I'm also basically a lurker these days but a list member since 1994.  Also
had the great fortune to meet Lakuti along with Earl Gateshead and the
Flying/Plastic People crew in London 20 years ago -- and saw her play
at the Detroit Artist Test Lab during the festival last year.  (damn, that was
a Throw Down!)  She has listings on RA (so many!).

https://www.residentadvisor.net/dj/lakuti/dates?yr=2020

She has been a friend to so many, built so much along the way, opened
doors and kept them open.  I hope my good friend decides to stay on
313, but either way I honor the decision.

So here is what I have to say: this raises core questions about the
ongoing purpose of this list.  If we can't respect each other, why
should any of us continue to subscribe?

The 313 list has been a valued and even inspirational resource for me
for a quarter century.  It has persisted long after most of the other mid-1990s
mailing lists have faded away.  It has enabled lifetime friendships.

Interaction online exposes different viewpoints and that's actually
beneficial -- as long as we truly demonstrate respect for each other.
Without that, there is no reason to continue.

peace

fh





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>crikey . classic example of how not to built community .
>i am writing to you as a black african queer woman denise who has put a lot
>into supporting and nurturing a lot of djs and artists .
>and i continue to work hard to support communities within the global music
>network young and old often from marginalized communities who do not get a
>look in , in the current climate in electronic music but yeah carry on
>being tone deaf .
>my last word . thanks for everything to everyone else over the yrs .
>keep supporting music not egos .
>i am out of here .
>
>On Wed, 26 Feb 2020 at 18:52, Denise Dalphond <[email protected]>
>wrote:
>
>> Hey guys, I owe you nothing. You don’t have to like my communication. 
>> I’ll
>> take up as much space as I need. Most people expect women to be quiet. I’m
>> not. You can read my writing in some published books. It’s all on my
>> website, which is in my signature. Next up is an article on Detroit and
>> resistance in the first Oxford Handbook of Electronic Dance Music. It’s a
>> pretty big series.
>>
>> I’ve never unsubscribed. This is the 313 list, not the IDM list. It’s
>> pretty important. I used to never or rarely talk on this list. Now I speak
>> up more. It’s super patriarchal of everyone to gang up on the woman. Often,
>> I get private messages of support from subscribers when I speak up on this
>> list.
>>
>> I’ll email the 313 list any time I have something to contribute.
>>
>> Denise Dalphond
>>
>>
>>
>>
>>
>> On Wed, Feb 26, 2020 at 12:45 PM Joe Marougi <[email protected]> wrote:
>>
>>> Very well said.  What’s worse is the lack of remorse. Just empty
>>> “admissions of guilt”
>>>
>>> On Wed, Feb 26, 2020 at 9:42 AM Lerato Khathi <
>>> [email protected]> wrote:
>>>
>>>> i do not know you denise but i have been subscribed to this group for a
>>>> long time therefore i feel that i am a bit qualified to make a comment ..
>>>> i am a lurker and posted sometimes but only occasionally yrs back .
>>>> i do find though that your approach denise  can be very confrontational
>>>> and can often take up a lot of space . it often feels like the list is
>>>> dormant bar the denise show .
>>>> i am personally not gaining a lot from the list  compared to former
>>>> times and will need to unsubscribe shortly because i get no joy from these
>>>> occasional outbursts .
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>
>>>> On Wed, 26 Feb 2020 at 18:20, Denise Dalphond <[email protected]>
>>>> wrote:
>>>>
>>>>> Well, Kent, nobody knows who’s unsubbing except for you. So maybe it’s
>>>>> just your family.
>>>>>
>>>>> I wish I had money to go clubbing more often in Detroit. I wish I had a
>>>>> boyfriend to go clubbing with. But I’m pretty sure I never been wishin I
>>>>> was Black because then you have to suffer racism.
>>>>>
>>>>> I do love the internet though because I can follow Liquid Sky and other
>>>>> NYC 90s rave accounts on Instagram and see pics of clubs I used to go
>>>>> raving at in NYC in 1995-1999 when I was going to NYU. Like Twilo, I 
