Yes, openness as a lead in to compassion - I like that idea. Yes, I am working on doing what you describe below in my life. I'm all about trying to "let go" and be more "present and aware of myself and relation to life and others' " these days, which brings a number of other things into more clear focus - like "control" and "fear" and "trust" and on and on and on.
--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "Ann" <awoelflebater@...> wrote: > > > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "emilymae.reyn" <emilymae.reyn@> wrote: > > > > I just looked up "compassion" "sympathy" and "empathy" as I was asking > > myself how I define them. I "feel" for others' and in Share's case, I > > offered her compassion the other day for her "Attachment Disorder" after > > viewing the host of difficult character traits associated with it. This > > was not accurate. What I was offering her was "sympathy." "Compassion" is > > a big word and has an element of action to "relieve suffering" in it. > > > > You, Ann, demonstrate an online version of compassion in many instances > > here. I don't see this in Share, but I can only talk from my perspective. > > Resorting to name-calling, as she does with everyone she doesn't like is > > not a compassionate approach - more of a playground approach. Smile. > > Thanks for your input. I find it always to be worthwhile. > > I think what I can most admire in a person is the ability to 'drop' something > in a moment and do an about face in any situation; for that person to be open > enough to absorb new information and new input in a way that would allow them > to begin fresh again in an old circumstance or in the face of a person they > may be having a 'problem' with. > > This probably has nothing to do with compassion but it does have to do with > openness. This kind of openness can certainly lead to what could appear, at > times, to be compassion. Although I am certainly no saint and am no great > exhibitor of the most positive traits known to man I AM open to finding out > new and different things about people, in fact, I welcome this (especially if > it were to show someone in a better light). Open vs closed. Holding on vs > letting go. Moving on vs remaining static. These are just some of the > qualities I value and am working on within myself. Not in some structured way > as in adopting some path of discipline or spiritual tradition but just by > becoming animated day after day in what I think of as my life. Roll with it > all or become some jaded, angry, embittered and ultimately miserable person. > I think we see this all the time in certain family and friends. Tragic. > > > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "Ann" <awoelflebater@> wrote: > > > > > > > > > > > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "seventhray27" <steve.sundur@> > > > wrote: > > > > > > > > Bless you Judy. I am going to take a nod from the Share playbook and > > > > offer you compassion. > > > > > > Your eyesight is better than mine. I have never seen compassion from > > > Share. She, instead, chooses to view me as arrogant. Are deprecating > > > labels another form of open-heartedness? Emily might have an opinion on > > > this as well. (Emily, feel free to ignore this.) > > > > > > > You'll have to find someone else to play with tonight. > > > > > > > > > > > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "authfriend" wrote: > > > > > > > > > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "seventhray27" steve.sundur@ > > > > wrote: > > > > > > > > > > > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "authfriend" wrote: > > > > > > > > > > > > > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "seventhray27" steve.sundur@ > > > > > > wrote: > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > sure Judy. Carry on with your truth campaign. as Curtis aptly > > > > > > > > pointed out: for someone to constantly declare how "dedicated to > > > > > > > > truth" they are, is not unlike the magician telling everyone > > > > > > > > repeatedly how "this is a plain, ordinary deck" with which I am > > > > > > > > going to perform this trick. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Not if the person is in fact dedicated to truth, unlike the > > > > > > > magician. Curtis isn't, you aren't (as I just got done noting), > > > > > > > Barry obviously isn't. So it isn't at all surprising that the > > > > > > > three of you would be anxious to portray a truth-teller as > > > > > > > a deceiver, is it? > > > > > > > > > > Can I assume you're afraid to answer my question, Stevie? > > > > > > > > > > And that's you in a nutshell, isn't Judy. You can > > > > > > fill in the blank, (as you do), > > > > > > > > > > Which blank would this be, Stevie? > > > > > > > > > > with whomever you determine to be the > > > > > > liar of the hour, or the day. Usually there is no shortage of > > > > > > candidates. > > > > > > > > > > Actually they don't change much from week to week, Stevie. > > > > > > > > > > > And that, pretty much is how you spend your posts here. > > > > > > > > > > And that what, Stevie? Your writing is pretty incoherent > > > > > tonight. I don't think you quite got what I've been saying. > > > > > > > > > > But it's obvious you aren't happy about the truths I've > > > > > been telling, Stevie--you know, like the one about your > > > > > having blamed DrD for bringing up Barry's brother's > > > > > suicide when it was actually Barry who did that. And > > > > > another truth is that you've never retracted your > > > > > accusation nor apologized to DrD for it. > > > > > > > > > > I'm truly sorry that it makes you so uncomfortable, > > > > > Stevie, but them's the breaks. > > > > > > > > > > > And I am glad you have something to aspire towards. Perhaps someone > > > > > > here will take up your cause and make a nomination. > > > > > > I think it would make for a fascinating vetting process. > > > > > > And yikes. Could it be that you could be a possible candidate for > > > > the > > > > > > two different awards that have shown up now. > > > > > > > > > > Oh, Stevie, you've already forgotten what I said in my > > > > > earlier post, and you've even quoted it below. See if > > > > > you can find it. A little practice exercise for you. > > > > > > > > > > > > > but this is how you choose to spend your life force, so I > > > > > > > > hope is gratifying for you. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Not being concerned about the truth, you probably aren't > > > > > > > aware that there are many people who have dedicated their > > > > > > > lives to the truth, sometimes even *sacrificed* their > > > > > > > lives to the truth. Truth and truth-telling have generally > > > > > > > been highly regarded throughout history, something to > > > > > > > strive for. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > http://www.ridenhour.org/prizes_truth_telling.html > > > > > > > > > > > > > > (I wouldn't consider myself to come close to deserving > > > > > > > such a prize because my efforts have been so limited.) > > > > > > > > > > > > > > But there are always those who can't see the importance of > > > > > > > truth, who find it inconvenient and annoying, not worth the > > > > > > > effort; and even those who believe truth just gets in the > > > > > > > way of their needs and desires and whims. And sometimes, of > > > > > > > course, such people are just cowards who *fear* the truth. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "authfriend" wrote: > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "seventhray27" > > > > steve.sundur@ > > > > > > > > wrote: > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > I wonder if anyone even reads those rebuttals. But I suppose > > > > > > > > > > they are gratifying to you. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Right, the point is to get the truth on the record. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > I mean, for example, I certainly wouldn't expect you > > > > > > > > > to retract and apologize for accusing DrD of bringing > > > > > > > > > up Barry's brother's suicide when, as I pointed out in > > > > > > > > > one of those posts, it was actually Barry himself who > > > > > > > > > had done so. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > But that error--blaming DrD for Barry's own behavior-- > > > > > > > > > can't be allowed to stand unrefuted. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > That's just the way it is in this world. Some people > > > > > > > > > care about the truth, and some don't. The former can't > > > > > > > > > force the latter to care, so they do the best they can > > > > > > > > > to ensure the truth is not obscured by those who don't > > > > > > > > > care about it. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > >
