Interesting thing about being triggered. There is both a spectrum of responses, and a continuum of attachment, wrt being triggered.
The more that one is unattached to being triggered, the response is done as soon as it is expressed. However, if there is a strong localized me, the [triggered] response is held onto, and judged, questioned, in terms of the more localized and more identified me. It becomes an entire drama, based on the more localized identity. There is really nothing wrong with reacting to any stimulus, small or large, as appropriate for the moment; being triggered. There is also no solution to be found, by questioning our reaction to something. The solution is to keep being ourselves, and reacting as appropriate, and continue to moderate our response, or at least have the choice to so so, as we ever expand our awareness [which of course means letting any current identity go]. --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, Share Long <sharelong60@...> wrote: > > Wong you Wascally Wabbit, Doc! I said floats yer boat echoing what turq had > said to me and OMMV because he often says YMMV. Unless I'm very triggered, > I don't even think thoughts like your door phrase below. YMMV (-: > > > > > ________________________________ > From: "doctordumbass@..." <doctordumbass@...> > To: FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com > Sent: Tuesday, April 23, 2013 4:05 PM > Subject: [FairfieldLife] Re: to azgrey was what a Sunday on FFL > > > >  > Share, He trots this little drama out from time to time, when he becomes > overwrought by his inability to interact gracefully on FFL. No need to fret, > I assure you. He needs this place like a Turquoise Bee needs honey. > > However on second read, your reply does sound a bit like, "sorry to see you > go, but don't let the door hit you in the butt on the way out." :-) > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, Share Long <sharelong60@> wrote: > > > > well turq I would miss you if you stopped posting here but OMMV and > > obviously you must do whatever floats yer boat (-: > > > > > > > > > > ________________________________ > > From: turquoiseb <no_re...@yahoogroups.com> > > To: FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com > > Sent: Tuesday, April 23, 2013 12:40 PM > > Subject: [FairfieldLife] Re: to azgrey was what a Sunday on FFL > > > > > > > > à> > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, Share Long <sharelong60@> wrote: > > > > > > dear my turqish delight and Ann who was looking forward > > > to this reply. BTW Ann, I have another in the queue 4 u. > > > Anyway, turq, thank you because my feelings were hurt > > > when you gave all those kudos to Curtis and Steve yesterday. > > > > That's called 'ego,' otherwise known as 'self-importance.' > > You'll get over it. Either that, or you won't. :-) > > > > > But I think I've learned a thing or two here at the Funny > > > Farm Lounge so I simply enjoyed myself, hopefully not being > > > mean spirited in the process and Bob's your uncle! Here we are! > > > > > > If you're saying that I shouldn't let them matter to me in > > > an unhealthy way, then I totally agree with you. But turq, > > > I gotta let them matter to me, you know, in a healthy way, > > > even if I don't like how they're acting. > > > > If you feel that you have so much time remaining in your > > life that you feel OK spending it interacting with people > > who are only trying to set you up for the next time they > > can vent their own unhappiness on you and yell at you, so > > be it. You *know* in advance that this is what is going to > > happen. So if you continue to interact with them, some part > > of you *enjoys* being yelled at. Cool, I guess. Some people > > enjoy being tied up and whipped, or engaging in orgies with > > dwarves and small rodents. It's an odd planet, and there > > is room for pretty much any kind of kinkiness. :-) > > > > > I think it might be my biggest life lesson, whatever the > > > heck that is! In this project, FFL is a great classroom, > > > wicked grin. > > > > As I said, whatever floats yer boat. Better you wasting > > your time with these people than me. > > > > > Hope your project is on schedule, going well, being fun, etc. > > > > All of the above. Paris has been an utter delight, both at > > work and away from it. The contrast it provides to FFL and > > the normal conversations here makes me feel less and less > > like being here. To be perfectly honest, the grittiest > > banlieus (urban slums) of Paris are often more high-vibe. > > > > I'm not knocking your decision to keep interacting with > > people who you *know* intend you ill, and are only feign- > > ing civility in between yelling at you, hoping that *either* > > of these tactics will tempt you into continuing to interact > > with them. From my point of view, you're fortunate that one > > of them isn't (at the current time) Robin, because then -- > > like Curtis -- you'd have them writing serial short-story > > length diatribes at you and actually expecting you to read > > them. The current crop of pissants don't have the attention > > span to do that, so you get off relatively easy. :-) > > > > Whatever floats yer boat... > > > > > ________________________________ > > > From: turquoiseb <no_re...