Ever heard of gaslighting? You’re free to join the #MeToo movement. I don’t care about yr background. And I don’t care about yr feelings. I like techno music, though. A lot. I heard a techno song on Ann Arbor radio just the other day.
Denise On Sat, Feb 22, 2020 at 6:24 PM Mister Jones <misterjones...@gmail.com> wrote: > True, you did say that, but you said much more and it's the rest of what > you wrote that I take issue with. Men and boys would likely talk more if we > received the same encouragement and support women did, but we don't... At > all. We're made fun of when we speak on what's happened. Our harassment > claims are never taken seriously when it's a woman we're complaining about. > A man filing a report against a female rapist is likely to be laughed out > of the station (this isn't speculation, it's documented to have happened). > So we keep it to ourselves and tough it out because, like male victims of > domestic abuse, there's zero support for us. > > Is it really brave when you have the support of a whole community standing > behind you to come forward? Or is it brave when you stand up and do it > completely alone? > > On Sat, Feb 22, 2020 at 2:52 PM Denise Dalphond <denisedalph...@gmail.com> > wrote: > >> I said most children have been molested by at least one family member. >> Gender neutral. I’m well aware that females molest and abuse people. >> >> Men should talk about it more. But it’s scary. Which leads me to remember >> how brave women are. Because we talk about that stuff. >> >> >> >> On Sat, Feb 22, 2020 at 3:15 PM Mister Jones <misterjones...@gmail.com> >> wrote: >> >>> So... I've been in therapy since mid-August dealing with a range of >>> issues and at their core was the fact that I had been molested as a child, >>> not by a family member, not by the Catholic priest I served under for three >>> years as an altar boy, but by two older girls, one female and one male >>> classmate, and as a teenager sexually accosted by grown women in my >>> neighborhood in Detroit. This shit reared it's head this late in life (I'm >>> just a few years short of 50) bringing nothing but chaos. It has destroyed >>> my marriage, wrecked my relationship with my kids, got me in trouble with >>> the law, and brought me to the absolute brink. It's so bad that I'll likely >>> have to pack up my things and moving back to Michigan without my kids, >>> where I'll end up living with my mother and stepfather... At this age. >>> >>> Denise, this is nothing against you... I've been on this list in one >>> form or another for over 20 years and always have thought highly of you... >>> But these days every time I see a woman talking about rape this and that, >>> as if it's just a female-centric issue, I'm reminded that guys like myself >>> are told to suck it up and shut up... and I get royally pissed. Women in >>> general and society at large is pretty dismissive when it's a male victim >>> of a female but "OMG!!! The horror!!! Something must be done! Teach boys >>> not to rape!!!" when it's a female victim of a male. We're told that we >>> should be happy that such things have happened to us when a girl or grown >>> woman comes at us like that and that if it's a boy your age, well... "you >>> should have just kicked his ass". I've had to sit in silence for decades, >>> telling no one about it until it basically destroyed my life. My mother was >>> devastated when I finally told her, my sisters were in shock especially >>> since one of the older girls was from a family extremely close to us (their >>> mother is godmother to two of my younger sisters), my wife was pissed >>> because I never told her and she had often said I occasionally acted like >>> someone that had been molested; something I always denied. Everyone asked >>> "why didn't you ever say something?" not realizing that when you're only 7 >>> years old you really don't know how to process something like this, and in >>> a society back then in the late 70's where this kind of stuff was viewed as >>> "coming of age" or "just a part of growing up" what was I really supposed >>> to say? >>> >>> Denise, to answer your question I'll ask another: What happens when >>> you're a woman and sexually assault or harass a boy or a man? >>> >>> I'll answer it for you: Usually nothing. >>> >>> The world continues to turn. Maybe it makes the news if you're a >>> celebrity, law maker, or some other type of high profile person but you >>> don't worry; it blows over within a few days because nobody cares. You'll >>> continue to get attached to movies as a director and actor (just don't >>> forget to send your victim his hush money first). You'll probably keep your >>> seat in congress or your position as CEO but even if you do step down >>> nobody looks upon you as a lecherous sexual deviant; somehow you're viewed >>> as the victim. If you're a well known professor you might get suspended but >>> you go back to work when it blows over. If you're one of the few that do >>> get arrested, you get a slap on the wrist and very rarely ever have to >>> register as a sex offender. >>> >>> While I get where the sarcasm comes from, Denise, I just want you to >>> understand that there are victims of this kind of thing that aren't female >>> and perps that are female. Guys like me... we're out here, we just rarely >>> ever talk about it. Typically we're too busy sucking it up to complain. >>> >>> Sorry about the rant y'all. >>> >>> On Sat, Feb 22, 2020 at 6:03 AM Denise Dalphond < >>> denisedalph...@gmail.com> wrote: >>> >>>> What happens when you sexually assault women? You get to be the US >>>> President. Or you get to stay being R Kelly makin all that money. It’s very >>>> common. As a school teacher, it seems that most children in the US are >>>> being molested and abused by at least one family member. That’s what I see. >>>> So it’s a part of our human fabric and almost no one cares. You’re all high >>>> fiving each other every time you hear a new story of a woman gettin hurt. >>>> So sorry for growing you. What were we thinking. >>>> >>>> I like Derrick May’s haircut right now. >>>> >>>> >>>> >>>> On Sat, Feb 22, 2020 at 4:57 AM Andrew Duke < >>>> andrewdukecognit...@gmail.com> wrote: >>>> >>>>> [Posted by Michael James on FB last night]: If you are a victim of >>>>> rape or sexual assault at the hands of Derrick May anywhere in the world, >>>>> please call Tresa Baldas at The Detroit Free Press at 1-313-378-7070. She >>>>> needs to hear your story. Even if you wish to remain anonymous, she needs >>>>> to hear from you. All who have reached out to me, here is a chance to stop >>>>> this from happening to future victims. >>>>> >>>>> Derrick May must be unveiled independent of my actions so that there >>>>> can be no doubt as to the veracity of these claims I have made against >>>>> him. >>>>> Please do your part. She is a member of the mainstream media and she will >>>>> protect your privacy. >>>>> >>>>> - MJ >>>>> >>>> -- >>>> Denise Dalphond, Ph. D. >>>> ethnomusicologist >>>> schoolcraftwax.work >>>> >>> -- >> Denise Dalphond, Ph. D. >> ethnomusicologist >> schoolcraftwax.work >> > -- Denise Dalphond, Ph. D. ethnomusicologist schoolcraftwax.work
