You need to start with yourself and let the others do as they might. Change starts with you you know.
On Wed, Aug 18, 2010 at 4:25 PM, Sam <sammyc...@gmail.com> wrote: > > Good suggestion. > > I think the list of repeat offenders needs to practice this. > > > On Wed, Aug 18, 2010 at 2:05 PM, Larry C. Lyons <larrycly...@gmail.com> wrote: >> >> Very understandable. Now one suggestion if I may, look at what you are >> thinking at that point, and the words you are using. I'm not going to >> play psychotherapist or anything like that. But one thing the data are >> very clear on is the relationship between what and how we are thinking >> and subsequent actions. Absolutist thinking leads to very rigid >> thinking and behavior. We get into a pattern of behavior and it >> becomes very difficult to break out of. I think that it is happening >> with many of us and how we are reacting on this list. Myself included. >> >> One exercise that think that can help is to practice some cognitive >> dissonance. Write a couple of paragraphs presenting the arguments from >> the other side. And they have to be convincing ones. Aside from >> helping to break out of the habitual thinking we tend to get into this >> exercise has another purpose. It allows you to strengthen your own >> arguments. >> > > ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~| Order the Adobe Coldfusion Anthology now! http://www.amazon.com/Adobe-Coldfusion-Anthology-Michael-Dinowitz/dp/1430272155/?tag=houseoffusion Archive: http://www.houseoffusion.com/groups/cf-community/message.cfm/messageid:325540 Subscription: http://www.houseoffusion.com/groups/cf-community/subscribe.cfm Unsubscribe: http://www.houseoffusion.com/groups/cf-community/unsubscribe.cfm