@yahoogroups.com> > > > To: FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com > > > Sent: Monday, April 22, 2013 11:37 PM > > > Subject: [FairfieldLife] Re: to azgrey was what a Sunday on FFL > > > > > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, Share Long <sharelong60@> wrote: > > > > > > > > Earth Day is ending, the lawn > > > > of my lady-parts is still not green. > > > > Has J's curse gone astray, dear grey? > > > > > > Share, despite AZ's...uh...colorful metaphor, I don't think > > > you're in danger of your lady parts turning green any time > > > soon. However, I think I detect a distinct tinge of jealousy- > > > green coming from the person who has been reduced to sputter- > > > ing badly-tranliterated Yiddish insults at you. :-) > > > > > > What's going on is that she has been counting on you being > > > her Ongoing Victim, and in being to get you to rise to the > > > bait whenever she taunts you. You have been failing to do > > > that, which drives her CRAZY because she considers herself > > > so much SMARTER than you are. > > > > > > ALL of her fantasies (as expressed on this forum, anyway... > > > who knows what she fantasizes about privately) revolve > > > around *ruining someone's day*, and making them feel bad > > > because she's "proved them wrong" or "made them appear to > > > look stupid" or devastated them with her oh-so-barbed > > > tongue. And NONE Of that has been working on you. > > > > > > You've been doing to her what Curtis did to Robin and what > > > I've done to Judy for some time -- LAUGHING AT HER. And > > > this drives her stark raving bonkers. She really can't > > > COMPREHEND how anyone can sit back and *not* react to her > > > ongoing taunts and insults, so you've essentially confounded > > > her and rendered her powerless and sputtering in a language > > > she (clearly) doesn't even know. > > > > > > Read my lips...if this keeps up, and you continue to just > > > laugh at her taunts and those of her groupies trying to > > > get you to react, they'll eventually move on to some other > > > victim. Possibly (and more entertainingly) they'll start > > > to turn on each other. The important thing from their > > > point of view is that they HAVE a victim, and that they > > > are AFFECTING that victim, making them feel bad, being the > > > chronic abusers they are against co-dependent victims who > > > "play along" by agreeing to feel abused. > > > > > > If we just LAUGH at them (while pitying them a little for > > > the emptiness of a life that renders this their only form > > > of entertainment or fulfillment) and go on living our > > > lives AS IF THEY SIMPLY DIDN'T MATTER, sooner or later > > > one or more of them might catch a clue and realize that > > > THEY DON'T. > > > > > > > ________________________________ > > > > From: azgrey <no_re...@yahoogroups.com> > > > > To: FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com > > > > Sent: Monday, April 22, 2013 6:14 PM > > > > Subject: [FairfieldLife] Re: what a Sunday on FFL > > > > > > > > Dear Share, > > > > > > > > Google has a full translation function. I'm not sure that > > > > the Jerseyese section contains all of the dialects as what > > > > I came up with is she either wants to preform sanyama > > > > on your lawn or is expressing an unnatural interest in the > > > > operation of your lady-parts. > > > > > > > > Alex might be able to help as he seen to be a native speaker. > > > > He might have to first get a refill on his ointment. > > > > > > > > Hugs, > > > > > > > > azgrey > > > > > > > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "authfriend" <authfriend@> wrote: > > > > > > > > > > Share, are you familiar with the expression "Blow it > > > > > out your ass"? > > > > > > > > > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, Share Long <sharelong60@> wrote: > > > > > > > > > > > > Judy, your biases are noted.ÃÆ'ââ¬Å¡ÃâàAs is your > > > > > > continuing self > > > > > > delusion about the presence of those biases and your ongoing > > > > > > inability to see more complete truth much less express it. > > > > > (snip) > > > > > > > > > > > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, Share Long <sharelong60@> > > > > > > wrote: > > > > > > (snip) > > > > > > > from Judy, best expression of her > > > > > > > *hypochondria:ÃÆ'Ã'âââ¬à ¡ÃÆ'ââ¬Å¡ÃâàI'm > > > > > > > allergic > > > > > > > to dishonesty. > > > > > > (snip) > > > > > > > *hypochondria n. The persistent conviction that one is or is > > > > > > > likely to become ill, often involving symptoms when illness > > > > > > > is neither present nor likely, > > > > > > > > > > > > Says the person who has to her discredit an *astounding* > > > > > > number of examples of the most flagrant dishonesty--most > > > > > > recently her combined smear of raunchy and Robin today-- > > > > > > including rewriting history as documented by *her own > > > > > > posts*, and who has been unable either to explain away > > > > > > the dishonesty or acknowledge it. > > > > > > > > > > > > (And by the way, the symptoms of allergy *are* the illness.) > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > >
