From: [EMAIL PROTECTED]You live thru greif(hopefully) and eventually it gets easier to handle. It's immediacy gradually lessens but it never goes away. it becomes a part of your fabric.
What I wanted to see, was: how do you REALLY cope with
grief? When it really keeps hurting without surprise solutions, when you
don't have a deus ex machine hopping along? How do you learn to be strong
ON YOUR OWN or just with some pretty average people around you to give
pretty average support? How to snap yourself out of that "nothing compares"
despair...
Strength comes on it's own just virtue of each passing hour.Other people cannot do it for you. Good people around you just let you be. Maybe they will remind you that 'this too shall pass' but really they will just let you be and try to fix you.
Or course it is possible tolet yourself get stuck in 'grief' by becomign dpressed or angry or obsessed rather then really feel the agony. Grief is not something one really gets over, one passes thru it and sometimes another is needed to pull one thru.
Grief cannot be shaken off as if it never was. It shapes you, becomes a part of you. It informs your future. It often accentuates one's own compassion for others. Often it canlead to hatred too. Grief not dealt with and gone sour.
bw
colin
