Don't blame Denise. I overreacted to something that really had nothing to do with me.
Again, I apologize to everyone on the list for blowing it way out of proportion. On Sat, Feb 22, 2020 at 7:35 PM Joe Marougi <jmaro...@gmail.com> wrote: > Congrats Denise! > > You singlehandedly ruined this whole fucking group with your arrogant and > abrasive bullshit. > > All that education and you truly SUCK at communicating. Miserable > pathetic person. > > > > On Sat, Feb 22, 2020 at 7:12 PM Robert Suárez <rob3rt.sua...@gmail.com> > wrote: > >> S A M E ! >> >> >> On Sat, Feb 22, 2020, 7:09 PM Monica Lesher <lesher.mon...@gmail.com> >> wrote: >> >>> SAMEEEE >>> >>> On Sat, Feb 22, 2020, 22:08 Lerato Khathi < >>> booki...@uzuriartistbookingsandmanagement.com> wrote: >>> >>>> somebdy pls help me unsubscribe from this group . >>>> i'd forgotten how to do it . >>>> pls need to get out of here asap . >>>> >>>> On Sun, 23 Feb 2020 at 10:47, Mister Jones <misterjones...@gmail.com> >>>> wrote: >>>> >>>>> Yes, I know what gaslighting is and that's clearly not what's going on >>>>> here. >>>>> >>>>> I'll quit with this whole topic. I saw what was written and it set me >>>>> off. My apologies to you, Denise, for responding the way I did and to the >>>>> list for even engaging in it. >>>>> >>>>> Been listening to a bunch of Boiler Room sets lately. Kenny Larkin, >>>>> Octave One, and the like. >>>>> >>>>> On Sat, Feb 22, 2020 at 3:30 PM Denise Dalphond < >>>>> denisedalph...@gmail.com> wrote: >>>>> >>>>>> Ever heard of gaslighting? You’re free to join the #MeToo movement. I >>>>>> don’t care about yr background. And I don’t care about yr feelings. I >>>>>> like >>>>>> techno music, though. A lot. I heard a techno song on Ann Arbor radio >>>>>> just >>>>>> the other day. >>>>>> >>>>>> Denise >>>>>> >>>>>> On Sat, Feb 22, 2020 at 6:24 PM Mister Jones < >>>>>> misterjones...@gmail.com> wrote: >>>>>> >>>>>>> True, you did say that, but you said much more and it's the rest of >>>>>>> what you wrote that I take issue with. Men and boys would likely talk >>>>>>> more >>>>>>> if we received the same encouragement and support women did, but we >>>>>>> don't... At all. We're made fun of when we speak on what's happened. Our >>>>>>> harassment claims are never taken seriously when it's a woman we're >>>>>>> complaining about. A man filing a report against a female rapist is >>>>>>> likely >>>>>>> to be laughed out of the station (this isn't speculation, it's >>>>>>> documented >>>>>>> to have happened). So we keep it to ourselves and tough it out because, >>>>>>> like male victims of domestic abuse, there's zero support for us. >>>>>>> >>>>>>> Is it really brave when you have the support of a whole community >>>>>>> standing behind you to come forward? Or is it brave when you stand up >>>>>>> and >>>>>>> do it completely alone? >>>>>>> >>>>>>> On Sat, Feb 22, 2020 at 2:52 PM Denise Dalphond < >>>>>>> denisedalph...@gmail.com> wrote: >>>>>>> >>>>>>>> I said most children have been molested by at least one family >>>>>>>> member. Gender neutral. I’m well aware that females molest and abuse >>>>>>>> people. >>>>>>>> >>>>>>>> Men should talk about it more. But it’s scary. Which leads me to >>>>>>>> remember how brave women are. Because we talk about that stuff. >>>>>>>> >>>>>>>> >>>>>>>> >>>>>>>> On Sat, Feb 22, 2020 at 3:15 PM Mister Jones < >>>>>>>> misterjones...