Congrats Denise! You singlehandedly ruined this whole fucking group with your arrogant and abrasive bullshit.
All that education and you truly SUCK at communicating. Miserable pathetic person. On Sat, Feb 22, 2020 at 7:12 PM Robert Suárez <rob3rt.sua...@gmail.com> wrote: > S A M E ! > > > On Sat, Feb 22, 2020, 7:09 PM Monica Lesher <lesher.mon...@gmail.com> > wrote: > >> SAMEEEE >> >> On Sat, Feb 22, 2020, 22:08 Lerato Khathi < >> booki...@uzuriartistbookingsandmanagement.com> wrote: >> >>> somebdy pls help me unsubscribe from this group . >>> i'd forgotten how to do it . >>> pls need to get out of here asap . >>> >>> On Sun, 23 Feb 2020 at 10:47, Mister Jones <misterjones...@gmail.com> >>> wrote: >>> >>>> Yes, I know what gaslighting is and that's clearly not what's going on >>>> here. >>>> >>>> I'll quit with this whole topic. I saw what was written and it set me >>>> off. My apologies to you, Denise, for responding the way I did and to the >>>> list for even engaging in it. >>>> >>>> Been listening to a bunch of Boiler Room sets lately. Kenny Larkin, >>>> Octave One, and the like. >>>> >>>> On Sat, Feb 22, 2020 at 3:30 PM Denise Dalphond < >>>> denisedalph...@gmail.com> wrote: >>>> >>>>> Ever heard of gaslighting? You’re free to join the #MeToo movement. I >>>>> don’t care about yr background. And I don’t care about yr feelings. I like >>>>> techno music, though. A lot. I heard a techno song on Ann Arbor radio just >>>>> the other day. >>>>> >>>>> Denise >>>>> >>>>> On Sat, Feb 22, 2020 at 6:24 PM Mister Jones <misterjones...@gmail.com> >>>>> wrote: >>>>> >>>>>> True, you did say that, but you said much more and it's the rest of >>>>>> what you wrote that I take issue with. Men and boys would likely talk >>>>>> more >>>>>> if we received the same encouragement and support women did, but we >>>>>> don't... At all. We're made fun of when we speak on what's happened. Our >>>>>> harassment claims are never taken seriously when it's a woman we're >>>>>> complaining about. A man filing a report against a female rapist is >>>>>> likely >>>>>> to be laughed out of the station (this isn't speculation, it's documented >>>>>> to have happened). So we keep it to ourselves and tough it out because, >>>>>> like male victims of domestic abuse, there's zero support for us. >>>>>> >>>>>> Is it really brave when you have the support of a whole community >>>>>> standing behind you to come forward? Or is it brave when you stand up and >>>>>> do it completely alone? >>>>>> >>>>>> On Sat, Feb 22, 2020 at 2:52 PM Denise Dalphond < >>>>>> denisedalph...@gmail.com> wrote: >>>>>> >>>>>>> I said most children have been molested by at least one family >>>>>>> member. Gender neutral. I’m well aware that females molest and abuse >>>>>>> people. >>>>>>> >>>>>>> Men should talk about it more. But it’s scary. Which leads me to >>>>>>> remember how brave women are. Because we talk about that stuff. >>>>>>> >>>>>>> >>>>>>> >>>>>>> On Sat, Feb 22, 2020 at 3:15 PM Mister Jones < >>>>>>> misterjones...@gmail.com> wrote: >>>>>>> >>>>>>>> So... I've been in therapy since mid-August dealing with a range of >>>>>>>> issues and at their core was the fact that I had been molested as a >>>>>>>> child, >>>>>>>> not by a family member, not by the Catholic priest I served under for >>>>>>>> three >>>>>>>> years as an altar boy, but by two older girls, one female and one male >>>>>>>> classmate, and as a teenager sexually accosted by grown women in my >>>>>>>> neighborhood in Detroit. This shit reared it's head this late in life >>>>>>>> (I'm >>>>>>>> just a few years short of 50) bringing nothing but chaos. It has >>>>>>>> destroyed >>>>>>>> my marriage, wrecked my relationship with my kids, got me in trouble >>>>>>>> with >>>>>>>> the law, and brought me to the absolute brink. It's so bad that I'll >>>>>>>> likely >>>>>>>> have to pack up my things and moving back to Michigan without my kids, >>>>>>>> where I'll end up living with my mother and stepfather... At this age. >>>>>>>> >>>>>>>> Denise, this is nothing against you... I've been on this list in >>>>>>>> one form or another for over 20 years and always have thought highly of >>>>>>>> you... But these days every time I see a woman talking about rape this >>>>>>>> and >>>>>>>> that, as if it's just a female-centric issue, I'm reminded that guys >>>>>>>> like >>>>>>>> myself are told to suck it up and shut up... and I get royally pissed. >>>>>>>> Women in general and society at large is pretty dismissive when it's a >>>>>>>> male >>>>>>>> victim of a female but "OMG!!! The horror!!! Something must be done! >>>>>>>> Teach >>>>>>>> boys not to rape!!!" when it's a female victim of a male. We're told >>>>>>>> that >>>>>>>> we should be happy that such things have happened to us when a girl or >>>>>>>> grown woman comes at us like that