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On Sun, 23 Feb 2020 at 10:47, Mister Jones <misterjones...@gmail.com> wrote: > Yes, I know what gaslighting is and that's clearly not what's going on > here. > > I'll quit with this whole topic. I saw what was written and it set me off. > My apologies to you, Denise, for responding the way I did and to the list > for even engaging in it. > > Been listening to a bunch of Boiler Room sets lately. Kenny Larkin, Octave > One, and the like. > > On Sat, Feb 22, 2020 at 3:30 PM Denise Dalphond <denisedalph...@gmail.com> > wrote: > >> Ever heard of gaslighting? You’re free to join the #MeToo movement. I >> don’t care about yr background. And I don’t care about yr feelings. I like >> techno music, though. A lot. I heard a techno song on Ann Arbor radio just >> the other day. >> >> Denise >> >> On Sat, Feb 22, 2020 at 6:24 PM Mister Jones <misterjones...@gmail.com> >> wrote: >> >>> True, you did say that, but you said much more and it's the rest of what >>> you wrote that I take issue with. Men and boys would likely talk more if we >>> received the same encouragement and support women did, but we don't... At >>> all. We're made fun of when we speak on what's happened. Our harassment >>> claims are never taken seriously when it's a woman we're complaining about. >>> A man filing a report against a female rapist is likely to be laughed out >>> of the station (this isn't speculation, it's documented to have happened). >>> So we keep it to ourselves and tough it out because, like male victims of >>> domestic abuse, there's zero support for us. >>> >>> Is it really brave when you have the support of a whole community >>> standing behind you to come forward? Or is it brave when you stand up and >>> do it completely alone? >>> >>> On Sat, Feb 22, 2020 at 2:52 PM Denise Dalphond < >>> denisedalph...@gmail.com> wrote: >>> >>>> I said most children have been molested by at least one family member. >>>> Gender neutral. I’m well aware that females molest and abuse people. >>>> >>>> Men should talk about it more. But it’s scary. Which leads me to >>>> remember how brave women are. Because we talk about that stuff. >>>> >>>> >>>> >>>> On Sat, Feb 22, 2020 at 3:15 PM Mister Jones <misterjones...@gmail.com> >>>> wrote: >>>> >>>>> So... I've been in therapy since mid-August dealing with a range of >>>>> issues and at their core was the fact that I had been molested as a child, >>>>> not by a family member, not by the Catholic priest I served under for >>>>> three >>>>> years as an altar boy, but by two older girls, one female and one male >>>>> classmate, and as a teenager sexually accosted by grown women in my >>>>> neighborhood in Detroit. This shit reared it's head this late in life (I'm >>>>> just a few years short of 50) bringing nothing but chaos. It has destroyed >>>>> my marriage, wrecked my relationship with my kids, got me in trouble with >>>>> the law, and brought me to the absolute brink. It's so bad that I'll >>>>> likely >>>>> have to pack up my things and moving back to Michigan without my kids, >>>>> where I'll end up living with my mother and stepfather... At this age. >>>>> >>>>> Denise, this is nothing against you... I've been on this list in one >>>>> form or another for over 20 years and always have thought highly of you... >>>>> But these days every time I see a woman talking about rape this and that, >>>>> as if it's just a female-centric issue, I'm reminded that guys like myself >>>>> are told to suck it up and shut up... and I get royally pissed. Women in >>>>> general and society at large is pretty dismissive when it's a male victim >>>>> of a female but "OMG!!! The horror!!! Something must be done! Teach boys >>>>> not to rape!!!" when it's a female victim of a male. We're told that we >>>>> should be happy that such things have happened to us when a girl or grown >>>>> woman comes at us like that and that if it's a boy your age, well... "you >>>>> should have just kicked his ass". I've had to sit in silence for decades, >>>>> telling no one about it until it basically destroyed my life. My mother >>>>> was >>>>> devastated when I finally