@gmail.com> wrote: >>>>>>>> >>>>>>>>> So... I've been in therapy since mid-August dealing with a range >>>>>>>>> of issues and at their core was the fact that I had been molested as a >>>>>>>>> child, not by a family member, not by the Catholic priest I served >>>>>>>>> under >>>>>>>>> for three years as an altar boy, but by two older girls, one female >>>>>>>>> and one >>>>>>>>> male classmate, and as a teenager sexually accosted by grown women in >>>>>>>>> my >>>>>>>>> neighborhood in Detroit. This shit reared it's head this late in life >>>>>>>>> (I'm >>>>>>>>> just a few years short of 50) bringing nothing but chaos. It has >>>>>>>>> destroyed >>>>>>>>> my marriage, wrecked my relationship with my kids, got me in trouble >>>>>>>>> with >>>>>>>>> the law, and brought me to the absolute brink. It's so bad that I'll >>>>>>>>> likely >>>>>>>>> have to pack up my things and moving back to Michigan without my kids, >>>>>>>>> where I'll end up living with my mother and stepfather... At this age. >>>>>>>>> >>>>>>>>> Denise, this is nothing against you... I've been on this list in >>>>>>>>> one form or another for over 20 years and always have thought highly >>>>>>>>> of >>>>>>>>> you... But these days every time I see a woman talking about rape >>>>>>>>> this and >>>>>>>>> that, as if it's just a female-centric issue, I'm reminded that guys >>>>>>>>> like >>>>>>>>> myself are told to suck it up and shut up... and I get royally pissed. >>>>>>>>> Women in general and society at large is pretty dismissive when it's >>>>>>>>> a male >>>>>>>>> victim of a female but "OMG!!! The horror!!! Something must be done! >>>>>>>>> Teach >>>>>>>>> boys not to rape!!!" when it's a female victim of a male. We're told >>>>>>>>> that >>>>>>>>> we should be happy that such things have happened to us when a girl or >>>>>>>>> grown woman comes at us like that and that if it's a boy your age, >>>>>>>>> well... >>>>>>>>> "you should have just kicked his ass". I've had to sit in silence for >>>>>>>>> decades, telling no one about it until it basically destroyed my >>>>>>>>> life. My >>>>>>>>> mother was devastated when I finally told her, my sisters were in >>>>>>>>> shock >>>>>>>>> especially since one of the older girls was from a family extremely >>>>>>>>> close >>>>>>>>> to us (their mother is godmother to two of my younger sisters), my >>>>>>>>> wife was >>>>>>>>> pissed because I never told her and she had often said I occasionally >>>>>>>>> acted >>>>>>>>> like someone that had been molested; something I always denied. >>>>>>>>> Everyone >>>>>>>>> asked "why didn't you ever say something?" not realizing that when >>>>>>>>> you're >>>>>>>>> only 7 years old you really don't know how to process something like >>>>>>>>> this, >>>>>>>>> and in a society back then in the late 70's where this kind of stuff >>>>>>>>> was >>>>>>>>> viewed as "coming of age" or "just a part of growing up" what was I >>>>>>>>> really >>>>>>>>> supposed to say? >>>>>>>>> >>>>>>>>> Denise, to answer your question I'll ask another: What happens >>>>>>>>> when you're a woman and sexually assault or harass a boy or a man? >>>>>>>>> >>>>>>>>> I'll answer it for you: Usually nothing. >>>>>>>>> >>>>>>>>> The world continues to turn. Maybe it makes the news if you're a >>>>>>>>> celebrity, law maker, or some other type of high profile person but >>>>>>>>> you >>>>>>>>> don't worry; it blows over within a few days because nobody cares. >>>>>>>>> You'll >>>>>>>>> continue to get attached to movies as a director and actor (just don't >>>>>>>>> forget to send your victim his hush money first). You'll probably >>>>>>>>> keep your >>>>>>>>> seat in congress or your position as CEO but even if you do step down >>>>>>>>> nobody looks upon you as a lecherous sexual deviant; somehow you're >>>>>>>>> viewed >>>>>>>>> as the victim. If you're a well known professor you might get >>>>>>>>> suspended but >>>>>>>>> you go back to work when it blows over. If you're one of the few that >>>>>>>>> do >>>>>>>>> get arrested, you get a slap on the wrist and very rarely ever have to >>>>>>>>> register as a sex offender. >>>>>>>>> >>>>>>>>> While I get where the sarcasm comes from, Denise, I just want you >>>>>>>>> to understand that there are victims of this kind of thing that aren't >>>>>>>>> female and perps that are female. Guys like me... we're out here, we >>>>>>>>> just >>>>>>>>> rarely ever talk about it. Typically we're too busy sucking it up to >>>>>>>>> complain. >>>>>>>>> >>>>>>>>> Sorry about the rant y'all. >>>>>>>>> >>>>>>>>> On Sat, Feb 22, 2020 at 6:03 AM Denise Dalphond < >>>>>>>>> denisedalph...@gmail.com> wrote: >>>>>>>>> >>>>>>>>>> What happens when you sexually assault women? You get to be the >>>>>>>>>> US President. Or you get to stay being R Kelly makin all that money. >>>>>>>>>> It’s >>>>>>>>>> very common. As a school teacher, it seems that most children in the >>>>>>>>>> US are >>>>>>>>>> being molested and abused by at least one family member. That’s what >>>>>>>>>> I see. >>>>>>>>>> So it’s a part of our human fabric and almost no one cares. You’re >>>>>>>>>> all high >>>>>>>>>> fiving each other every time you hear a new story of a woman gettin >>>>>>>>>> hurt. >>>>>>>>>> So sorry for growing you. What were we thinking. >>>>>>>>>> >>>>>>>>>> I like Derrick May’s haircut right now. >>>>>>>>>> >>>>>>>>>> >>>>>>>>>> >>>>>>>>>> On Sat, Feb 22, 2020 at 4:57 AM Andrew Duke < >>>>>>>>>> andrewdukecognit...@gmail.com> wrote: >>>>>>>>>> >>>>>>>>>>> [Posted by Michael James on FB last night]: If you are a victim >>>>>>>>>>> of rape or sexual assault at the hands of Derrick May anywhere in >>>>>>>>>>> the >>>>>>>>>>> world, please call Tresa Baldas at The Detroit Free Press at >>>>>>>>>>> 1-313-378-7070. She needs to hear your story. Even if you wish to >>>>>>>>>>> remain >>>>>>>>>>> anonymous, she needs to hear from you. All who have reached out to >>>>>>>>>>> me, here >>>>>>>>>>> is a chance to stop this from happening to future victims. >>>>>>>>>>> >>>>>>>>>>> Derrick May must be unveiled independent of my actions so that >>>>>>>>>>> there can be no doubt as to the veracity of these claims I have made >>>>>>>>>>> against him. Please do your part. She is a member of the mainstream >>>>>>>>>>> media >>>>>>>>>>> and she will protect your privacy. >>>>>>>>>>> >>>>>>>>>>> - MJ >>>>>>>>>>> >>>>>>>>>> -- >>>>>>>>>> Denise Dalphond, Ph. D. >>>>>>>>>> ethnomusicologist >>>>>>>>>> schoolcraftwax.work >>>>>>>>>> >>>>>>>>> -- >>>>>>>> Denise Dalphond, Ph. D. >>>>>>>> ethnomusicologist >>>>>>>> schoolcraftwax.work >>>>>>>> >>>>>>> -- >>>>>> Denise Dalphond, Ph. D. >>>>>> ethnomusicologist >>>>>> schoolcraftwax.work >>>>>> >>>>> >>>> >>>> -- >>>> >>>> Lerato Khathi >>>> http://uzurirecordings.com >>>> http://uzuriartistbookingsandmanagement.com >>>> http://soundcloud.com/uzuri >>>> Skype : Lakuti >>>> >>>
