Dear Sarma-da:
Obviously I annoyed you again. Once again my apologies. I respect your privacy, just like others'. But as you would recognize, *I* did not drag YOU or others into it. And I take the liberty of writing to you on this issue one last time. I am sure you won't like to have me feel like the victim of a drive-by-charge and/or insinuation, while the perpetrator flees the scene, would you? Believe me, *I* would never do that to you :-). I just wished Hazarika had realized what he was doing when he took all of you along for the joy-ride :-). *** I won't argue with your contention about my inconsistencies. You might be right. I am not immune to it, particularly when my memory fails me, which has that nasty habit of showing up every now and then. The other day, I forgot the first name of one of my closest friends when I was talking to him. Talk about unmitigated embarassment. However the example you gave in support of your point was so incomplete, that it did not do justice. But since you give me permission, I might present it to netters ' examination, in full, so that it could be considered in context. > My belief is he is still the simple, straight thinking person he ever >was, is >and shall be. ---- ------ >There is nothing wrong in raising an issue and discuss but why do you >question >every one's motives? You truly believe Hazarika is writing for >someone else or >someone else's agenda? *** Well, had I been a lawyer I might have said 'I rest my case, your Honor'. You validated my belief that Hazarika is not the kind of person his posts make him out to be. So WHY is he doing it? There must be a reason. I won't be the one to imply that he is doing it for amusement, or that he might have misplaced his marbles, would you :-)? So the question of motive cannot be brushed aside, particularly when he chose to exerecise the silence option. For old times' sakes, I would much rather see him bearing somebody else's cross ( pardon the Biblical metaphor) than plead the fifth amendment :-). Far more honorable that way. I knew that when I examine it in public, it is liable to sting others. My apologies if it stung you. Again I wished Hazarika had considered it while he embarked on this venture, which is quite unlike him. >It only gives me hurt and sadness when people start writing anonymous >letter(s) >in my name accusing me of making nonsensical statements to >discredit me. This >type of lowly insulting, moronic tactic will not work, >it cannot work in a >civilized society, but rather backfire, once the >person's name becomes public. >The person becomes marginalized and we have >seen examples of those too in our >community. *** Sarma-da, you are being too charitable here. I could be a whole lot worse in MY characterizations, if you know what I mean. Incidentally I have been there, and been on the recieving end of it so many times that I have become totally insensitive to that kind of tripe. *** Finally thanks much for the kind words. I am sure I don't deserve half of it, but I won't look a gift horse in the mouth :-). I have no doubt about your intentions here Sarma da. And I won't take your upbraiding personally. You gave me the 'uttom-modhoyom' in the past, and I took it and digested it without stomach troubles. Similarly I hope you or Baideu won't take my disagreements with YOU on various issues time to time, the wrong way. I like to get to bottom of issues that trouble us, by exploring them, even if they tend to hurt our sentiments some times. It is necessary to bury those demons that haunt our community. The only way it could be done is by dissecting them in the light of day in full view of the interested public. But I would not do that if it has to hurt the friendships that we cherish. My only complaint is that you praised my brother Sashi Dada so much, that by omitting me from the rolls left me looking like a ne'r-do-well, not-as-nice- fella-as-his-brother kind of dude in front of the wide world of Assam Netters. Comparing siblings in public is said to cause severe trauma. Dr. Tilok told me this :-). As always, with the best of regards, Chandan At 1:45 PM -0400 9/18/03, [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote: > Dear Chandan: You have copied this great analysis of intentions of >people again, particularly Hazarika's motives. My belief is he is still >the simple, straight thinking person he ever was, is and shall be. People >do not change behavioral pattern at the ripe old age of 50+ years (Here I >am assuming Hazarika's age). We learn these behavioral attitudes at our >homes in our formative years. Anyway, coming to my point, I am not >interested in this 'he says she says' kind of discussions that leads to >nowhere except make people bitter and frustrated. I have had long personal >discussions and written communications with you over the years on many of >these aspects and you know my position quite well. Recently, you >charged me being 40 feet away from touching an issue related to >unification or organization or some such topic. You know the reasons why I >wrote to you the way I did. Discussions became meaningless and >unproductive. You apologized thinking you touched my raw nerve. You >probably did at that time. However, later I did discuss the subject and >you said I was very persuasive with my augments. But then again, when I >did respond, you said I am singing to the choir, meaning you, and that I >need not have responded to your comment regarding touching the topic with >a forty feet pole. There are a lot of inconsistencies I see in your >positions. But you are a highly intelligent person and it makes no sense >to me when you such inconsistent positions. It, therefore, appears to me >that you love to egg on unsuspecting people to issues that really are >quite unimportant to the growth of the Assamese community and particularly >the next generation(s) that are growing up here, I mean our children and >grandchildren. Why don't you start doing things that would usher in good >feeling in the community and not perpetuate interminable discussions that >do not produce any concrete result? Let those that are not active as you >are in community affairs keep on writing uselessly as they love to do. And >there are no shortage of those, either. So here is my request, and >mind you Chandan, do not misunderstand me. I have great love for you and >your family. I admire your creativity, your hard work, tenacity and your >contribution to the community over the years and I have said so publicly. >I have known your brother Sashi who was my classmate at IIT. What a >wonderful person he is. I also had the opportunity to know, not as >intimately as Sashi or you, your elder brother. So there is nothing >hurtful that I am trying to do here. It is simply a question that I have >had in my mind and I want to ask you to explain. Why is it that you >always fancy some queer notion to question each and everyone's motive for >trying to do or act on behalf of the community? Is it out of your personal >experience in life? I thought you are a creative person with a lot of >security about who you are. There is nothing wrong in raising an issue >and discuss but why do you question every one's motives? You truly believe >Hazarika is writing for someone else or someone else's agenda? So here >is my request once again. I do not want to see any mail regarding these >discussions. That does not mean you can't write to me. You are most >welcome to discuss issues, more esoteric and even mundane topics of the >day if you want to. I do not mind discussing important issues with you >where we may have some positive contribution. But wasting time over >interminable discussions by people who do not have anything better to do >and actually which will not have any positive impact but generate >bitterness, anger and frustration in the community, is not my desire. So >please do not copy me on these topics. You please write to me if you have >suggestion(s) regarding our next convention. As far as I am concerned, >unification can be dealt with by the executives of the existing >organizations. By the way, if you wish, you may put our previous >discussions on this topic in the Net. You know I have nothing to hide. It >only gives me hurt and sadness when people start writing anonymous >letter(s) in my name accusing me of making nonsensical statements to >discredit me. This type of lowly insulting, moronic tactic will not work, >it cannot work in a civilized society, but rather backfire, once the >person's name becomes public. The person becomes marginalized and we have >seen examples of those too in our community. I believe I have written >enough. With best wishes. Sarma da. _______________________________________________ Assam mailing list [EMAIL PROTECTED] http://pikespeak.uccs.edu/mailman/listinfo/assam
