Waalaikum'Salaam, No one is questioning what is Sunnah in terms of the limits on wives (for the man), but deceit and lies are not a part of justifying multiple marriages. If the woman stipulates that she has a right to be informed before and not after the marriage, then this should be respected. This brother promised to care for his wife before marriage then refused to care for her after the marriage was completed. But, a few of the others (who he still calls his wives) benefit fully from their marriages with him. It is haraam to show favor of one wife over another! When he is tired of that wife (as he did to one sister), he simply got permission to return her to her ex-husband and left to marry another one. Just for your information, the "7th" is just a number and does not include the non-Muslim women he associates along with his wives. Haraam!
j786SURAH22 --- On Fri, 9/12/08, [EMAIL PROTECTED] <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> Subject: Bismillah [IslamCity] Re: Proper ruling on multiple marriages To: "eGroup For Muslims Around The World" <islamcity@yahoogroups.com> Date: Friday, September 12, 2008, 7:46 PM As-Salaamu 'Alaykum, What rights of having one wife? Allah gave permission for the men to marry up to 4 women and the best men among the ummah had more than one wife. It is the western unislamic influence to make muslims think polygyny is a bad thing. Do they know better than Allah? What muslims should be advising other muslims concerning this matter is to learn the islamic rights of a wife and a husband. If you know your rights then you when you are being abused by not getting them and you know when you are abusing someone by not giving them. As for the brother with the 7th wife. If that is his seventh wife total then that is haraam. A man is allowed only 4 wives maximum at a time. A wife is not something that a man goes into the market and buys, so he is not alone to blame, the woman consents to being marrying a man regardless of what number of wife she is, so the blame cannot be put on one side only. wa'l salamu alaykum Re: Proper ruling on multiple marriages Posted by: "J M" J M jmugh786 Fri Sep 12, 2008 3:37 pm (PDT) Waalaikum'Salaam, sisters, remember you have rights in everything especially in marriage. You have a right to request a khulu if conditions are forced upon you and you are not able to live with it. For those sisters who are not married yet, try to outline your expectations for the marriage in an Islamic Pre-nuptial agreement. For those sisters who are married and living in not the happiest situations-- my heart is with you. Inshaallah you may be able to strengthen yourselves by educating yourselves and become economically stronger. For those sisters who are divorced (like myself)--enjoy the time to strengthen your imaan and physial being. If you are struggling in various ways, may Allah SWT make everything easier for you. You can also contact me, if you like (contact the owner of this group so that they can forward your information to me). For brothers, like the one who recently married his 7th wife, need to respect the rights of having one wife.
