As I said, I DO understand.....doesn't mean I agree.....but understand, completely. I too have had loved one's in those situations.....so I'm not completely clueless. ( My Grandfather, Mom's Dad died in a coma for one )
But even understanding, I do think you can say what you would do when you have strong convictions about something and live by them. Easy? No....Possible? Yes...and no I am NOT saying I would be above making what I would consider to be a mistake.....pray I wouldn't, don't think I would....but we're all human. But doesn't mean I would be right.... If you accept that there is one Biblical reason for divorce, it's a easy answer. That is what I was basing my reply on....that and the fact I couldn't fathom placing my needs above the one I loved.....I've lived a decade single ( if I'm single 4 more years and a few months ) I certainly think I could do it, if my signifigant other were laying in a coma.....again, that's just *me*. P.S. As to what Jen and I were talking about earlier, and going back to the cheater thread. For all those that said things about being selfish for considering your own needs or going outside of your marriage for whatever reason.....in a case of them being in a coma to me would be far worse than doing it when they were fine. Because then I would feel I was abandoning them when they could do nothing about it......judgeing no one else...so don't read that into it....I'm talking about *me* and how I would feel. But understand, because we're all human....I can more than understand. Understanding does not however equal agreeing with..... ----- Original Message ----- From: "Charles" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> To: "'The Sandbox Discussion List'" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> Sent: Thursday, October 16, 2003 3:34 PM Subject: RE: [Sndbox] Right to Die > And I'm just saying that it's one thing to say what you would do, and it > becomes infinitely more complicated when it is your loved one lying in the > coma, or on the ventilator. > > I've helped make the decision to terminate life support, or withhold it more > than once, and sat with people who have had to make it. I've experience in > my own family a loved one who could breathe on her own for 20 years, but for > all practical purposes was dead. Yeah, her husband chose to divorce her and > get on with his life, but anyone who knew him or her could never say he was > being cruel or unkind to her. Even after remarrying (which he didn't for a > very long time) he sat at the hospital every day, spent every dime he could > to see she got the best care, but he did get on with his life. She was my > blood kin, I took my name from her, and I say without hesitation she would > have approved of him doing just what he did. Were she able she would have > given her blessing. It didn't mean he loved her less, but he had to accept > reality that she wasn't coming back. We do not know why God allowed her to > linger as long as he did, she died earlier this year, but no decisions > regarding her care were easy for the family. > > I'm just saying these kinds of cases are never as easy or simple as they may > seem. A lot of heartache takes place when one's loved one gets put on life > support. I know. I've been there, done that and sold the t-shirt to lose > the memories. > > > Charles Mims ________________________________ Changes to your subscription (unsubs, nomail, digest) can be made by going to http://sandboxmail.net/mailman/listinfo/sndbox_sandboxmail.net
