The first steps of conflict negotiation is to determine what the
problems are on both sides. Have you tried asking your daughter why
she is behaving in this way? A reasoned, quiet discussion with her
might bring out issues of which you are unaware. When a sweet, loving
child turns petulant, the
getting back to the point here you know, I think that the people who
think the fact that she is reading is a sign she is bored may have a point.
On Mon, May 4, 2009 at 1:42 PM, Erika L. Walker wrote:
>
> I wasnt advocating EITHER just for the record.
>
> On Mon, May 4, 2009 at 3:29 PM, Dana
i have spanked girls much older then her.
you can in fact spank girls well into there mid 30's earlie 40's..
after that i think it may be inappropriate..
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I wasnt advocating EITHER just for the record.
On Mon, May 4, 2009 at 3:29 PM, Dana wrote:
> you can't spank a girl that age.
>
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Adobe® ColdFusion® 8 software 8 is the most important and dramatic release to
date
Get the Fr
you can't spank a girl that age.
On Thu, Apr 30, 2009 at 6:17 AM, Erika L. Walker wrote:
>
> I "think" you are kidding. At least I hope so
>
> Spanking is one thing. "Bslapping" your daughter at any age is inexcusable
> and why some women find it acceptable as adults to be in abusive
> relat
Sorry this is a little late in the game but here is what I would do.
Remove everything from her room except the bed, blankets, and pillows. Take
the door to her bedroom off the hinges and place it where she can see it.
Let her earn her items back, including her bedroom door, thru good behavior.
See?! They just need more dirt! :D
Or a sandwich off the ground at a cafe in Calcutta. In the poor section.
That'll cure what ails you ;)
On Thu, Apr 30, 2009 at 10:26 AM, Michael Dinowitz <
mdino...@houseoffusion.com> wrote:
> I think you may be right. And it gets them out of the house so I
There's a limit to reading. Really.
Let me put this in perspective. I just got my oldest son (11) a complete
digital set of star trek books, almost 600 altogether. I don't know the
exact percentage he's already read but it's over 15% and that was all from
physical books. Do you want to know what h
I think you may be right. And it gets them out of the house so I can read
more comics. :)
On Thu, Apr 30, 2009 at 10:18 AM, G Money wrote:
>
> Sounds like maybe they need sports!
>
> And yes, sports is my answer to everything :)
>
>
Sounds like maybe they need sports!
And yes, sports is my answer to everything :)
On Thu, Apr 30, 2009 at 9:01 AM, Michael Dinowitz <
mdino...@houseoffusion.com> wrote:
>
> There's a limit to reading. Really.
> Let me put this in perspective. I just got my oldest son (11) a complete
> digital s
Certainly - but at least you can say you tried. :)
On Thu, Apr 30, 2009 at 10:01 AM, Michael Dinowitz <
mdino...@houseoffusion.com> wrote:
> On the other hand, she
> might just resent any attempt on our part to 'interfere' with her studies.
> Minefield time again. :)
>
I hadn't thought of that! He makes a valid point. If she's as smart as you
and Judith are, I'll bet school is boring her to tears. I never did homework
if I could help it. I didn't have to study for tests and I was able to get
straight A's or close to it with hardly any effort. And if I really hat
>That's what I was gonna ask. When she said "she'd wait for mommy to come
>home" it kinda stated that Judith lets her do things you don't - in which
>case you aren't on the same page.
>
>I know it's not cheap - but if you really value your relationship with her
>(which we know you do) - go to fami
Time more than anything else. She gets home after 5 and it could be 7 or 8
before her homework is done (breaks and all). We would have to find
something local for her to take and it would be hard with her schedule.
On the other hand, the points you brought up are valid and I do (did) have
an Aikid
I'm not a parent - so feel free to disregard anything I say, but I
would say that a kid who won't stop reading books isn't the worst
thing in the world. Maybe she doesn't want to do her homework because
it's the same lame and boring stuff she already learned in class that
day. She may just be se
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-Original Message-
From: Michael Dinowitz [mailto:mdino...@houseoffusion.com]
Sent: Thursday, April 30, 2009 9:05 AM
To: cf-community
Subject: Re: Dealing with disrespectful daughter
We are on the same page in essence bu
Most excellent. :) glad to hear it. People always say "this too shall pass"
but damn, don't you wish it would hurry up and pass?
On the flip side, at least you have the opportunity to talk thru a situation
and make it better in some shape or way. I know children and/or parents who
have written ea
We are on the same page in essence but in practice Judith lets the kids get
away with a LOT more than I do. She was raised by an overprotective mother
who gave everything the benefit of the doubt without thought of the actual
situation or logic. Judith is very much the same way with the kids. She
That only works for chemical and biological attacks. He needs whips and
chains. Just go to our website under the toys section and ;-)
-Original Message-
From: CFTodd [mailto:cft...@gmail.com]
Sent: Wednesday, April 29, 2009 5:28 PM
To: cf-community
Subject: Re: Dealing with
Not really. I think the association with homework is due to the timeline
from when she gets home till when she should go to sleep. The more time, the
more resistance.
