Re: explaining things with on the spot thoughts
Re: explaining things with on the spot thoughts @haily_merry, I have taken your advice to heart. After reading a few internet articles about how to apply knowledge, and realizing since I don't have much adult like in my life to apply that knowledge, I and started just writing thoughts down, as if talking to my counselor in that moment. At first it was just a paragraph about all the things I lack. Then I realized, I could turn this into a mission statement, and use that to build an outline prioritizing what to work on from start to finish. I'm doing clean up on it right now, and it actually looks pretty good. I can use this to not get overwhelmed by 8 or so things at once, since I know what to currently focus on. Thank you for reminding me about the power of writing, I now have things mostly sorted out for the moment and hopefully for the long run. I'll turn this into my counselor at my next appointment. URL: https://forum.audiogames.net/post/568790/#p568790 -- Audiogames-reflector mailing list Audiogames-reflector@sabahattin-gucukoglu.com https://sabahattin-gucukoglu.com/cgi-bin/mailman/listinfo/audiogames-reflector
Re: explaining things with on the spot thoughts
Re: explaining things with on the spot thoughts @haily_merry, I have taken your advice to heart and started just writing thoughts down, as if talking to my counselor in that moment. At first it was just a paragraph about all the things I lack. Then I realized, I could turn this into a mission statement, and use that to build an outline prioritizing what to work on from start to finish. I'm doing clean up on it right now, and it actually looks pretty good. I can use this to not get overwhelmed by 8 or so things at once, since I know what to currently focus on. Thank you for reminding me about the power of writing, I now have things mostly sorted out for the moment and hopefully for the long run. I'll turn this into my counselor at my next appointment. URL: https://forum.audiogames.net/post/568790/#p568790 -- Audiogames-reflector mailing list Audiogames-reflector@sabahattin-gucukoglu.com https://sabahattin-gucukoglu.com/cgi-bin/mailman/listinfo/audiogames-reflector
Re: explaining things with on the spot thoughts
Re: explaining things with on the spot thoughts @haily_merry, I have taken your acvice to heart and started just writing thoughts down, as if talking to my counselor in that moment. At first it was just a paragraph about all the things I lack. Then I realized, I could turn this into a mission statement, and use that to build an outline prioritizing what to work on from start to finish. I'm doing clean up on it right now, and it actually looks pretty good. I can use this to not get overwhelmed by 8 or so things at once, since I know what to currently focus on. Thank you for reminding me about the power of writing. I'll turn this into my counselor at my next appointment. URL: https://forum.audiogames.net/post/568790/#p568790 -- Audiogames-reflector mailing list Audiogames-reflector@sabahattin-gucukoglu.com https://sabahattin-gucukoglu.com/cgi-bin/mailman/listinfo/audiogames-reflector
Re: explaining things with on the spot thoughts
Re: explaining things with on the spot thoughts @11Traumatic memories in and of themselves aren't the problem: It's the emotional content attached to those memories that's the problem. That's why we have things like EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques, and EMDR. Probably loads of others I don't know about too.As long as you're grounded while you're remembering (or re-experiencing) traumatic memories, you can - with practise - remember that you're not in that experience, therefore it can't hurt you. URL: https://forum.audiogames.net/post/568651/#p568651 -- Audiogames-reflector mailing list Audiogames-reflector@sabahattin-gucukoglu.com https://sabahattin-gucukoglu.com/cgi-bin/mailman/listinfo/audiogames-reflector
Re: explaining things with on the spot thoughts
Re: explaining things with on the spot thoughts @9 You have helped a lot of people on this site, even me sometimes. Keep on doing what you do. You are a valued person on this forum and perhaps elsewhere.@10 Those are interesting ways to look at it. I realize my question wasn't clear, not even to me, but I think you answered the right one in the right way. And I like the computer vs. human brain comparison. I wish we did have that so we can correctly identify the past and help with the present and/or future. But always having access to traumatic memories would be a huge backlash, so I'm also glad we don't have that ability. URL: https://forum.audiogames.net/post/568568/#p568568 -- Audiogames-reflector mailing list Audiogames-reflector@sabahattin-gucukoglu.com https://sabahattin-gucukoglu.com/cgi-bin/mailman/listinfo/audiogames-reflector
Re: explaining things with on the spot thoughts
Re: explaining things with on the spot thoughts @9 You have helped a lot of people on this site, even me sometimes. Keeping doing what you do. You are a valued person on this forum ad perhaps elsewhere.@10 Those are interesting ways to look at it. I realize my question wasn't clear, not even to me, but I think you answered the right one in the right way. And I like the computer vs. human brain comparison. I wish we did have that so we can correctly identify the past and help with the present and/or future. But always having access to traumatic memories would be a huge backlash, so I'm also glad we don't have that ability. URL: https://forum.audiogames.net/post/568568/#p568568 -- Audiogames-reflector mailing list Audiogames-reflector@sabahattin-gucukoglu.com https://sabahattin-gucukoglu.com/cgi-bin/mailman/listinfo/audiogames-reflector
Re: explaining things with on the spot thoughts
