You had made a very definitive statement when stating a distance, but could not supply a reason. Just hostility.
Instead what I am suggesting is that when confronted with that sort of counter, look at your reasons why. For instance if it the response was "it feels better, I'm more comfortable with it." That's a more reasonable response and much more acceptable to other than what you displayed.Chances are it would have been accepted etc than your actual response to the question, which generated insults flying back and forth when it was never necessary. I know I've been more than just a bit guilty in doing so myself. I am trying to change such with this part of the thread by making more constructive comments, and trying to change the tone of the conversation to something more positive. On Wed, Aug 18, 2010 at 12:28 PM, Sam <sammyc...@gmail.com> wrote: > > Because taking out a tape measure to determine what distance is > acceptable is asking an unanswerable question. How does one arrive at > that? It's being obnoxious. My response was 4 blocks just to point out > that a mosque was already there and it had nothing to do with > intolerance to Muslims as a whole. > > > On Wed, Aug 18, 2010 at 11:57 AM, Larry C. Lyons <larrycly...@gmail.com> > wrote: >> >> Just observing. You can actually come across as a reasonable person >> once in a while. The problem is that when someone calls you on >> something, instead of answering in a reasonable manner, you get into >> the personal attacks. I think your exchange with Scott is a good >> example. You stated that 4 blocks is a minimum distance for the >> mosque. Scott asked why 4 blocks and not three. Instead of replying >> with a reasoned response you began with the personal attacks on him. >> The end result is that a lot more hysteria was generated on your part. >> If you had explained why 4 blocks was reasonable all that sturm and >> drang would not have been needed. No other insults would have been >> generated either way. And most importantly you would have come off >> sounding (and acting) like a reasonable person, instead of a wild eyed >> fanatic. > > ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~| Order the Adobe Coldfusion Anthology now! http://www.amazon.com/Adobe-Coldfusion-Anthology-Michael-Dinowitz/dp/1430272155/?tag=houseoffusion Archive: http://www.houseoffusion.com/groups/cf-community/message.cfm/messageid:325456 Subscription: http://www.houseoffusion.com/groups/cf-community/subscribe.cfm Unsubscribe: http://www.houseoffusion.com/groups/cf-community/unsubscribe.cfm