>>>>> forgot
>>>>> about Twilo. And Shelter. And Vinyl. And Roxy. I brought baby powder for
>>>>> the floor at the Roxy sometimes in my bright blue Adidas backpack, or my
>>>>> Lisa Frank backpack, cause I was a preppy raver. And the nights, like
>>>>> Konkrete Jungle.
>>>>>
>>>>> Too off topic? Too emotional? I’m so irrational.
>>>>>
>>>>> Denise Dalphond
>>>>>
>>>>>
>>>>>
>>>>>
>>>>>
>>>>> On Wed, Feb 26, 2020 at 12:10 PM kent williams <[email protected]>
>>>>> wrote:
>>>>>
>>>>>> The Tom Cox battles were epic, but at the same time, ultimately not
>>>>>> that great for the list.  Every time there's a big emotional flare-up on
>>>>>> 313 people unsubscribe; people I regard as essential members of the 
>>>>>> family.
>>>>>>
>>>>>> I'm all for people being opinionated, but it would be great if they
>>>>>> were more opinionated about music and less about each other.
>>>>>>
>>>>>>
>>>>>> On Wed, Feb 26, 2020 at 11:05 AM Denise Dalphond <
>>>>>> [email protected]> wrote:
>>>>>>
>>>>>>> I miss when Tom Cox was on the list. Maybe that’s because he never
>>>>>>> yelled at me. He was more like a mentor 2 me.
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>> You can read all about it in the archives. You can read messages from
>>>>>>> Dan Sicko, too. In the 313 list archives.
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>> Denise, the woman
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>> On Wed, Feb 26, 2020 at 11:56 AM Joe Marougi <[email protected]>
>>>>>>> wrote:
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>> That’s fine but why can’t folks tell “certain people” to chill 
>>>>>>>> the f
>>>>>>>> out?
>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>> Is it because she’s a woman, hates being white or wishes she was
>>>>>>>> black?
>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>> On Wed, Feb 26, 2020 at 8:48 AM kent williams <
>>>>>>>> [email protected]> wrote:
>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>> I generally just let the 313 list be. Frankly it's been moribund
>>>>>>>>> lately and probably has more subscribers outside of Detroit than 
>>>>>>>>> inside;
>>>>>>>>> the flavor is completely different than it was 20 years ago. And even
>>>>>>>>> typing "20 years ago" about a mailing list feels weird.
>>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>> I don't know what to think about the Derrick May beefing -- I'm not
>>>>>>>>> close enough to any of the principles in that fight to know what's 
>>>>>>>>> up.  I'd
>>>>>>>>> rather that the focus stay on music, and to my mind, it's been 30 
>>>>>>>>> years
>>>>>>>>> since Derrick May's really been musically relevant.
>>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>> There are loads of Detroit producers and DJs who are doing great
>>>>>>>>> things now, and I think we've all been remiss to not amplify those
>>>>>>>>> musicians.  There are vital new voices like Ash Lauryn, who deserve 
>>>>>>>>> more
>>>>>>>>> attention:
>>>>>>>>> https://undergroundandblack.com/
>>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>> And it's clear there's a lot of emotional upset and personal issues
>>>>>>>>> that have spilled onto the list.  I don't want to say that's not
>>>>>>>>> appropriate content, but it should be in the context that we're a 
>>>>>>>>> group of
>>>>>>>>> friends, widely dispersed geographically, with something in common.. 
>>>>>>>>> So keep
>>>>>>>>> in mind you're talking to a friend, and they deserve respect even if 
>>>>>>>>> you
>>>>>>>>> disagree with them.
>>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>> --
>>>>>>> Denise Dalphond, Ph. D.
>>>>>>> ethnomusicologist
>>>>>>> schoolcraftwax.work
>>>>>>>
>>>>>> --
>>>>> Denise Dalphond, Ph. D.
>>>>> ethnomusicologist
>>>>> schoolcraftwax.work
>>>>>
>>>>
>>>>
>>>> --
>>>>
>>>> Lerato Khathi
>>>> http://uzurirecordings.com
>>>> http://uzuriartistbookingsandmanagement.com
>>>> http://soundcloud.com/uzuri
>>>> Skype : Lakuti
>>>>
>>> --
>> Denise Dalphond, Ph. D.
>> ethnomusicologist
>> schoolcraftwax.work
>>
>
>
>--
>
>Lerato Khathi
>http://uzurirecordings.com
>http://uzuriartistbookingsandmanagement.com
>http://soundcloud.com/uzuri
>Skype : Lakuti
>

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