Yeah, thanks Steve - today it's Barry, tomorrow it might be me. I think
bullies and the art of bullying needs to protected in its vicious,
raucous, boisterous purity.
I protest this !!!!!!
--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "seventhray1" <steve.sundur@...>
wrote:
>
>
> I always enjoy your comments Bob. I am trying to sort things out.
>
> > Bullying is based on one party being weaker than another.Â
>
> > ***I know you're not so simple as to think this explains bullying.
If
> you used this explanation to explain bullying to a child, they might
be
> forgiven for concluding that bullying is done out of strength while
> resisting a bully is form of weakness (I know you don't think that).
We
> both know, if anything, bullying demonstrates a type of inadequacy
> (weakness) in the bully.Â
>
> So what. I think we're past the point of trying to modify behavior,
or
> get to the root cause of our behaviors. I mean, at the risk of
sounding
> arrogant, I'm not. It's something I think about every day. But for
the
> purposes of FFL, I think we can go with Curtis' definition.
>
> > I don't see how that applies here.  What situation makes
Robin
> weaker than Barry in their power position on a public board, and
> therefor subject to bullying?
> > ***I didn't say Robin was the weaker party---quite the contrary, who
> would you want watching your back on Safari?
> I would have to disagree. I would not remove Barry from the category
> of being a loyal friend. I can't relate to the manner in which he
goes
> after Robin, for example, but I understand the impulse. I often have
> the same impulses, but I guess I put a greater value on trying to find
> common ground, on trying to get along. I know that is how people
> coexist in a more harmonious fashion.
> >
> >
> > Posting here has an emotional learning curve.  You learn who
> to hang with and who to ignore. You are one of the good ones here.
> What I find unfortunate is that the rancor drives people away. I
> suppose Barry might say, "if you can't stand the heat............"
And
> of course that's true. And as Curtis has pointed out, there are so
many
> ways to make a point without unleashing both barrels. Like just
> remaining silent for example. But maybe that's where the glitch is.
> Feeling you need to blast, when there's no need to say anything. You
> know, the live and let live thing.
>