Re: explaining things with on the spot thoughts We naturally embellish our stories, and even retelling of stories alters them. It's not always the mark of someone being dishonest, it's just the flawed way in which our memory retrieval system works. Good story tellers will take advantage of this by adding them knowingly to certain parts. Doing so is a way to boost engagement with their audience.We can also implant false memories into our own minds. That's why sometimes, two people's stories don't match up if, say, they were at the same place at the same time and experienced the same thing. There's also blocking of traumatic memories and things along that line that contribute to imperfect memories.When you read a file from a computer's HDD or NVME storage, you expect that file to be the same each time you read it. The computer's storage media have microcontrollers and firmware to track errors. Sometimes over the net though, files don't keep their integrity when you download them. This is why we have checksums to make sure what we got is what we sought to get. But our brains don't have that mechanism. We can't sift through our memories, comparing each one with it's checksum to determine whether or not it was altered. So we're not perfect in that regard.I believe that on the spot thoughts can be as true or false as premeditated ones. But that doesn't necessarily mean that they're bad. This is where we get into my truth, your truth and *the* truth. There are things about me that are true for me, but that aren't for others. They are not *the* truth. I do not know other people's personal truths, so they are not my truth or *the* truth. But if something comes out where two colleagues are found to have been having an affair, and there is evidence to support this, then it becomes *the* truth.This principle becomes a bit muddy because it leads to people making excuses and lying to themselves. Don't do that! Lying generally isn't good; however, lying to yourself is the worst thing you can do because you're actively taking part in the sabotage of your own future. URL: https://forum.audiogames.net/post/568489/#p568489 -- Audiogames-reflector mailing list Audiogames-reflector@sabahattin-gucukoglu.com https://sabahattin-gucukoglu.com/cgi-bin/mailman/listinfo/audiogames-reflector
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Re: explaining things with on the spot thoughts True story... I battle my own demons, too. I've spent far more time staring into the depths of oblivion than I care to admit. When I was ten years old, I called it, "lying down and listening to nothing."There's that little voice in your own self that tells you everything bad you didn't need to hear about yourself, eager to step in and help you feel overwhelming negativity and lead you through a desert of despair, temping you with rivers of rage you more than gladly jump into in an atempt to gain some semblance of solace, only to be swept away and find yourself swimming into a sea of solitude because you've crossed lines of abstract nobody truly wishes to understand and the world seems to passs you by. No, that's not a poem, and it never will be. It's the writing of some guy who comes out here every once in awhile people call Nocturnus, who generally trys to give out useful tidbits of advice and gets his feet wet and his hands dirty before everyone else in an atempt to help everyone else. Would you call me depressed? I'll willingly wear the title. I have great dreams but little hope, and yet it's that little bit of hope that keeps me going... URL: https://forum.audiogames.net/post/568485/#p568485 -- Audiogames-reflector mailing list Audiogames-reflector@sabahattin-gucukoglu.com https://sabahattin-gucukoglu.com/cgi-bin/mailman/listinfo/audiogames-reflector
Re: explaining things with on the spot thoughts
Re: explaining things with on the spot thoughts I use notepad or pages if I want to write personal stuff. Ain't no one else on this computer so it's fine. The filenames couldn't be any less descriptive and confusing URL: https://forum.audiogames.net/post/568471/#p568471 -- Audiogames-reflector mailing list Audiogames-reflector@sabahattin-gucukoglu.com https://sabahattin-gucukoglu.com/cgi-bin/mailman/listinfo/audiogames-reflector
Re: explaining things with on the spot thoughts
Re: explaining things with on the spot thoughts I use notepad or pages if I want to write personal stuff. Ain't no one else on this computer so it's fine. The filenames coudln't be any less descriptive and confusing URL: https://forum.audiogames.net/post/568471/#p568471 -- Audiogames-reflector mailing list Audiogames-reflector@sabahattin-gucukoglu.com https://sabahattin-gucukoglu.com/cgi-bin/mailman/listinfo/audiogames-reflector
Re: explaining things with on the spot thoughts
Re: explaining things with on the spot thoughts @4 I would call that a distraction then, not a coping method. I play bk3 and code python to forget about my thoughts. It does the opposite of writing, but it has the same effect, doing nothing about it. Well with coding I have a little reward, which is why it is often my top distraction, but it's still not helping my problem.@5 yeah if you think about time then it the truth becomes more blury. But I am talking about using instant random thoughts that fly onto the page and saying I thought about this 3 months ago or whatever. This doesn't matter to the reader, they have no idea. But to the author, it is curious to think, is this a lie? Since I didn't come up with it 3 months ago, it was 3 seconds ago. I can't be the first person who's been curious about this. URL: https://forum.audiogames.net/post/568470/#p568470 -- Audiogames-reflector mailing list Audiogames-reflector@sabahattin-gucukoglu.com https://sabahattin-gucukoglu.com/cgi-bin/mailman/listinfo/audiogames-reflector
