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Sent: Monday, September 29, 2003 3:25
PM
Subject: Re: [Sndbox] Pick one
(immorality glamorized)
AJ <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>
answered me:
>> I didn't say the man wasn't at fault, just that the two women
aren't blameless either.
> I am sorry lowell but how is it the woman's fault? She should
have known better as well but that still does not make the man commit
adultery.
Each individual person involved in the triangle is absolutely responsible
for his/her bad actions. However, each individual also bears
responsibility for those actions he/she takes that increase the likelihood of
bad actions taking place. IIRC the discussion preceding my answer to
Jackie, "Jackie" increased the likelihood that "Tom" would cheat by
mistreating him, while "Jen" increased it by actively seducing him. I'm
not at all saying that either excuses him, because it doesn't, but it does
help explain why things happened.
> If a woman is laying out in her backyard and you happen to look out
and see her is it the woman's fault that you decided to stare?
No. (This, of course, is how David started lusting after
Bathsheba.) The woman, however, might bear some responsibility if she
failed to check the sight lines before deciding to lay out. Did she
really have a reasonable expectation of privacy? (Gee, I'm not a
lawyer, but I can sure sound like one sometimes!)
> You could have told yourself no and walked back inside. Granted
human nature might get you to a point to come to a crossroad but the option to
say no is still always present.
I believe "always" is too strong here, that "usually" is more
appropriate. Some circumstances really can remove a person's ability to
say no (though from the religious standpoint I believe that won't happen to
Christians under temptation).
Best wishes,
Lowell
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