We've talked to her teachers and they give the same story we know. She's
smart and has been using it to coast through her work wit
/me gets out cast iron muffin pan ...
On Thu, Apr 30, 2009 at 8:19 AM, G Money wrote:
> (Erika...don't hurt me...i'm kidding!)
>
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Adobe® ColdFusion® 8 software 8 is the most important and dramatic release to
date
Get the F
That's what I was gonna ask. When she said "she'd wait for mommy to come
home" it kinda stated that Judith lets her do things you don't - in which
case you aren't on the same page.
I know it's not cheap - but if you really value your relationship with her
(which we know you do) - go to family cou
On Thu, Apr 30, 2009 at 7:17 AM, Erika L. Walker wrote:
>
> I "think" you are kidding. At least I hope so
>
> Spanking is one thing. "Bslapping" your daughter at any age is inexcusable
> and why some women find it acceptable as adults to be in abusive
> relationships.
Sounds like someone ne
Hey Michael, do the problems always start when school or homework gets
mentioned???
Maybe she's having some problems at school that are manifesting themselves
at home? Maybe a talk with her teachers could shed some light if your
daughter doesn't want to talk about it.
I dunnojust throwin' ou
I "think" you are kidding. At least I hope so
Spanking is one thing. "Bslapping" your daughter at any age is inexcusable
and why some women find it acceptable as adults to be in abusive
relationships.
On Wed, Apr 29, 2009 at 10:16 PM, morchella
wrote:
> wait for her to come out of her room
I recommend Strong Father Strong Daughter if you haven't already read it.
Then there's more TV:)
Super Nanny is in season, there were several nanny shows around. Might
be able to find the ones you need on Hulu or Joost.
On Wed, Apr 29, 2009 at 5:16 PM, Michael Dinowitz
wrote:
>
> It falls under
ok.
seriously..
man up MD.
wait for her to come out of her room to get breakfast and just Bslap
her as hard as you can.
SHOUT 'there!' and run away for a bit...
that's what i would do if i where on really good drugs..!
=]
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A
We're very much on the same page. We're looking for something to help and
she's out now at a lecture called "hey, mom, can't you see I'm changing? --
understanding and embracing your teenage girl". If I had someone to watch
the kids I'd be there with her.
If Judith was here she would pull the same
That's a really rough spot mate. Not to dig too deep, but are you and your
wife on the same page with parenting? Would she pull that stuff if mom was
home?
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Adobe® ColdFusion® 8 software 8 is the most important and dramatic re
She'll be 13 next week. I've talked with her in the past. Her mother talked
with her just today after school. It's like a day and night thing. She comes
home all happy, sits on my lap and says she has a bump on her head and wants
me to feel her scalp to see it. Then she gets up, hits the bathroom
I think she is looking for a reaction. Don't give her one. She is
rebelling as she should at this age. There are worse ways to rebel.
Stand up for yourself, calmly, take two aspirin and call me when she
is 21. Now, if only I could follow my own advice. As you know, Lara is
16 and gives me fits.
O
To preface this, I have two daughters both under two, so they still think
I'm the cats pajamas for now.
I think you said she was 12 or 13? Have you just talked to her about it?
She's certainly old enough to have a serious conversation about it. Perhaps
ask her why she's not respecting you. She mi
Due to certain financial constraints, we have not been doing 'extra' buying
such as one would do at a mall. She knows this, so no threat there. I wish
she was unaware of these things, but...
Just a moment ago, after telling her to go to her room and go to sleep (an
end result of a lng attempt
> It falls under the heading of "what can I do".
When my parents ran out of things to take away, they employed the "sit in
the corner and stare at the wall with no talking" technique. Grounding
never really worked on me because I was content to sit in my room and read
for days on end. Taking ev
> Take her to the mall and don't buy her anything.
LOL, that's classic. I can picture someone taking their daughter to the
mall and letting them pick some things out, then at the last minute, "oh
yeah, you misbehaved, put all that back, we're going home soon."
-Justin
~~~
On Wed, Apr 29, 2009 at 8:16 PM, Michael Dinowitz <
mdino...@houseoffusion.com> wrote:
>
> It falls under the heading of "what can I do". I don't spank my kids and
> even if I did, you can't spank a girl after a certain age. I can't take
> away
> privileges because she just laughs it off. Stop he
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Michael Dinowitz wrote:
> It falls under the heading of "what can I do". I don't spank my kids and
> even if I did, you can't spank a girl after a certain age. I can't take away
> privileges because she just laughs it off. Stop her from seeing friends? She
> sees them in school and that
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