Totally agree Grace, we are here to support and lend friendship not judge --- On Fri, 5/21/10, Grace M. <grace...@gmail.com> wrote:
From: Grace M. <grace...@gmail.com> Subject: Re: [TMIC] alive To: "Maggie" <magiema...@hotmail.com> Cc: tmic-list@eskimo.com Date: Friday, May 21, 2010, 10:21 AM All right. People who experience a life changing illness, do not all reach a point of acceptance at the same time. It is a process and there is no specific time limit or gauge that can determine when that time of acceptance will come. Asking for *understanding* does not mean that one is sitting on the pity pot. In defense of Jeron, I saw nothing in his initial post that indicated that he was looking for pity. On the contrary I saw a heartfelt post from someone who was looking for understanding from others who have been through the same experience. Just because you (Or I.) have come to a point of acceptance, does not give us the right to insinuate that someone else who is not at the same point in their journey, should be where we are---instead we should respond with mindful kindness. We don't all *get there* within the same time frame nor do we all take the same route. Your way is not better, nor is it lesser---it is all very individualized. The majority of people who responded to Jeron's post, did so with understanding and kindness. I would hope that we all continue to do so. Respectfully, Grace
