Let not one reckless, lawless, brainless bully destroy the pristine, pious, puritan art of bullying that divine mother gangstas like me practice.
--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "Ravi Yogi" <raviyogi@...> wrote: > > Yeah, thanks Steve - today it's Barry, tomorrow it might be me. I think > bullies and the art of bullying needs to protected in its vicious, > raucous, boisterous purity.> > I protest this !!!!!!> > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "seventhray1" steve.sundur@ > wrote: > > > > > > I always enjoy your comments Bob. I am trying to sort things out. > > > > > Bullying is based on one party being weaker than another. > > > > > ***I know you're not so simple as to think this explains bullying. > If > > you used this explanation to explain bullying to a child, they might > be > > forgiven for concluding that bullying is done out of strength while > > resisting a bully is form of weakness (I know you don't think that). > We > > both know, if anything, bullying demonstrates a type of inadequacy > > (weakness) in the bully. > > > > So what. I think we're past the point of trying to modify behavior, > or > > get to the root cause of our behaviors. I mean, at the risk of > sounding > > arrogant, I'm not. It's something I think about every day. But for > the > > purposes of FFL, I think we can go with Curtis' definition. > > > > > I don't see how that applies here.  What situation makes > Robin > > weaker than Barry in their power position on a public board, and > > therefor subject to bullying? > > > ***I didn't say Robin was the weaker party---quite the contrary, who > > would you want watching your back on Safari? > > I would have to disagree. I would not remove Barry from the category > > of being a loyal friend. I can't relate to the manner in which he > goes > > after Robin, for example, but I understand the impulse. I often have > > the same impulses, but I guess I put a greater value on trying to find > > common ground, on trying to get along. I know that is how people > > coexist in a more harmonious fashion. > > > > > > > > > Posting here has an emotional learning curve.  You learn who > > to hang with and who to ignore. You are one of the good ones here. > > What I find unfortunate is that the rancor drives people away. I > > suppose Barry might say, "if you can't stand the heat............" > And > > of course that's true. And as Curtis has pointed out, there are so > many > > ways to make a point without unleashing both barrels. Like just > > remaining silent for example. But maybe that's where the glitch is. > > Feeling you need to blast, when there's no need to say anything. You > > know, the live and let live thing. > > >