told her, my sisters were in shock especially >>>>> since one of the older girls was from a family extremely close to us >>>>> (their >>>>> mother is godmother to two of my younger sisters), my wife was pissed >>>>> because I never told her and she had often said I occasionally acted like >>>>> someone that had been molested; something I always denied. Everyone asked >>>>> "why didn't you ever say something?" not realizing that when you're only 7 >>>>> years old you really don't know how to process something like this, and in >>>>> a society back then in the late 70's where this kind of stuff was viewed >>>>> as >>>>> "coming of age" or "just a part of growing up" what was I really supposed >>>>> to say? >>>>> >>>>> Denise, to answer your question I'll ask another: What happens when >>>>> you're a woman and sexually assault or harass a boy or a man? >>>>> >>>>> I'll answer it for you: Usually nothing. >>>>> >>>>> The world continues to turn. Maybe it makes the news if you're a >>>>> celebrity, law maker, or some other type of high profile person but you >>>>> don't worry; it blows over within a few days because nobody cares. You'll >>>>> continue to get attached to movies as a director and actor (just don't >>>>> forget to send your victim his hush money first). You'll probably keep >>>>> your >>>>> seat in congress or your position as CEO but even if you do step down >>>>> nobody looks upon you as a lecherous sexual deviant; somehow you're viewed >>>>> as the victim. If you're a well known professor you might get suspended >>>>> but >>>>> you go back to work when it blows over. If you're one of the few that do >>>>> get arrested, you get a slap on the wrist and very rarely ever have to >>>>> register as a sex offender. >>>>> >>>>> While I get where the sarcasm comes from, Denise, I just want you to >>>>> understand that there are victims of this kind of thing that aren't female >>>>> and perps that are female. Guys like me... we're out here, we just rarely >>>>> ever talk about it. Typically we're too busy sucking it up to complain. >>>>> >>>>> Sorry about the rant y'all. >>>>> >>>>> On Sat, Feb 22, 2020 at 6:03 AM Denise Dalphond < >>>>> denisedalph...@gmail.com> wrote: >>>>> >>>>>> What happens when you sexually assault women? You get to be the US >>>>>> President. Or you get to stay being R Kelly makin all that money. It’s >>>>>> very >>>>>> common. As a school teacher, it seems that most children in the US are >>>>>> being molested and abused by at least one family member. That’s what I >>>>>> see. >>>>>> So it’s a part of our human fabric and almost no one cares. You’re all >>>>>> high >>>>>> fiving each other every time you hear a new story of a woman gettin hurt. >>>>>> So sorry for growing you. What were we thinking. >>>>>> >>>>>> I like Derrick May’s haircut right now. >>>>>> >>>>>> >>>>>> >>>>>> On Sat, Feb 22, 2020 at 4:57 AM Andrew Duke < >>>>>> andrewdukecognit...@gmail.com> wrote: >>>>>> >>>>>>> [Posted by Michael James on FB last night]: If you are a victim of >>>>>>> rape or sexual assault at the hands of Derrick May anywhere in the >>>>>>> world, >>>>>>> please call Tresa Baldas at The Detroit Free Press at 1-313-378-7070. >>>>>>> She >>>>>>> needs to hear your story. Even if you wish to remain anonymous, she >>>>>>> needs >>>>>>> to hear from you. All who have reached out to me, here is a chance to >>>>>>> stop >>>>>>> this from happening to future victims. >>>>>>> >>>>>>> Derrick May must be unveiled independent of my actions so that there >>>>>>> can be no doubt as to the veracity of these claims I have made against >>>>>>> him. >>>>>>> Please do your part. She is a member of the mainstream media and she >>>>>>> will >>>>>>> protect your privacy. >>>>>>> >>>>>>> - MJ >>>>>>> >>>>>> -- >>>>>> Denise Dalphond, Ph. D. >>>>>> ethnomusicologist >>>>>> schoolcraftwax.work >>>>>> >>>>> -- >>>> Denise Dalphond, Ph. D. >>>> ethnomusicologist >>>> schoolcraftwax.work >>>> >>> -- >> Denise Dalphond, Ph. D. >> ethnomusicologist >> schoolcraftwax.work >> > -- Lerato Khathi http://uzurirecordings.com http://uzuriartistbookingsandmanagement.com http://soundcloud.com/uzuri Skype : Lakuti
