at 9 >>> a.m. EST. >>> >>> >>> What makes 27-year-old Paquin's spot particularly surprising is that, >>> unlike some of the other openly gay celebrities involved in the campaign, >>> the actor had never before discussed being bisexual. According to >>> RadarOnline.com, even people at the shoot were surprised when Paquin made >>> the revelation. >>> >>> >>> >>> A second PSA features "Sex and the >>> City<http://tv.yahoo.com/sex-and-the-city/show/205>" >>> actor Cynthia >>> Nixon<http://tv.yahoo.com/cynthia-nixon/contributor/771088>(who came >>> out in 2006 <http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cynthia_Nixon>), Jason Mraz, Kim >>> Kardashian <http://tv.yahoo.com/kim-kardashian/contributor/2220832>, and >>> Sharon <http://tv.yahoo.com/sharon-osbourne/contributor/790868> and Kelly >>> Osbourne <http://tv.yahoo.com/kelly-osbourne/contributor/790850>. >>> >>> Paquin follows an interesting trend of celebrities forgoing the >>> traditional "coming out" People magazine interview -- à la Clay Aiken and >>> Lance >>> Bass <http://tv.yahoo.com/lance-bass/contributor/49638> -- and instead >>> controlling the message themselves. Ricky Martin buried his announcement at >>> the bottom of an otherwise banal blog post, and now Paquin is using her >>> announcement to drive attention to a cause she supports. So much attention, >>> in fact, that servers at wegiveadamn.org crashed shortly >>> after<http://www.radaronline.com/exclusives/2010/04/video-gay-rights-website-crashes-after-anna-paquin-bisexual-bombshell>the >>> news broke of Paquin's statement. >>> >>> >>> >>> Paquin -- who at age 11 became the second-youngest Oscar winner in >>> history when she won for best supporting actress for "The Piano" -- has been >>> notoriously shy about discussing her private life and has never before >>> discussed her sexuality. In 2007, she was romantically >>> linked<http://omg.yahoo.com/news/anna-paquin-i-m-bisexual/38428>with actor >>> Kieran >>> Culkin <http://tv.yahoo.com/kieran-culkin/contributor/32918>. In August >>> 2009, she and "True Blood" costar Stephen >>> Moyer<http://tv.yahoo.com/stephen-moyer/contributor/44265>announced their >>> engagement. >>> >>> >>> >>> The Give a Damn campaign is part of Cyndi Lauper's True Colors Fund >>> (named after her popular 1986 song and album). Lauper is currently >>> promoting the >>> cause<http://www.nbc.com/the-apprentice/contestants/cyndi-lauper/charity.shtml>during >>> her turn on the Donald >>> Trump <http://tv.yahoo.com/donald-trump/contributor/1028501>-judged show >>> "Celebrity Apprentice <http://tv.yahoo.com/the-apprentice/show/35539>." >>> >>> >>> >>> >> >> >> -- >> Celebrating 10 years of bringing diversity to perversity! >> Mahogany at: >> http://groups.yahoo.com/group/mahogany_pleasures_of_darkness/ >> >> >> >> > > > -- > Celebrating 10 years of bringing diversity to perversity! > Mahogany at: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/mahogany_pleasures_of_darkness/ > > > > > -- Celebrating 10 years of bringing diversity to perversity! 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