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Re: explaining things with on the spot thoughts @4That's a wonderful idea, except that if it's out there on the net, and you're putting your deepest darkest thoughts on there, eventually some creature is going to write something awful in a comment, and boom! All the gunk from your chest is some troll's play thing to use to try and negate their own private hell. URL: https://forum.audiogames.net/post/568420/#p568420 -- Audiogames-reflector mailing list Audiogames-reflector@sabahattin-gucukoglu.com https://sabahattin-gucukoglu.com/cgi-bin/mailman/listinfo/audiogames-reflector
Re: explaining things with on the spot thoughts
Re: explaining things with on the spot thoughts So I've read that being honest is easier than lying. That said, we almost always inject a certain amount of untruth into our responses. The longer it takes to respond to a question, or an idea, the more chance your innately honest lower brain, and memory retrieval system has of getting derailed by the higher parts of your brain that want to apply logic and social conditioning to your answer.Sometimes that's useful: "What's the best way of shoring up this bridge? probably isn't "Screw the bridge, let's all go to the pub instead".At the risk of delving into the realm of armchair psychology, I'd guess that these seemingly unconnected thoughts you're experiencing are either your subconscious feeding you tidbits of useful stuff from your past in the form of half-formed sentences based on pre-or-early cognitive experiences, or your creative brain is playing tricks on you, and actually you should be asking a qualified therapist to help you sort out which it is before you self diagnose and travel down that particularly fun rabbit hole. URL: https://forum.audiogames.net/post/568419/#p568419 -- Audiogames-reflector mailing list Audiogames-reflector@sabahattin-gucukoglu.com https://sabahattin-gucukoglu.com/cgi-bin/mailman/listinfo/audiogames-reflector
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Re: explaining things with on the spot thoughts For me personally at least, it's more about writing about all of the problems for the sake of writing about them. E.G, to use a somewhat silly example, I fell down the stairs on my way to school this morning. Considering I live on the top flor of the 6th form building, it wasn't exactly a fun time. I'll be having PE tomorrow, which assuming I get any broozes from this, could potentially agrivate them. A lot more could happen to make my day suck, but you get the idea. Rather than try to put a posative spin on it while writing about it, I expand apon all of my problems, sometimes writing for pages at a time. There's probably a term for this, but talking, or in this case writing, about things really does help you think about them in a way that doesn't involve you going over and over them in your head. I suppose the reason for this is because you're actually doing something about it, even if it might not actually help with the problem at hand.I suspect you've already done this on here without necessarily realising it. That topic you made regarding your depression? I highly doubt you would have gotten much actual help from the forum, we're a gaming forum after all, but I'd imagine just writing about it helped you feel better about the situation / think about other things. This is why I think a blog would be a good idea, because it's entirely your own space where you can say whatever you like, and people are more than able to view it if they wish, or not, depending on what you want to do.This topic sure is making me want to dive into wordpress again though, it's been a long time since I've tinkered with it, and my last blog was, well, from a very different part of my life. URL: https://forum.audiogames.net/post/568417/#p568417 -- Audiogames-reflector mailing list Audiogames-reflector@sabahattin-gucukoglu.com https://sabahattin-gucukoglu.com/cgi-bin/mailman/listinfo/audiogames-reflector
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Re: explaining things with on the spot thoughts @2 happy to hear you enjoy it, others have said the same. I think I write well when emotional, but very redundant. If I do proof reads before sending texts or writing posts, I'm sure I could improve that bad habit.It sounds silly that just writing about problems can lead to solving them, but it makes sense. You are engaging your mind to think about it, in a different way than just being depressed about it. And it frees up space for new thoughts. Perhaps this could be a form of motivation in its own right.However, how would I use it as such? I guess I could write about my current situation, and the end result I want, and the end result I expect. You know the saying, after you hear something so many times, you start to believe it, maybe that's true for writing as well. I still find this just a tad bit too silly to me though to use writing as motivation, but some people do it and it works, so it's something to consider. I will say at this time, it is losing that very close bond that is making the transition for me even worse than it was. I may have to adopt a new motivation temporarially, or permanently make it more influencial. Thanks for the reply, you gave a really good suggestion. URL: https://forum.audiogames.net/post/568406/#p568406 -- Audiogames-reflector mailing list Audiogames-reflector@sabahattin-gucukoglu.com https://sabahattin-gucukoglu.com/cgi-bin/mailman/listinfo/audiogames-reflector
Re: explaining things with on the spot thoughts
Re: explaining things with on the spot thoughts Perhaps you might consider starting a blog with something like wordpress? You're stile of writing is one I find pleasing to read, and a blog may be a better place to just express your thoughts with no limits. You might also find that the parts of adult life you find challenging will become less so if you write about them, get the issues off your chest, as it were. URL: https://forum.audiogames.net/post/568394/#p568394 -- Audiogames-reflector mailing list Audiogames-reflector@sabahattin-gucukoglu.com https://sabahattin-gucukoglu.com/cgi-bin/mailman/listinfo/audiogames-reflector