and that if it's a boy your age, >>>>>>>> well... >>>>>>>> "you should have just kicked his ass". I've had to sit in silence for >>>>>>>> decades, telling no one about it until it basically destroyed my life. >>>>>>>> My >>>>>>>> mother was devastated when I finally told her, my sisters were in shock >>>>>>>> especially since one of the older girls was from a family extremely >>>>>>>> close >>>>>>>> to us (their mother is godmother to two of my younger sisters), my >>>>>>>> wife was >>>>>>>> pissed because I never told her and she had often said I occasionally >>>>>>>> acted >>>>>>>> like someone that had been molested; something I always denied. >>>>>>>> Everyone >>>>>>>> asked "why didn't you ever say something?" not realizing that when >>>>>>>> you're >>>>>>>> only 7 years old you really don't know how to process something like >>>>>>>> this, >>>>>>>> and in a society back then in the late 70's where this kind of stuff >>>>>>>> was >>>>>>>> viewed as "coming of age" or "just a part of growing up" what was I >>>>>>>> really >>>>>>>> supposed to say? >>>>>>>> >>>>>>>> Denise, to answer your question I'll ask another: What happens when >>>>>>>> you're a woman and sexually assault or harass a boy or a man? >>>>>>>> >>>>>>>> I'll answer it for you: Usually nothing. >>>>>>>> >>>>>>>> The world continues to turn. Maybe it makes the news if you're a >>>>>>>> celebrity, law maker, or some other type of high profile person but you >>>>>>>> don't worry; it blows over within a few days because nobody cares. >>>>>>>> You'll >>>>>>>> continue to get attached to movies as a director and actor (just don't >>>>>>>> forget to send your victim his hush money first). You'll probably keep >>>>>>>> your >>>>>>>> seat in congress or your position as CEO but even if you do step down >>>>>>>> nobody looks upon you as a lecherous sexual deviant; somehow you're >>>>>>>> viewed >>>>>>>> as the victim. If you're a well known professor you might get >>>>>>>> suspended but >>>>>>>> you go back to work when it blows over. If you're one of the few that >>>>>>>> do >>>>>>>> get arrested, you get a slap on the wrist and very rarely ever have to >>>>>>>> register as a sex offender. >>>>>>>> >>>>>>>> While I get where the sarcasm comes from, Denise, I just want you >>>>>>>> to understand that there are victims of this kind of thing that aren't >>>>>>>> female and perps that are female. Guys like me... we're out here, we >>>>>>>> just >>>>>>>> rarely ever talk about it. Typically we're too busy sucking it up to >>>>>>>> complain. >>>>>>>> >>>>>>>> Sorry about the rant y'all. >>>>>>>> >>>>>>>> On Sat, Feb 22, 2020 at 6:03 AM Denise Dalphond < >>>>>>>> denisedalph...@gmail.com> wrote: >>>>>>>> >>>>>>>>> What happens when you sexually assault women? You get to be the US >>>>>>>>> President. Or you get to stay being R Kelly makin all that money. >>>>>>>>> It’s very >>>>>>>>> common. As a school teacher, it seems that most children in the US are >>>>>>>>> being molested and abused by at least one family member. That’s what >>>>>>>>> I see. >>>>>>>>> So it’s a part of our human fabric and almost no one cares. You’re >>>>>>>>> all high >>>>>>>>> fiving each other every time you hear a new story of a woman gettin >>>>>>>>> hurt. >>>>>>>>> So sorry for growing you. What were we thinking. >>>>>>>>> >>>>>>>>> I like Derrick May’s haircut right now. >>>>>>>>> >>>>>>>>> >>>>>>>>> >>>>>>>>> On Sat, Feb 22, 2020 at 4:57 AM Andrew Duke < >>>>>>>>> andrewdukecognit...@gmail.com> wrote: >>>>>>>>> >>>>>>>>>> [Posted by Michael James on FB last night]: If you are a victim >>>>>>>>>> of rape or sexual assault at the hands of Derrick May anywhere in the >>>>>>>>>> world, please call Tresa Baldas at The Detroit Free Press at >>>>>>>>>> 1-313-378-7070. She needs to hear your story. Even if you wish to >>>>>>>>>> remain >>>>>>>>>> anonymous, she needs to hear from you. All who have reached out to >>>>>>>>>> me, here >>>>>>>>>> is a chance to stop this from happening to future victims. >>>>>>>>>> >>>>>>>>>> Derrick May must be unveiled independent of my actions so that >>>>>>>>>> there can be no doubt as to the veracity of these claims I have made >>>>>>>>>> against him. Please do your part. She is a member of the mainstream >>>>>>>>>> media >>>>>>>>>> and she will protect your privacy. >>>>>>>>>> >>>>>>>>>> - MJ >>>>>>>>>> >>>>>>>>> -- >>>>>>>>> Denise Dalphond, Ph. D. >>>>>>>>> ethnomusicologist >>>>>>>>> schoolcraftwax.work >>>>>>>>> >>>>>>>> -- >>>>>>> Denise Dalphond, Ph. D. >>>>>>> ethnomusicologist >>>>>>> schoolcraftwax.work >>>>>>> >>>>>> -- >>>>> Denise Dalphond, Ph. D. >>>>> ethnomusicologist >>>>> schoolcraftwax.work >>>>> >>>> >>> >>> -- >>> >>> Lerato Khathi >>> http://uzurirecordings.com >>> http://uzuriartistbookingsandmanagement.com >>> http://soundcloud.com/uzuri >>> Skype : Lakuti >>> >>
